Hi all, well few vinos on board tonight so apologies for any mushiness lol.
45 today and marks 10 year anniversary of that drafted lump, day I never thought ide see and touch wood things okay. Had lovely day and soooo spoilt rooted, lots of money for my USA hols, prosecco, wine, Cath kitson bag, echo dot... need to play with this, light up book lamp, glitter lava lamp, candles, pjs, make up, wine, chocs.... very lucky 😍😍😍😍. Head might hurt tomoz, shared a bottle wine with Mam and brother then me and Mam finished a bottle of prosecco and then more wine and prosecco.... damn diet....
lily, yours must be coming up and is your sons around now too???
well carol, my dad needed glasses after his op so you may just need different ops, but change of font is always good.
nicky hope your chilling or researching and having a rest in your week off treatment xx
Trying not to get hunk of interview until tomorrow when it's a week away as I am awful at them, plus my assistant finds out if got a job tomorrow elsewhere so will be chuffed and teary regardless. Oh god, I can't remember if I told you about the interview... so I was thinking hour maybe... oh no. They give a presentation to me and other candidates at8.45am, then a 2 hour exercise but no details, then lunchnwithbstaff, then interview, then if get passed this stage a second day of more in depth interviews.... eeekkkk...
rightnoff to slurp wine and have a late start for work tomorrow 😘😘😘😘😘😘. Love you all
Hi everyone, hope you had a nice weekend. Lisa is the interview coming up soon? Good luck and let us know how it goes. Believe in yourself and your skills will shine through. Carole that is a big font, you are always trying things out, so creative. I am so disappointed that your sight is worse since the op. Why is that? Is it because the catarct covered the blurred vision and now you don't ignore it thinking there is a reason for the lack of sharpness in your vision? Let us know how your check up goes. My mum says its a blue moon and if a clear sky we should see a full moon tonight and another one this month, which is unusual. Lucky you for being able to see them. I love the starry skies you see abroad. Oh boo disappointing about the clothes but something we all empathise with. It doesn't really matter unless it worries you x.
Nicky have you sorted yourself out following the trip. Also good luck with your appointment and the new plan going forward. I will be interested to hear about it and what their thoughts are and most importantly your thoughts. i think yuo could easily hold your own a bc debate with oncs these days. Hope it is positive and gives you a positive lift as you to start the next plan they have for you love Lily xx
I'm playing around with the font again as you can see lol. In fact my short sighted vision has become even worse since the cataract op, I'm having a check up on Monday so think I will need to ask. I cannot see anything now close up, whereas before I could.
Lisa, good luck with the interview when it comes and well done you for getting to the interview stage. You've been in your job a long time, but after all the recent upsets I think it is time to move on. Perhaps feeling down about work hasn't helped with your weight loss? Enjoy your weekend of Nashville lol.
Nicky, your description of swimming with GS takes me back to the days when I used to take my elder 2 swimming, how I managed with 2 I will never know. Later I went with YD, she also had swimming lessons but somehow never took to the water like her Brother and Sister did. We are lucky to have no light pollution here, so we often see planets, stars and satellites.
Lily, I have been to Montenegro, but in the days before the war in Yugoslavia. It was a lovely place and I would like to go back and see the changes. What did your GS pick for dinner tomorrow? Enjoy your day with your family.
Not much news from me, very quiet, did some clothes shopping yesterday and half my items have to be taken back. Too small I did start my gym sessions this week, only 1/2 an hour but boy did my muscles ache the day after. It's surprising how a few simple exercises can work the muscles.
Have a good weekend all, love Carole xx
Hi everyone,well a lot of messages to respond too this time. Lisa well done and good luck with the interview. That shows you have the skills and experience they are looking for. to fill the vacancy/role. I know you will be scared stiff but your long time in your old job should reassure you that you should feel confident on the day. Def take Nick's advice and look up on the internet. I did for every interview and one time got the exact one they used, so had time to think of a good response. I think what do you think you can bring to this role, is a common question. So look at their job spec and write little notes about which parts you have most experience in. For any you don't, you say well that was one of the things that attracted me to the job because its something I am interested in learning, should I be fotunate to be selected. Do background work on the company so you know exactly what they do and a few bits of info you can drop into conversations. Go get em tiger xx Carole I think its grand that you got to the big 60 depite everything and Carcassone sounds dreamy. Its on my list now. I want to go to Montenegro while on holiday as it sounds so exciting on the Bond films ha ha. maybe it will burst my bubble when I go there. I am seldom quiet, are you sure? Ha ha. I am pretty busy but fine.
Nicky I am quite disappointed to hear that about the Northern Lights but it still sounded like a fab trip and it would be Iceland I was most interested to see, as it sounds like stunning scenery and geographical sights. Well keep me posted on your treatment plan, as you find out more. Always glad to chat when you need to bounce ideas. Family never quite get it but then that's a good thing too as otherwise they would keep going on about it and sometimes you just want to forget the lot and just be a strong independent person who can do what the hell they like!!! I find I am much more likely to challenege something someone says than just be quiet and take it straight on the chin these days. Not sure if that is good or bad. Whose bufday is next? We had one of the little boys birthday today but I saw him yesterday to open his tower of presents. Then he has picked dinner for the weekend. Its so funny when the little ones pick what we all eat. I love it. Take care all love Lily xx
Well done Lisa getting that interview!!! It's a difficult process to get in front of someone so the fact you've been chosen is a great first step. I expect things have changed since you last went to one so check out any tips on the internet (where was that when you last needed to be interviewed ha ha) and big up your achievements. Make yourself stand out from the crowd. And if, for whatever reason, you don't get this job treat the process as a learning curve for the next interview. Good luck and we'll be right with you when you get the date etc.
Wel jel of your holiday to the sun (and possible snow - in NYC!)
Carole, Carcassonne sounds lovely and my parents, who've travelled a lot in France, have said how nice it is. A day by the Med must have been a real treat on your birthday. Sounds pretty bad weatherwise though where you live - hoping theres no real emergencies for people to deal with. We have a very small amount of localised flooding which means there's more cars going past our house at the busy times but nothing that's causing huge promblems, unlike other parts of the country. As to the Northern Lights you realise when you see them that all the glorious photos are done by super duper cameras on looooooooong exposures. They capture the whole night's sky rather than as the NL appear. In real life the NL appear as whiter colour and look sort of like a cloud that then moves, very slowly, and sometimes, very slowly, glows upwards. The photos etc capture all this movement as one image so it looks like the whole night sky is dancing. Having said that we were so pleased we saw them as, out of the 3 possible nights we could see them, ours was the only night they were visible. In fact my YD said that if you just stood back and looked at the night sky it was just as impressive as it was so beautiful seeing the stars so clearly as there was no light pollution.
Anyway, I'm enjoying a week away from all the hospital stuff this week and the first week I've had since pre-Christmas thats not been frantic. Went with ED and GS to his swimming 'lesson' yesterday which he absolutely loves. Funnily enough it's where ED did most of her swimming as it's being held at a local hotel/fitness centre that we used to be members of back in the day when I used to go to the gym. Deja vu.
Oops crashed me out.... so lots of dancing and giggles.
this weekend of to Manchester with parents and friend for a night in "Nashville", the following weekend 2 nights in Liverpool for the musical the band and the following weekend 2 nights in Liverpool for islands in the stream tribute night.....then 4 weeks to Florida and New York...
well, guess what I've gotten an interview for my first job I've applied for in 22 years. Awaiting the date and I don't know the salary yet but will be good experience, although made me quiver when she said it's an all day process... ide love to get it too 😍.
right off to bed, night xxxxx
Hi all, happy belated birthday carole but I did manage to send you a birthday wish on Facebook. Carcasscone looked lovely, I have a friend that holidays there for a short weekend and I think they have an annual big festival there too.
nicky, sorry about your bl**dy news, I know knowing you whilst worried will have done your respect he, I so admire your knowledge and challenge to get the best treatment xx holiday sounds lovely but tad chilly for me lol, oh and I'm with lily on the bus tour thing. Big hugs and hope the washing is done for now xx
lily, glad your all recovered, in time for half term? Lisbon sounds lovely I've looked at it a few times, only ever been to albuferia. I agree with the bus coach bit too lol.
well I've been a busy bee, trying to diet but gets lost at weekends and I'm heavier than ever. Friday I went for a spa Three hour night time treat with fizz from my friend and then a lovely meal in Keswick in the lakes, then up early morning for a trip to Carlisle for a work leaving do I organised as a lot of people are leaving. It
Hi ladies and thanks to all for my birthday wishes
Long absence from me, what with trips away and yes Lily, you are right it was a birthday with an 0 on the end (60!). Thankfully on the day of my birthday we had a let up in the rain, which has been pretty constant since the beginning of December, so we went to Narbonne and sat by the Mediterranean enjoying the sea air and warmth of the sun, it was delightful. We spent the late afternoon and evening in Carcassonne cite, the medieval ramparts, and had a fantastic meal in an olde world restaurant. It was a lovely day and so nice to see the sun. Since then, back to rain and grey gloom which is so depressing.
I would recommend both Narbonne and Carcassonne for a few days away. The old city of Narbonne has an amazing cathedral and the Canal de Midi runs through it and I think eventually it ends up at Bordeaux.
Nicky, it's a thumbs down for your latest results but, you are very knowledgeable and I am sure that both you and your new Onc will come up with a good plan. It sounds like there are some treatments still available to you, I hope nothing too nasty (side effect wise) and yet blasts the buggers. Your trip to Iceland sounds amazing, I am very jealous of you seeing the Northern Lights, I bet they were fantastic? Are they as good in real as they always look on TV? Standing around in the cold for so long would probably play me up so well done for doing it.
Lisa your photos of your decorated lounge look nice, I like how you've set the furniture isn't it nice when everything is spanking new? How are you, how is your diet going? I expect you will be getting excited planning your holiday for this year.
Lily you have been pretty quiet, hope you are not catching any more nasty bugs?
Some parts of the Dordogne are on flood alert, this morning I had the dentist and it was sad to see how so many fields along the way are under water. Not just a little bit either, there are plenty of "new" ponds and lakes.
That's all from me for now. Love Carole xx
To be honest from my experience last year when I was in the same position as now I'm not going to say what is going to happen (treatment-wise) until it does. The number of times I said 'this' was going to happen when it didnt and then explain why it hadn't drove me nuts - I mean to friends I see rather than on here. On here at least most ladies, especially SBC ladies, understand but friends and family, who have been lucky enough not to have BC, havent got a clue! I'll PM you if I feel I need to but know you have my back! And, don't worry, I'm exploring all avenues at the moment and making sure the MDT are doing so as well.
ps your mention of your holiday to Lisbon has reminded me that its a city I want to visit as well so we may fit in a mini break when I get a window in my treatment plan.
Hi everyone, how are you? Lisa, any more jobs on the horizon and did you hear anything about the one you mentioned? Good luck, keep looking. Carole how was your birthday? Hope you had lots of calls from family.
Nicky the trip sounded frustrating but fascinating so worth all the travel issues. I have vowed to never go in the winter from your account of long coach journeys but you had already sussed that! I bet the photos are amazing. As you say its a mixed bag on your results. have all the other liver lesions gone and just the one left? You have had such great progress but I guess that one is going to be the decider on your next treatment. What are your thoughts on what you would like them to offer? Although its daunting to start another chemo or treatment, I think that one that's grown again needs to be kicked up the backside. When you say its grown is it still quite small? Could it maybe be treated with radiotherapy or surgery if a single lesion? You mentioned a new onc as well. I hope you find a good ear to listen to you and as much support as you have had from previous ones. Are you thinking about the research trials at the Marsden or just seeking advice from them as a second opinion? You sound like you have been able to take this on board and move forward quite quickly to find an action plan but I know its not that easy and I hope it has not been a difficult time for you. Well done, you are amazing, always have been. Anyway I am here if you want to bounce any ideas off but you are far more knowlegeable than me on the latest drugs. Can I remind you that its a billion dollar industry so new drugs are always sitting in the wings waiting to come through, so you might use options up but they are replaced too with newer better ones. There is also the secret weapon, your GS who brings in the smiles, positivity and happiness, the most powerful weapon of all on your side. Keepp me posted about the appointment, always right there by your side love Lily xxx
A long time absent from me, not just because we went away for a few days but the catching up process afterwards.
A belated Big Happy Birthday from me Carole - I hope you day out was fab and you had a lovely lunch.
Lily - you must be fast approaching yours (and Lisa too)? As well as the half term which will be a welcome break from all the germs so it seems.
I did have the flu jab this year (or this 'season') but who knows if it is the right strain. Having had real flu (not just a bad cold) early last year I didn't want to risk it by not having it. A bad cold so far around Christmas but fingers crossed for nothing more serious for the rest of the winter.
Well a mixed bag with my results, still have a bloody liver lesion that is not playing ball and has increased in size - again (having shrunk on the last treatment). Back on the treadmill of working out what to do next but I have (as ever) got my game plan in place (after the initial knock back from these results) and have already put most of the questions and thoughts in place with the new oncologist. Not aiming to think much about it until my appointment next week when for the first time in ages I will drag OH along with me to back me up rather than because I need emotional support. Everything else shows as stable by the way - hence the mixed bag but the more worry is the more treatments I go through the less there are to use.
Anyway, onto more interesting items - our trip to Iceland!
YD and I went as OH was on a business trip to S America which although I'd like to go to I wasnt going to do it for just the few days he was there for, plus of course if my disease isnt stable I cant get travel insurance and I definitely wouldnt do that if travelling to the Americas.
So I winged it on and EHIC card plus general travel insurance which I know I can do in Europe.
It was snowing onthe day we were due to fly so this was annoying as we had a long delay getting there and an even longer delay once we got there waiting for our bags, which we stupidly had checked in, and eventually they didnt turn up until the following day. We were OK witht he few items we had in hand luggage but it could have been a disaster if we had booked to go on an excursion on our first day as we hadnt got suitably warm clothing. As it was we missed our first evenings meal and got to our hotel quite late. The next day we wandered around Reykjavik which, because of the snow, did look very pretty and was very cold! That night we went out on our Northern Lights tour and we were very lucky to see them. It did mean standing out in the middle of nowhere in the cold for hours but you have to do that to get away from the light pollution from the towns. A late arrival back at the hotel but we had had a good filling meal before we went so not an issue. Managed to oversleep the next morning, not surprisingly, but sorted ourselves out for our next tour of the waterfalls, geyers, national parks etc the following afternoon. The snow, which had fallen a bit more, was causing problems on the roads so it took a long time to get back (again!). The next day was our last day and we went to the Blue Lagoon en route to the airport - which had been suggested on TripAdvisor as it is quick to get from there afterwards to the airport. A lovely warm/hot experience with face masks and drinks included!
So ito sum up t was great, beautiful clear skies, fantastic photos, cold, beautiful scenery, very quiet, unusual landscape but don't go (Lily!) if you don't like coach travel as everything you should be seeing is quite a way from the cities however if you don't go out from the main city you wouldn't see anything!
Home of course to piles of washing then picking OH up from the same terminal as we had landed at 36 hours before and then do his washing - no wonder I've been busy. Plus friends visiting, and staying with, us over the weekend for a mutual friends 60th birthday which has meant no time for catching up on here. Phew, back to normal for a while at least.
Sorry if I've not caught up on any of your news and hoping you are all well.
Happy birthday for tomorrow Carole. Is it one with a zero on the end then, it sounded like a biggy from what you said. You have done incredibly well, after having so many issues in the early days and then finding you actually had a more complex type of bc than they had diagnosed. I remember it all and I for one am absolutely delighted that you and all of us are approaching later years, congratulations.Have a fab day, you deserved it. Love Lily xx
I haven't been to Portugal Lily but I've heard some places are lovely and it has almost year round sunshine. So enjoy. I can't belive you are not offered a flu jab with your job, what is the state coming to? Even Mr Ps employers have said they will cover the cost of one. It's not expensive, and might hold off some of those nasty bugs.
We're off to carcassonne tomorrow, an historical city in France I believe. Looking forward to having a nice meal out on my birthday - one I wish I wasn't having but inevitable, and I praise that I am still here 10 years on from what we all went through 😁.
So hope Nicky is having a great time in Iceland and all is well with everyone. Love Carole xx ☓
Hi everyone, how are you all? Lisa good luck with the applications. I am sure there is something nice out there waiting for you, even if you don't get the first one or two you see. You never know, you may be exactly what they are looking for. Well I live on sugar and carbs so that would be the worst diet in the world for me to try. Even though it would probably be the most effective one! I am just thinking about it at the moment as I have too many nice treats from Christmas and birthdays are approaching with more no doubt!
Carole hope your eye continues to improve. Lovely when you get such good effects from a procedure.No I don't qualify for a flu jab although they are under £10 if you want to buy one if I really did want one. my virus is just about gone, was rather persistent and had a high temperature with it. Strangely nobody at all caught it from me (that I saw around that time), despite me sneezing and coughing my head off. So at least I don't feel guilty, especially if the little ones were unwell. We booked our holiday and will be staying in Lisbon in a big hotel close to a lot of the places we want to visit and close to the nice shopping spots as we like to stroll around in the evenings while away. Victor has been busy booking seats to make sure his legs aren't squashed and fast track and anything else to make that part of the holiday go quicker. Has anyone stayed in the capital? Its really close to lovely beaches too if we want a day in the sand! I don't know about you but all your talk of trips has put me in a holiday mood, so I am hoping to do a small trip too. Nicky I will look forward to hearing about your exciting trip when you get back. I hope you manage to keep warm enough to be able to see everything you want to. Green with envy. Well better buzz off. love Lily xxx
Ouch lily that virus sounds awful, know that cough till your sick feeling, I've still got the cough but nothing near as bad. Carol glad your eye is healing.
not much to report here... I'm trying to count calories and done well during week but then wine and. Nibbles tonight grhh. The Keatonic diet sounds fab guy at work lost 2 stone in 8 weeks, but the lack of sugar and carbs gives me headaches. If I don't loose this week back to slimming world as hols end march but got 5 weekends busy before then eek.
work mad and merger won't happen till August but I'm thinking it's time for a change but very scary after 23 years but not much round here.... I've done my cv at last and I've applied for a job but it didn't advertise salary. It's and Admin manager at an engineering consultants and obviously with bnfl 20mins away it might work out well but I'm not sure I'll even get an interview cos jobs round here get 100s applicants but at least I've done it.
Nicky hope you're having fab time xxx
I hope you are feeling a bit better Lily your acidy cold sounds horrid. Do you get a flu jab every year for working in an environment that is high risk? I hope all the little people are not suffering it. I've heard parts of Portugal are lovely, but avoid the high tourist areas. Good luck with finding something.
Oh Nicky, Iceland, superb. I too would love a trip to Iceland but I would have to buy a whole new wardrobe to cope with the cold weather. Are you going to try and see the Northern Lights? It's on my wish list but goodness knows when I might get there.
In fact Mr P nearly booked us a 7 day cruise to see the Northern Lights, but there were no cruises in January (for my birthday).
I'm ok, but it changes on a day to day basis. The weather has improved a bit in the last couple of days so that helps. Sounds like we are all on a diet! I am 10 kilos more than pre-chemo so it would be nice to get at least half of that off. It's not easy though is it?
Eye was done last Friday so I'm putting in drops. I have a slight black eye but nothing as bad as the last time. I'm amazed at how bright everything looks when the sun is out.
Love Carole xxx
Hi everyone, how are you all? Lisa how did it go on Monday with the merger? I think its best to stick with what you know but still keep an eye out for an exciting new opportunity and then take it. Carole you better tell me what this ketogenic diet is then if its good. Although as I am typing I am pretty sure it will mean eating things I absolutely hate or giving up foods I would kill for ha ha. I have 4 meal replacement bars to try but I can't stick shakes so a bit limited. First of all I need to get serious and try properly. So until then I am carrying on as usual. I have been off work feeling really ill with a high temperature and didn't really know where I was, horrendous acid and a cough to match so had to sleep sitting upright or just sick. Just a virus cold but hit me hard for some reason.I'm thinking of buying shares in a tissue making company. Relieved to be on my way out of it and not encouraged by people telling me if I get the Australian flu I will be like that for 7 - 10 days
The dog has been very pleased to be able to sprawl across the bed next to me for days. I think she would live in there if given the chance. Carole you sounded a little low and I hope you are starting to brighten up as Nicky said as you think about some visits over here. You could always make some nice things for your GD - maybe a nice quilt or cover for when she gets into a bed or summer dresses if you can turn your hand to clothes? Get yourself busy with a project. Our little girl has dummies at night and they leave 3 in the cot so she can find one in any direction, if that is something they might like to try. The midwifes really encourage dummies now especially if breathing trouble as it keeps that airway open so a bit safer, especially for the wheezy ones. I'm sure they will work out what is best for him. Good luck.
Well I am as green as green hearing about all these trips. Iceland is somewhere I would like to visit too, what temperature would it be there at this time? How lovely to have a holiday with your daughter and then others to plan Lisa trips to Florida and New York, oh you are really getting to me with that. Look at the internal flights as our relatives use them to fly between the same 2 areas and they are very casual compared to the big airports. We have been invited to a wedding in the states too but its school time and even if I went unpaid I would only be allowed a really short trip and the thought of my air sickness twice close together is not making me want to try the trip. I thought about jumping out the plane flying back from New York as I felt so bad. Typical that I always seem to get bumpy flights compared to others. Wish I could travel around like all of you guys without any yukkiness. I am trying to book a holiday somewhere close though, so Europe. Thinking of Portugal. Anyone got advice where to stay if we want places to look round as well as a sunbathe? Better go as dog is pressuring me into letting it in our room! The eyes bore through you. Love Lily xx
Sorry you had a sad Christmas without Heidi, Carole and the dull and damp weather won’t have helped you I’m sure. You will miss her of course but her time had come and it was better she was out of pain and stress -personally I think we often treat our pets more kindly at the end of their lives than we do our old folk! On a happier note I hope the weather picks up and maybe there’s something you can put your mind to to keep you busy until the days become longer and warmer? A visit to the UK to see little miss maybe?
Well, GS has eventually got through the worst of his cold, having been prescribed steroids, as you mentioned Lily. Poor little lamb, and obviously some sleepless nights for his Mum and Dad as he wasn’t settled at all over the last week. Happy to report he’s back to his usual cheeky self with big smiles and laughs and sleeping much better. What ED and her OH hope is he might have ditched his dummy during this time at night as he didn’t need it to get back to sleep and that was something they were going to have to break the habit of as he was waking up when he dropped his dummy. Hmmmmmm, I have to remind ED that we had to do the same with her, she was sleeping a good 10 hours a night but I was getting up goodness knows how many times to put the bloody thing back in! So maybe they won’t have to do that but and he may have done it for himself now.
Lisa, hoping whatever is happening at work doesn’t impact you anymore but presumably very difficult to stay there when it’s not the same and also very difficult to move to another equal job? At least you’re always planning nice holidays with family and friends so there’s always something to look forward to 😊☀️
Talking of holidays YD and I are off to Iceland in a week or so, whilst OH is on a business trip elsewhere. We’ve always wanted to go so decided as a last minute. Brrrrrr, it would be nice to be going somewhere hot but as long as we are wrapped up it should be OK. After that, and depending on my results, OH and I will try to book something fairly soon but can’t really plan too much in advance until some stability is shown.
Have a good week all
Hi all, hope your all okay and everyone boding or recovered from damn bugs lol x
carole, hope the eye patch is holding up, must say you rock the eye patch look 😍. My dry January has disspareared due to family get together but starts again on Monday. A guy at work has done that diet and lost 2 stone in 8 weeks....
lily, I'm still at work but I'm not sure what to do at the moment, we are announcing our takeover or merger on Monday but to be honest the way we have treated our staff in this latest restructure has been so bad I have lost my love for the place after 22 years almost. Busy planning New York for 3 days after Florida and so excited but they are all leaving it for me to sort so feeling under pressure lol.
NIcky, let us know when results come in and it sounds like you've managed to have a nice Xmas despite dratted bug xxx
night all xx
Hi everyone how are you? Nicky I hope the colds are starting to improve at least and preferably have gone by now. Always a worry with the loittle ones I know. One of ours gets into trouble very easily with his asthma on top of any cold and needs steroids and treatments. When they are little though its just really hard to judge when to get a check and when its ok to sit it out. I hate the worry and hope it didn't go on for too many nights. I love the fact that your OH keeps on trying to buy the perfect gift, such perseverence shows great dedication. Sometimes I think men think in a completely different way and latch on to their last successful purchase and stick with that one. I chose a lot of my own as Victor does not take rejection nearly as well and looks so disappointed. I try to give him easy ideas but that still proves tricky!
Lisa how are you getting on at work now? Will you stick it out? Hope the house is more settled after all the work last year. I need some holiday ideas everyone. Summer hols so Europe and we like historic sights and places to walk to every day if possible.
Carole happy new year to you as well and hoping health issues settle down a little for you, after a very busy last year. Reading your words I can feel that blessed mammo, ouch! I can email wedding pics if you like yes, just send the address by pm. I was glad of a longer that usual break from work after such a busy December and I have tons of work to do as well. That's normal. Good job I am not clothes shopping in France then. I certainly would struggle to fit! It sounds like a quiet Christmas but hopefully the new year will bring trips to visit everyone and see how the children have all grown. Something to look forward to and plan. Beastly bad tempered nurse so I am glad you stood your ground. Upsetting though and i hope you are over it. Also that your eye is on the mend. Aye aye Captain Peacock No I haven't heard of that diet but clearly I should as definitely larger than I want to be. terrible lot of chocolate in the house though so I am delaying it.
Most of all Nicky let me know when you get your results and everything crossed as always for a good start to the year.
Happy New Year to all my buddy friends and I hope it is a good one for you all.
Lily I hope that you managed your vegging out time following your busy Christmas and the wedding, which sounds a lovely day by the way. I would also love to see some photos if you would like my email address PM me.
Lisa how is your tiredness now, did you manage to get some relaxing time before your return to work? I know what you mean about the dancing ache, I used to love dancing but these days I can’t do it without lots of painkillers before and after! It always gets me in the hips lol.
Nicky I’m so sorry that your GS is having difficulties with his breathing. Everyone I know in the UK has had, or has now this Australian flu type thing which seems to linger on for weeks unfortunately. Fingers, as always are crossed for good results for your scan. Mr P always struggles to know what to get and I am a difficult one to buy for as French clothes usually don’t fit (they’re built for very tiny, very slim petite women, of whom I am not) and when it comes to ornamental type things I am quite fussy.
We had a quiet Christmas, we all struggled a bit as it wasn’t the same without Heidi, but it was nice to spend some time together. YD was off on her travels to Prague on Boxing Day where she spent New Year. Mr P and myself were fed up with the weather, every day was extremely grey, wet and windy so not good for even going for a walk. Our village is deathly quiet at the best of times so we didn’t see anyone and video messaged to the UK children and grandchildren, which is not the same as a hug. Still that’s our life so we have to put up with it. I can’t believe how big GD is getting but she is still lovely and her chubby cheeks are a delight.
Yesterday I had a bad experience with a nurse who came to do a blood test. She couldn’t find the vein and got extremely cross so I refused to let her try the hand and then she demanded I pay her for her time and diesel. I refused, believing she was too inexperienced to take blood from a difficult patient – then she had the cheek to tell me it wasn’t her fault!!!! Anyway I stood my ground and wouldn’t pay her, so off she stormed in a huff. I was upset and angry about it all day believing it was my fault my veins are bad.
Tomorrow I will be pirate Jack for a few days again as I am having the other cataract done. I am not looking forward to this but I know it should be over in an hour or so. My mammogram results were echo but they had a struggle to flatten the boob enough being as it’s a reconstruction.
Lisa, you and I are both on diets. I am giving up alcohol (have managed 2 days so far) and am going to do my best to exercise more. Has anyone tried the ketogenic diet? I’m going to try to eat more fruit, I like the exotic fruits best like papaya and mango which are incredibly expensive here.
Well I had better get on, no good sitting here in my PJs when there are things to be done. So again, I wish you all a happy new year and thank you for your support. Love Carole xx
Well I’m getting over my cold, slowly, but unfortunately GS who caught it from me (and/or OH) is suffering a bit with his breathing. So yesterday morning was spent with ED (and GS) going to a Drs appt and helping her out. Hoping he had improved overnight but sounds like she will be back at the Drs today as he is still struggling and you don’t want to take any chances with a young baby. I’ve heard of so many people at the moment who have had a cold that lingers on so there seems to be quite a nasty strain doing the rounds - hope none of you got it over Christmas and if you’ve already been suffering that it clears up soon.
My poor OH, he does his best for presents and I tell him that if I wasn’t concerned how much he spends i would keep a lot of the things but I always like to get usage out of them so a top or similar that I’ll only wear the once in my mind has to go back! I also struggle with the positioning of my port which is a very noticeable lump on my chest (so annoyed that the surgeon didn’t position it better) so he tries to choose clothes that don’t have a V neck but the round necks can also cause a problem as they don’t always disguise this lump, depends on the fabric and the hang of it - so I do feel sorry for him. Never mind at least I get the vouchers to then spend on what I will wear the most or something I didn’t get but actually wanted! The last couple of years he’s got it pretty much spot on, just a size change maybe, but this year the only day he could get off to go out shopping he was suffering from this bad cold so I doubt if he was paying much attention!
Anyway, hope this wind and rain isn’t bothering any of you, I couldn’t get to sleep for ages last night as it was so windy and I always expect some sort of damage to be done that I might hear. Still blowing now as well so be careful out there as it seems to be affecting most of the country - hoping it’s not like this where you are Carole.
Hi Buddies, how are you all after the festivities? I love to watch the fireworks on tv too as quite amazing how they plan them all. We went to ed for the evening but left fairly soon after midnight as still recovering from Christmas and the wedding really. Lisa are you still eating left overs. How annoying when people don't think so they know whether they will attend or not. Carole how was your Christmas and New Year?
Nicky glad to hear you are out and about and busy, so nice to have this time when your days are more free and less needles, even better. I will keep everything crossed for you as always regarding the scan results. You haven't mentioned any difference since stopping chemo so that is surely a good sign and no reason to not enjoy this peaceful time plus grandson time. He must be doubling your happiness and smiles and you know the importance I place on them. Good luck. Dratted colds. I am sure the colds this/last year are the longest lasting ones ever. My sore throat came back 4 times which is really annoying in my job as uncomfortable. Even more annoying when it hits over Christmas, poor you x. However, bingo crackers sound fun, must look out for them next year. Lol every year you take all the presents back. Why doesn't he make you choose or give vouchers? He must have realised he is not too good at picking things ha ha poor chap. We are less than a week from the first birthday and no-one knows what to buy him as he had so many xmas pressies. Then we will soon be coming up to our birthday spell and the 10th year. Wishing you all the very best for this coming year love Lily xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Happy 2018 buddies.
A very long absence on my part due to just being busy, which is always a good reason.
Unfortunately OH managed to share his cold first with me, then I passed it on to little GS and I think YD now has it. Seems there’s a lot of it around as so many people have been saying they’ve had bad colds. So we started off the merry season with a meal at friends on the Friday (before Christmas) which was great fun as she’d provided some ‘bingo’ crackers so we enjoyed a laugh at that. Then a quiet day on Saturday and Sunday with me feeling a bit worse. Luckily we weren’t having our actual Christmas Day meal etc on 25th as YD was working ski managed to go to bed for a while in the afternoon whilst the rest of the family went out visiting relatives - apart from feeling pretty rubbish I didn’t want to spread my cold especially to OH’s parents who are a bit vulnerable at the moment. Managed to feel better later on and dosed myself up with medicine and paracetamol to enjoy the evening once YD was back from work. We had a nice time with ED, her OH and GS staying overnight. So our Christmas Day started for real on Boxing Day and we had a lovely time with all the usual food and wine. My parents joined us but luckily weren’t staying - I said we had Jesus syndrome - no room at the inn! This meant it was still relatively quiet the next day as well which suited us all as SIL was back at work as was YD. it was nice this year as OH took all the time off between Christmas and NY so we just had a few local walks and a few trips into the sales, mainly to do my annual present returns as he knows I’m always returning stuff! Yesterday was a trip up to London to a restaurant we had wanted to go to for ages and managed to book for lunch - we didn’t want to be in London when all the mayhem and crowds started. The meal was fab, just as we had hoped and we headed home around 4 and popped in to see ED and family once we got back home on the train before leaving them in peace and getting back to our house for a night chilling out. Saw in 2018 with the fireworks on tv and a glass of champagne 🍾 and then off to bed. Oh, forgot to say I had my CT scan in between Christmas and NY so the wait is on for results which I will try to not get anxious about until the actual appointment as there’s not much point stressing about it.
So my big catch up is done, hope you all had a wonderful time.
Ps I’ve edited this as I forgot to say that the wedding sounded wonderful Lily, I knew it was near Christmas time so it must have added even more to a special time of the year for your family. Even if a chipmunk made an unplanned appearance!🐿
Happy new year buddies and here's to a healthy one.
lily can't wait to see some chipmunk and wedding snaps. My sign of a good wedding is always a full dance floor but boy do I ache afterwards lol
well I was totally spoilt and spend most of my break in pjs and sleeping so need to sort that before work on Thursday lol. Went out with friends last night but it went from 9 of us to 3 which is so annoying shoeshine when ide bought lots of stuff as starting at mine first.
Hopemyouve all had had a lovely relaxing time filled with fun friends and family xxx diet commences on Thursday as I've hit m all time heaviest and nothing fits xxxx
Hi buddies, hope you had a lovely Christmas with lots of visits or phone calls and maybe some nice presents. Christmas was crazy here, so many people to lunch that we were literally sitting on anything high enough to reach one of 2 tables squashed in the dining room. Lots of fun but boy have I peeled a lot of spuds and the very horrible but compulsary brussels, yuk. The little ones all had a whole day together and they get on so well that its lovely to see them all grow up together. i always laugh at the bizarre presents that they find exciting when you might have spent a lot more on a present you thought they would like best! Boxing day was a little quiter with 12 less guests and diners than we had on Christmas day but still quite a bit to prepare. As usual the turkey went so quickly I was disappointed to not have more days to enjoy conjuring up dishes to eat it.
Christmas was of course overshadowed by the wedding. We officially closed Christmas at the end of Boxing day and went into a few mad days making sure everything was in place. Ed looked absolutely stunning and the groom cried more than anyone else. I don't cry at happy events so most shots I am grinning like a chipmunk!! The day went perfectly and the venue and staff were very attentive to make everything go smoothly and as planned. A guest said to me that was the only one they had ever been to where they felt full up after the wedding breakfast. I was pleased to hear that as I like guests to go home full. I hardly slept that night due to severe cramp fropm over dancing, for a change. All the family love dancing except Victor and we even got him out of his seat for a while. Such a lovely, lovely day to remember. I can't wait to see all the photos. Well except those with a chipmunk in ha ha. We all met up again tonight for a takeaway and chat over the day and demolished a lot of the chocolate wedding cake. Well we have seen off the overseas guest too this evening, who added to the chaos this year and now I can have the house back to normal and calm down again. A bit of vegging out on the sofa watching tv is definitely needed.Well hope your holiday spell was enjoyable too. Love Lily xx
Hi all, here's wishing you all a merry Xmas and a healthy 2018 xxx I'm just making lemon posset and shortbread whilst consuming prosecco and not sure how they will turn out. At Mam and dads for lunch which will be a quiet one for a change but visiting family and kids in morning so that will be fun.
Lily i get what you mean about the shops. I couldn't believe the date on the used by dates this year so I've done it last minute and I'll need major diet after this. Sounds like you've had your hands full to lol.
well bronchitis has eased off a bit and sunus jut starting but boy I'm tired. I was up till three am wrapping went to bed woke up at five and next thing I knew it was dinner time couldn't believe it ... and still tired.
well folks off for some more wrapping. Hope you have an amazing day. I've been a bit lacks on here of late due to being tired and lots of work issues but I really don't know what I wouldn't do without you all.
merry Xmas buddies xxxx
Happy Christmas to everyone. i hope you all get over your colds and other health issues to be able to enjoy a few days of too much food and nice presents. No the wedding is after Christmas so still on the build up. Its been very difficult to get things delivered that you could normally rely on. Victor suddenly remembered the white ribbons for the cars and luckily that has got here. I still have 2 Christmas presents missing, annoyingly. Almost all of our cards arrived today too. Not that so many people send them these days but I like to send cards to oldies who I don't see because they live furtehr away. otherwise you lose contact altogether. I have been wrapping some presents but still a lot left to do.
I had a big Tesco shop and was disappointed how many things were not delivered and so still had to go out in the manic supermarket this morninfor things we didn't have or that were sent to go out of date before Christmas day! I have been anjoying catching up on some oldies on the movies like Bridget Jones and today I watched Coyote Ugly and one of the Jurassic Park films. Victor came in and said are you watching this? I said yes I am. He said you aren't even in the room how can you be? I said I just come back in for my favourite bits ha ha! I love rewatching favourites but he can't stand watching them more than once. Well mum is being very difficult and I am frustrated as i have been putting myself out and lost count of how many people's presents I chose, bought, wrapped and delivered only to have that oldy give me another list of things to choose, buy, wrap and deliver back! I really didn't have spare time but twice took her to shops to buy every individual food item she wanted even though I am not eating there any days at all, then still got a moody reaction and made to feel I was a problem! Grrr. Right got that off my chest. Then visited another relative because she said she was lonely and she spent the whole time telling me she wished she was dead. What the heck is the matter with these old timers? I have no patience for self pity when you are lucky enough to reach such a ripe old age and still be able to make yourself a cup of tea and not have any money worries. My brother says they better mean it if anyone says it to him!!! Anyway that's my depressing bit done so I can enjoy the little ones excitement at the parcel mountain and sacks and I will even enjoy the cooking and clearing up. Then a bit of a rest before our very special day. Love to all you buddies. I hope that 2018 is a kind year to you all and also to anyone else reading our posts.I saw a post that had been viewed over 900 times so dear friends i hope its a kind year for you too. Love Lily xxxx
Wishing you all a very Merry Christmas as I'm sure I won't get on here for a day or so.
I'm also suffering with a sore throat and a bit of a cough, seems lots of people have gone down with some sort of cold recently - let's hope we're all getting over things and able to enjoy our time with family and friends.
Lily, I would imagine the wedding is today? Or maybe yesterday? Whichever it is, or if it's another date, I hope it goes beautifully and the whole family enjoy the celebration.
Hi all, my head is a shed lily, when is the wedding???
is everyone ready for Xmas? Can't believe the shops my head feet and back hurt after supermarket shopping today. Also hoping the last of my order should arrive tomorrow. I feel like I've been wrapping all week lol.
Bronchitis is easing off at last but boy I'm exhausted and feel like someone has stuffed cotton wool into my head and ears lol.
Hope everyone has a lovely Xmas and some extra special treats xxxxx
lots of love lisa x
Hi to everyone, old buddies and new.
I just want to wish you all a very Merry Christmas, enjoy your time with families and friends, watch the little ones opening pressies and generally have a great time.
Love to all, Carole xxx
Hi everyone. It is official there are not enough hours in each day!! I am running on full steam and little sleep and still feel like I am trading water. i think the 3 week cold slowed me up and now a lot of internet shopping is already saying it will arrive after Christmas. Work is crazy but such a lovely place to work at this time of year. Even the toughest cookies break out into a Christmas song or dance when you put the favourite songs on. Lots of goodwill around especially after the snow which they all loved. Some can hardly remember seeing enough to make a snowman and sing frozen haha. I got 2 days off work although I had actually driven there before the message came out. Curses. The back bedroom is filling up and difficult to open the door so I must be over half way with my shopping. Of course the wedding is keeping us insanely excited too. I think someone might be pouring prosecco in my coffee I am so excited. Bridey has caught a stomach bug though and shed even more weight and gone a bit too low into the 7s. YD and I are sick with jealousy and want to know why thin people get thinner. Is it like the saying that rich people get richer? We didn't want the bug of course, or her to have it either but she is super gamorous like a model at the moment. I wish! My nicely flared dress and hold everything in pants are expected to do the impossible for me lol. I have been adjusting mini suits as the boys are in suits and waistcoats with little shorts and ties. You could eat them, they are so cute. Then our little pink in her princess dress and little white shoes with daisies all over the straps and her fairy wand!!! Well I think she will be the show stopper. We just ahd bher birthday too so another celebration this weekend and lots of early presents and Pepper Pig cake.
So my apologies for not writing more. Lisa I hope the cold is starting to shift but the one I had was very persistent and kept coming back, so take care and hopefully it will pass quicker. Carole how many days until the family get back? Keep yourself busy planning food and maybe making some things for the freezer. You used to do some lovely needlework too. Anything on the go at the moment? Nicky lovely to have the new bigger family all round this year. How many presents did you buy him??? I bet you went as crazy as I do. Has anyone seen the lovely puddings that are around this year? I am going to struggle to decide which to buy. I got my turkey today and froze it. Pigs in blankets, christmas pud and cakes, stuffing, etc all stored away so far. Have a nice week everyone love Lily xx
Hi ladies and especially Carole, how is everyone doing?
I expect your days are still very empty at the moment Carole but I hope you will soon have YD and Mr P back with you as it's close to Christmas now. That will help I'm sure with trying to move on since poor Heidi went to the big dog playground in the sky. Let us know how things are when you want to, we're all thinking of you.
Lily - when does your school break up? I have no idea about the dates this year for our county but suddenly the Mums/Dads and children stop walking past our windows in the mornings and I realise the holidays have begun! Lisa, how are things at work still? Are you looking for another job at the moment or just sitting it out until something comes your way - like the job your friend has just snagged!
What is everone up to for Christmas this year? We of course have our new grandson who is developing into a lovely cheeky chappy, full of laughs and smiles which is so sweet. Obviously he won't know what it's all about this year but I think the twinkling lights on the tree could prove a bit of a distraction when he gets bored. We are having Christmas at home but a day late as YD is having to work on Christmas Day - that's the restaurant business for you! However it gives us an excuse to string it out for a couple of days rather than just one day and all it means is we've reversed the normal order of things for Chr Day and Boxing Day. I think I have all the pressies sorted - now just the wrapping to be done, and finish the decorating indoors. This hear I definitely have more energy, not being on chemo, and it's lovely not to be going to the hospital (pretty much every week on the last regime) and to try to forget the bloomin' C side of life - for a while at least.
Take care all - and welcome to optimissy who popped in to help Carole the other day - anyone is welcome - we just ramble on so feel free to join in.
Hi all, carole what a lovely photo xxx I know you will be totally lost xxx
m off to bed now, friend left work tonight after 15 years, we've worked together for last 2 been been good friends since she started so had a wee blurb but going to work at local hospice at home so what a fab job, head of income and marketing, bit jeleous lol.
well first day sick in years tomorrow from work but need a rest, thought my chest infection was back but worse as rattling and wheezing but turns out its bronchitis so got inhalerand no sleep lol xxx
night all xxx
Thanks for the welcome Peaock, My goodness, you have known each other a long time! I have had (and had put down) several cats since I lost my lab and as you say, it is still so hard when the time comes, especially when i have tended to have the elderly/ill/unwanted ones that had a poor prognosis and have therefore had fewer years with me before the end. Promised myself "A kitten next time" as was fed up with those horrible trips to the vet, but then I heard about this 8 year old cat that needed a home...... Well she's now 14 and still fit and well (touch wood). I promised myself a lab when I retired and duly put myself on the waiting list for the Labrador Rescue, had my home visit and interview, and sat back to wait and then 6 weeks later got my bc diagnosis so I put it all on hold till i knew what was what. Have recovered really well as I didn't need chemo, and really the only thing stopping me from going back on the list was the old "what if?" scenario, but that is daft, so now I've just had my first annual mammo that was clear so I need to get back in touch with the lab rescue.
I tend not to follow a particular thread, I just try to reassure newbies who have a simlar diagnosis and treatment plan to mine, but felt so sad when i saw your post about Heidi and that there were no replies to it at that point, and remembering how I felt, so popped into your lovely thread.
If I should be lucky enough to get a middle-aged lab (reasoning that eveyone wants puppies, but older dogs are harder to re-home) I will post a pic. Can't post one of my old lady as I had her in the days before digital cameras!
I suspect your cat will be missing Heidi, I think one of my cats at time, the one who used to shove her off her bed, was a bit confused for a while.
Thanks again. All the best. xxxxx
What a lovely couple of photos and I'm sure you will have loads more of them to keep Heidi's memory alive. Take each day as it comes and at least soon you will have family back with you so you're not dealing with all of this on your own. Oh, and we're here of course 😊
ps Jobey68 - are you following me ha ha? Noted another post on the secondaries forum giving advice then found you here! 😉
Carole I'm so sorry to hear you have lost your beloved dog, we lost our retriever at 9 and it's totally heart breaking , still cry for her now but it gets easier in time. We now have a bouncy 3 year old who we got soon after and it was totally the right thing to do especially as I was diagnosed with BC shortly afterwards , she really is our saving Grace! ❤️( her name is Gracie! ) Xx Jo
Hi everyone. Hi Op. Carole she looked adorable and such a big dog to hug and just her size will make you notice her loss more. i know you might not want to think about it for a while but I have always found that the best way for me every time was to have a new og to keep me busy. Do you think you could think about having another yet? I am going to ask Santa to bring you one. Hugs Lily xx
Thank you Optimissy and welcome to our thread. She was lovely, her presence is missed as she was my companion every day for 9 years. Loyal and always here for me. The loss will get better I know, I've been through this with 2 other dogs and a couple of cats, rats and guinea pigs I've had them all in one way or another. But, I think her loss is the worst. Like your lab, our cross lab loved cats and especially kittens. She adored and protected our last 🐈, who is 3 1/2 now. They shared her bed together so I think he may be missing her too, but you never know with felines. They are quite different! Do you have any pets now? If you want to, and can tell us a bit about yourself, we would love to hear what your journey has been. No pressure, we are an easy bunch to chat with. We have known each other on this thread for 9 years now.
It has helped me to talk about her here, I'm sorry if I have gone on too much.
So, what are you all up to? Busy Christmas shopping girls. I think I'm almost done now, just awaiting a couple of amazon deliveries.
Lily, when do you finish for Christmas? I know it is always a difficult time as busy with plays, nativity especially, discos etc. Lisa, how are you spending Christmas? Nicky do you go out for Christmas dinner or are you the chief cook this year?
Thank goodness for WhatsApp so we can video link with our children and grandchildren in UK. It's not the same though and if things were how I wish we would all be together.😕😑😐😯
Have a nice weekend everyone xxxx
Oh what a beauty. My old girl was a black lab too - well, a lab-cross rescue in fact, -but looked mainly like a lab. She had her own bean-bag, but then would be forced to move when boss cat joined her and wriggled about till she was pushed off her own bed. Also a terrible thief re food, which i think is genetic with labs.
You must miss her so much. xxxxxx
Another one so you can see her beautiful face this was taken in September either just before or just after the seizures started
Here she is, silly girl. laying in one of the cat beds!
Thank you all, I know we've all loved and lost a loyal pet. Dogs are such an important part of everyday life with walking and needing a fuss.
Oh Carole, that is so sad and I'm sorry I wasn't there for you. I know how it feels to lose one of our animal friends although a dog is more part of your life, and the way that you live it, than our lovely cats who passed away. It is even worse I think when you have to make the actual decision although in your heart of hearts you will know it was the right one to take. I have had to do it twice with elderly cats and it made me so sad even though I knew it was the right thing to do as they weren't going to make a recovery. Remember the happy times you shared and take time to grieve, it is like losing your best friend so it affects us all.
Thinking of you
Hi, oh no Carole that is so sad. I feel like Heidi has walked with us for a long time through our years of this illness. Obviously sent to look after you when everyone else was away. I think you are right about her health and that even if she had pulled through this time, she would have been straight into more and more serious fits and poor doggy not understanding what was happening to her. Lucky she had you, a kind owner to do the brave thing and put her first. What an empty hole they leave, our lovely pets. I am sorry I did not see this yesterday to reply sooner. Sending you big hugs. Love Lily xx
Thanks Lisa, I know you had to cope with the loss of your Robbie too. Lovely words, I've shared on FB. Xx
Oh Carole, I'm totally lost for words, so sorry I wasn't on last night as ide been away. So much harder when you are on your own too. I know she will be a major loss to you, but I'm sure you knew it was the right thing to do for her to end her pain poor thing, but like you said doesn't end yours. Sending you the biggest hugs possible at this awful time xxxxxxx
Such a loss . You know you did the right thing, but it doesn't make it any easier does it? I'm crying right now for you and also for my old girl, even though it was over 20 years ago when I had to make the same decision as you, after she had had 16 good years. I still miss her. So sorry for how you are feeling right now. xxxx
Thank you Optimissy for your kind thoughts and words.
The vet came this morning to put her to sleep. She was still un responsive and in a sort of coma.
I'm lost for words, just so devastated, she was my best friend, always here for me. Her pain has finished and she is sleeping peacefully now.
My pain however...............
Oh Peacock I've just seen your post - how dreadful for you, and being on your own at this sad time is the pits. It is so sad to see pets suffering and having to make "that" decision about when the time has come. I do hope she is better tomorrow, but it sounds like you are prepared for that brave step that all pet owners have to make at some point. Really sorry you are facing this on your own, but hugs to you from someone who knows what this sort of situation is like. xxx