newly diagnosed with 8 week old baby

[Nellie]

So sorry to hear your news. Just wanted to send you lots of love and hugs. Take care xx

[Mai7]

Hi emac, Im sorry to hear that you have all this to deal with at a time when you should be able to fully enjoy time with your baby.  You will find lots of support on here and you can join going through treatment threads once you have your treatment plan in place to connect with others going through the same.  I found this very supportive.  Like you, I had lymph node involvement and it is quite an anxious time.  I finished all active treatment in January and am feeling really well now.   Here is my blog for my full story which I hope helps a little:  http://lifeafterlola.blogspot.co.uk/

Best wishes. xxxx

[Dolly78]

I know exactly how you feel Emac I feel the same about my two children... It’s just not fair. I was really, really worried that my ct scan would show it had spread as I have multiple lymph node involvement but thankfully it was clear. I can remember saying to the breast nurse before I had the scan that I just want to be given a chance to beat this for my boys and see them grow up. Keep positive there is a good chance yours will be clear xxx

[emac]

thanks, im trying to keep positive. the hardest thing has been telling friends and family and dealing with their emotional responses. im  hoping the scan results wil be back by monday as im scared it has spread given the extensive lymph node involvement already 😞 i just dont want this to be a part of my childrens lives and thats what im most sad about 

[Bellas Mum]

Hi emac

What a rotten time for you when you have the emotions of having recently given birth to a premature baby who needs you. Have you spoken to your heath visitor? She may be able to support you in some way. There may also be access to funding which could pay for a nursery place for the little ones while you are having treatment. Worth a go.

Hope you get the the support you need. 

xx

[Dolly78]

Hi emac, I can just imagine how you are feeling right now. I am in a similar situation but with an 7 year old and a toddler. My cancer is lobular, estrogen positive with lymph node involvement. I haven’t actually been told the grade and stage but it’s pretty obvious it’s at 3 as it’s multifocal and extensive in my boob and in my nodes. I’ve had a CT and bone scan, which thankfully both come back clear. I had my first dose of chemotherapy last Monday. I can honestly say it wasn’t as bad as I thought it would be. Don’t get me wrong I felt crap for the first few days then a little less crap for the next couple of days but today I’m on day 10 and I feel pretty much normal. I was really worried how I’d cope with my toddler but with help from family and my husband the first week we got through it. I mainly felt like I had a massive hangover for the first two days then gradually felt better. The thing that I found the hardest was the steriods! They made me feel really agitated and my emotions where all over the place while I was on them. But I guess at least I’ll know to expect now. I am still struggling with it all and have good and bad days.. Last night I accidentally watched something on tv about breast cancer and then I felt awful for the rest of evening and all morning. This evening I’m feeling more positive again and have booked in to get my hair all chopped off Friday in preparation for the hair loss. Overall as time is going on I do feel better than I did now I’ve started treatment and a plan is in place. Sending you massive healing hugs xxx

[Jobey68]

Oh my love I'm so sorry your having to deal with this when you should be enjoying your little ones , I'm rarely shocked now by the things I hear but I've had to re read your post twice. One things for sure your babies will keep you occupied and with a good support network you will cope with it, you shouldn't have to be facing this but sadly we have no control over who this disease decides to visit next.

We do have ladies with young families on the forum and I see Helena has added the link for you, there will be plenty of support for you across all the threads so please ask anything you like and we will help you in every way we can Xx Jo 

[ladybowler]

emac

Oh my dear feel for you and we all understand that lost feeling, once everything is in place it will feel better as you know what is going to happen and when. 

Treatment for breast cancer is very good and there are lots of ladies on here, including myself although it was a different type of cancer, who have had their treatment and life is back to normal, albeit it a different type of normal.

Just keep coming on here whenever you want on this thread or the other whichever you want and you will get loads of help and support.

helena xxx

[emac]

thanks. just feeling a bit lost at present as its completely not how i envisaged my maternity leave being spent. 

I will have a look at the linkyou suggested. thank you

[ladybowler]

emac

Just wanted to say hello and welcome to the forum, although it is not a place that anyone of us would want to be. This is a scary time whilst you are waiting for your treatment plan to be put in place.

There is thread which is for younger women and families which you might want to post on as well to get support from them, but no matter where you post you will get loads of help and support from the wonderful ladies on here.  Here is the link to the thread:

https://forum.breastcancercare.org.uk/t5/Younger-women-and-families/bd-p/4449

Sending you hugs

Helena xx

[emac]

In shock after being diagnosed today with triple negative, grade 3, lymph node positive cancer. Had ultrasound today which showed glands in my armpit, neck and chest. I have a nearly 3 yr old and 8 week old baby who was born 5 weeks prematurely. Im having a PET CT tomorrow and seeing the oncologist next week to talk about chemotherapy before surgery. Everything is a bit surreal at the moment and all i can think about is how im going to get through chemo and further treatment while being a mummy to such little ones. Has anyone been in a similar boat?