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Tilmen
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Re: Telling parents

It must feel terrific to go through this, but I'm sure you'll heal. Delivering such bad news to those close to you can certainly be one of the hardest things I could've ever imagined. You can even consult with a therapist in this situation before you take any steps. A friend of mine who had to tell her parents that she had cancer was also very stressed about doing it. She was lucky that her parents were looked after by the people from myhometouch.com, helped her express herself and explain things in such a way as not to shock to them as much.

Viewpoint
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Re: Telling parents

Thank you Bish 

good thing to practice. I have a 45 minute drive there so that’ll be it. Other family will be there and they know so they can help. 

This is just another hurdle to get past I think! 

best wishes

 

Bish12
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Re: Telling parents

Hi

My parents are also in their 80s and like you I was worried about telling them at a stage when they were relying on me more and more. I practised what I would say a few times so I could manage to tell them without crying and tried to focus on the positive, they know what it's, the treatment is well tried and tested and this is what will be happening in the next few weeks. Then I talked about what it wouldn't mean in that I would still be there for them as I knew they would be for me. It went well until my Dad, who has dementia, said I don't really understand but I feel really sad now. Then we all had a cry.

In the following months we helped each other a lot, swapping stories of hospital appointments and walks around the block and enjoyed the time we had together. 

I will be thinking of you xx

 

 

Viewpoint
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Telling parents

Hi

i was diagnosed a few weeks ago with lobular breast cancer and got my treatment plan yesterday. I have told few people and tomorrow I need to tell my elderly parents, in their 80s and both with poor health.  How the flip do I do that. I am dreading it and considered not telling them but whilst their health isn’t great they are both mentally sound. They would be hurt if others knew and they didn’t. How do I find the right words. I find it so hard to tell anyone anyway. 

anyone any advice...

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