Know exactly how you feel. I too am desperate. I had batwing mammoplasty on 29th October and SNB where they removed 2 nodes. One was positive so I now have to wait until 29th November for axillary clearance and alsothey found some suspicious cells next to the tumour which they are also going to remove so the wound will be opened again when it is just healing. I am told it is stage 2 grade 2 and that it is early. How can it be early when it has already spread to lymph nodes. I am too strongly oestogen positive and HER neg. I feel like I am on death row and I am sorry not to be positive but I have tried and then something else happens to knock me down again
you are not alone! I had my mastectomy on the 26th October. A grade 2 measuring 4 cms. I have had the drains out but over the weekend seroma has formed. I couldn’t get up to the hospital Friday afternoon before the nurse went home so couldn’t get it looked at. I’ve got an appointment Monday afternoon where I’m hoping to hear what happens next. They had difficulty getting the lymph nodes so it feels really uncomfortable and the nerve pain is not good either! My hormone scores were high too. I’m actually fed up with people telling how well I look! How am I supposed to look? I won’t tell you not to stress because you will. It’s all such early days, everything happens relatively quickly so you don’t have time to get to grips with what’s going on. You’ve had the surgery, it’s out. The next bit is hopefully belt and braces.
All the best for the mastectomy, I had mine 4 weeks ago, told them no plans for reconstruction ever - they do a slightly different op if you tell them that in terms of not leaving spare skin etc. To some extent they can't give you a definite until they've removed all the lmph nodes and looked at them under the microscope.
I have to go back to get my lymph nodes out as some showed up on the sentinel node biopsy. The MDT give recommendations, but you can discuss stuff with them and uultimately it's up to you what you go with. You can ask them about risks and benefits for what they are recommending.
Hugs and hope you enjoy the wedding