Welcome to the forum. Unfortunately It's a place where none of us want to be. However, we all support each other as much as possible, share tips, off load, etc.
You are at the most difficult stage, waiting for results and wondering what the next step will be. Once you have the treatment plan in place, things will feel a little better. Hopefully you will physically start to improve over the coming weeks. If you have chemo, then that, on average, starts about 6 weeks after surgery. Chemo will not be as bad as you think. If you have other conditions, they will take this into account and adjust your meds accordingly.
what we all want through this process, is to get our lives back on track and to be able to do the things that we've always done.....look after our kids, go to work etc.
Well, you will be able to do that again. It will just take a little time. I'm 2 years on from diagnosis, and I can do those things again.
give yourself a break and look after yourself. And ask for help when you need it......people will want to support you.