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[Duckcrazy61]

That’s good to hear. 

I empathise with your your difficult situation. Mum lives 85 miles away and I’m in the process of getting her moved nearer to me. This all seems to be happening now when I’m due to have surgery!

I saw the surgeon again yesterday. He came in announcing ‘good news’. It’s contained so just a lumpectomy with a couple of cautionary lymph nodes to be removed. I’ve got the date and feel very relieved.

I’m on letrozole for five years. The hot flushes aren’t too bad thankfully.

I’ll try and keep posting, although the next month may be quite hectic. Thanks again for your support

Duckcrazy 😀

[ladybowler]

DUckcrazy

I am well recovered, I finished active treatment in January 2017, am on Tamoxifen for 10 years, only 7.5 years to go :).

What you were saying to Kelly about having a notebook to write down positive thoughts, a friend of mine whilst she was going through her treatment would write down on a piece of paper lovely things that happened during a day or words that someone had said to her, she would put them in a jar and on her "bad days" would take them out and read them.  We were out for lunch one day and she wrote one there and then about our lovely lunch 🙂

We trundle on, unfortunately he is very stubborn so it is a battle with him at times to get him to acknowledge the need for help

xxxx

[Duckcrazy61]

Hi Helena

Thank you for your kind words. My first choice of name was Quackers but it was already taken!

I hope you have recovered well. It is good to hear from someone who is further down the line. When you’re this side of the line it’s more scary. You’re right about having the treatment plan in place. It will be a relief to know what’s going to happen and when.

I’m sorry to hear about your husband. What a dreadful time it must have been for you. I’m glad to hear that you have a good network of friends. As helpers, we probably don’t envisage being in these situations ourselves and it does feel very strange. However, I think I’m coming round to the idea already. Mainly because the worrying about it is very bad for me! People don’t usually offer to help unless they mean it genuinely. It is an overwhelming feeling.

I hope you continue to get the support you need for you and your husband. Hugs to you too 😀

[Duckcrazy61]

Hi Kelly

Sorry to hear about your diagnosis and subsequent surgery. It must have been devastating. You sound a positive lady and that goes a long way into aiding recovery. Of course you will have good and not so good times, it wouldn’t be normal to be happy and bouncy all the time! It sounds like you’ve got great support from your family and friends so make good use of them. Being a single parent is tough enough without this, however you will draw strength from your boys hopefully as well. I find sites like this invaluable as well. Although we are strangers, we have this bond and I think women are good at supporting each other at times like these. My son, who is well over the age of living at home, but still does, bought me a little journal to write good thoughts in. I love it and it’s surprising that some little thing can brighten your day. Stay positive and do whatever makes you feel good when you are down 😀

[Kelly73]

Hiya

I too had grade 2 lobular and had my mastectomy about 3 weeks ago.

Im due to start chemo week after next, followed by radiotherapy. 

Think this is due to having it in my lymph nodes too.

I am only 46, so pre menopausal but had to stop my pill straight away and will be going on hormone tablets once treatment is finished.

I am on my own with 2 sons, but have felt overwhelmed by the amount of family & friends offering support

I am determined to stay positive throughout this, but do appreciate I will have down days. 

Good luck with your op and treatment 

we’re all here to support each other 

[ladybowler]

Duckcrazy

Firstly love the avator name 🙂

Welcome to the forum and for sure you will get loads of help and support from the wonderful ladies on here who are going through or have been through the same as you.  We can all relate to the way you are feeling at the moment but onve you have your treatment plan in place things will improve because you will know what is happening and when, which I found reassuring when I was going through mine.

Mine was picked up through a routine 3 yearly mammo as well, didnt know anything about it, and it could have come at a worse time as my partner was diagnosed wtih MS the year before and became housebound just as I was about to have my op so he was not able to support me, but a wonderful network of friends just took over that role, for that I was eternally thankful., I did find it difficult to ask for help because I am a "helper" but realised that I needed it and it was well meant  I didnt actually join the forum until I was about to start my rads, so wish I had had the courage earlier to do it because the support I have had over the years from the ladies on here was and is incredible.

Sending you hugs

Helena xxx

[Duckcrazy61]

Hi Everyone

I was diagnosed with grade 2 invasive lobular cancer a couple of weeks ago. It was a shock as I wouldn’t have known if it hadn’t been picked up on mammogram. I’ve had very mixed emotions since but mainly anger due to the timing! (I have an elderly Mum with dementia) I started taking Letrozole immediately and had to stop HRT suddenly having been on it for ten years. The consequences are minor compared to the alternative. I had an MRI scan this week and have a results appointment next week to decided on dates for surgery and further treatment, probably radiotherapy. Not having been someone who ‘leans’ on people all my life, I think I will find it hard to ask for help and support. I have only told a few people and am already overwhelmed by their kindness and offers of help. I’m positive about the outcome but dark thoughts creep in fairly regularly. I try to keep distracted and find walking, being around nature, animals and taking up running (one of the maddest things I’ve ever done!) are helping. I’m lucky that I have a very supportive partner. I’m looking forward to talking to people here, to support where I can and be supported if needed.