Hi Evie-S
Well, this forum, and the Charity itself, is close to my heart. Many posters on the forum got me through some dark days, most of whom will have had no idea just how much they were ‘quietly’ supporting me with their posts, their knowledge, their experience. It is good to hear that you have experienced the same level of support.
I also learned a lot from posters who had a poor dx/outcome too, this forum comes with a lot of sadness but with grace and strength, at a desperate time in their lives, they were still prepared to engage, share and support others, quite some feat and how generous of heart, mind and spirit to spare their precious time. There are some names no longer here but I haven’t forgotten them or their user names.
As for anniversaries Evie-S, such an individual choice, I tend to deal with them quietly and privately, though very much aware as there is a build-up to them but once they have passed, I tend to feel so much better. I think your approach sounds good to me, own the moment but you also seem to have a super friend there, very in tune with you, hold onto that friend.
This year however, though I’m not Vegan, I made my first Vegan meal in honour of the plant which helped to get me this far, the Yew Tree (Taxus) as I had Docetaxel (and the Fec combo as Grade 3). It seemed like a good way to celebrate my 14th cancerversary at the time.
When looking to the future back then, if I dared, spontaneity took over from making plans but, over time, I can face making plans once again and now try to ALWAYS have ‘something to look forward to’ (borrowed with pride from Supervet), whether big or small, a film, a show, holiday etc, don’t put things off. One thing I have learned the most though is that simple pleasures are often the best.
Hope some of this helps Evie-S 😘
