It's great to read a positive post about implant reconstruction. I have to decide between lumpectomy to both breasts or double mastectomy with immediate implant reconstruction. Both have their pros and cons and it's a very personal choice and one I want to be as informed as possible.
Apart from the more extensive surgery and possible complications my concern about implants was the feel of them afterwards as some posts I have read talk about them not feeling like part of you. I know they won't feel like your own breasts did because the sensation/feeling has gone but surely after a while they feel like yours but 'different'. Sorry to be so personal but I would really appreciate an honest answer from someone who has been through it and feels confident in a bikini again. The breast nurse described it as 'not giving you a new breast but a breast shape'.........honest but didn't fill me with positivity which is what I am trying to find right now. It's made me worry I would feel they had strapped two plastic bags to my chest that would never feel like 'me' .
i find myself here again after a turbulent 2 months where I have been in and out of hospital. The planned mastectomy and reconstruction went ok until 5 days after and I bent to pick up my laptop from my bed which was a bad move as I managed to tear my pectoral muscle on the left side resulting in a big bleed filling my drain, nearly passing out but calling an ambulance and my Husband then getting lifted out of my fourth floor window by a bunch of Dutch firemen and blue lighted to hospital. That meant my drains were in for 15 days.
I happily reached 5 weeks this week with my scabs coming off, I checked in with the docs on the healing process as I was concerned that the right side was looking weird and not closing properly. When I had a shower yesterday some more scab fell off leaving basically an open wound. Since it was quite a small area I called for Instructions as the Dutch docs say “water and air” religiously for healing. Next thing I know i’m back at the hospital for assessment and they pulled the rest of the scab off saying “we’ll try and close it again, it will probably be fine” they mentioned worst case they would have to remove the implant and put a tissue expander in to stretch the skin enough to close properly but “ it will probably be fine” . Within an hour i’m back in surgery and the last thing I said “I don’t want a tissue expander”. Guess what I woke up with!! 2 days before the end of my 6 weeks healing i’ve now got an improving left side and an almost completely flat right side and an additional 3 months added on to the end of what I am now calling my sentence when yesterday morning everything was going fine. So, i’m Having a bad day today. I dragged myself through from diagnosis to here- 8 months and now i’m struggling about how to get back on the horse for the next bit which will take my tally up to a year. After being adamant about what treatment I wanted in the end I have now found myself going through every surgical option! I remain grateful that this is all still in a preventative situation but wanted to share about complications as I don’t feel they make you aware enough. It’s super hard for a control freak like me not to be able to fix this for now, if anyone has similar experiences i’d Love to hear from you and how you dealt with the frustration. Thankyou
Good for you girl.Your positivity from your first to last post is quite atounding.
I opted for a mast over lumpectomy and rads, because the night before the op, I pinched in a 7cm sphere of flesh and it wouldn't have left me with much. I had to have mast on the other side a year later (non genetic), but am since part way through recon.
Have you decided what type of recon to have? Yet another decision!! I opted for "implant" as it doesn't involve extra scars and the extra infection risks of self tissue recon, and the results with the tear drop silicones are a lot more natural than the old silicones. Has it's downsides, not warm natural flesh and may need replacing within 15-20 yrs.
Good luck with it all, hope it goes well.
Keep us in touch with where you're up to.
Lotsa love, Delly xxxx
I was a 38C and had a mastectomy. It's actually fine and you don't look particularly lopsided in clothes afterwards. I went for a mastectomy because I didn't want to have to go bck for further surgery if the margins weren't clear; also my aunt has had breast cancer 4 times, so I just wanted as much breast tissue as possible removed!
They since found cancer in the other breast, so had another mastectomy and although I have prosthetic boobs I don;t wear them. If you go for no reconstruction there;s a group called flat friends who are very friendly and helpful.
All the best
Feeling incredibly stupid and not myself. Just joined and posted before getting my act together. Thinking about my bones and having read soo much stuff I confussed BC with a bone issue.
Reality will sink in and I am sure BC will be stamped in my brain in future.
Anyone else been diagnosed and has bone issues ie osteoporosis I would be pleased to hear from you.
Hello can someone tell me what BC stands for.
I have just been diagnosed and am in a simillar situation. Choosing between maesectomy only or wide local excision with radiotherapy. I have osteoporosis and am concerned about radio therapy but terrified by the thought of looking at myself after a maesectomy. I go back to the hospital next Monday to agree a way forward and am not naturally a good decision maker I am very scared. I do not want reconstruction but am self conscious and appearance conscious. I do not have a large bust 34 b . The osteoporosis scares me too. I have been told if I opt for maesectomy I shouldnt need any other treatment. I know many drugs have a detrimenatal l impact on bone density.
I love your approach. I have only just been diagnosed and am scheduled to have an MRI next week to discover the extent of the cancer. A mastectomy has already been mentioned. As I have lumps in both breasts, it is something I am seriously considering. Like someone else said, I don't want to have to go through all the tests and stress again.
Thanks again for the positive slant.
I have just decided to go for another reexcision as one margin from my original surgery was not clear enough. I was told that the guidelines state I should go for a mx but I am not ready for that. I have to have surgery anyway for an axillary clearance so I want to give it one more try. Maybe not the choice other people would make but it is the right choice for me at the moment. If I have to eventually have a mx then I know I did everything possible to avoid it. Its a difficult decision and not one that I wanted to make but my third surgery is booked for 10th Jan and I am hoping and praying that I have made the right choice. Good luck with whatever you decide.
I was offered a wide local excision with radiotherapy or a mastectomy. I went straight for the mastectomy without reconstruction. My aunt has had breast cancer 4 times, and although they haven't found a genetic cause, it does seem likely as there's also a great aunt who had ovarian. It's actually a good job I went for the mastectomy, because it was bigger than they had expected.
I couldn't face the thought of further operations if excision was incomplete. Also just having the rest of the breast there waiting...
I went for no reconstruction because I'm not particularly attached to my boobs, they are quite small, and I didn't want a looong operation. Also didn't want anything foreign in there which might make it harder to detect a recurrence.
A mastectomy is not that big an op without reconstruction - mine was a daycase! The op takes around 2 hours.
Tuns out I need chemo and radio anyway due to lymph node involvement.
Good luck whatever you decide!
Oh, and if you go for mastectomy without reconstruction, look into a group called flat friends, very helpful.