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Darling buddies from May - moving on

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Lily, for once I have a few moments in the morning to log on! It is very tiring I can tell you that - although of course I don’t need to tell you, you went through it as well. My Mum lives about 20 mins drive away which is quite an easy drive but going up and back each day adds to the tiredness, and that’s before the weather starts to close in! Because I stayed there pretty permanently the first 3-4 days after it happened I really have strong feelings that I don’t want to be suckered into agreeing to stay there on and off, from now on! Between my brothers and I we are managing although I’m taking the brunt of the day to day stuff and endless phone calls. My Mum is very with it mentally but her bad cold and just the sudden death seems to have turned her into early stage dementia! And I know what that’s like as my FIL has it. So it’s constant repeating of things and trying to find where she put somedocumwnts etc. Sounds like I’m being very cruel but I am aware how it is taking it’s toll and I know I have to setup back a bit, if only to get her to not rely on me so much but to get in touch with some of her relatives who I’m sure will be more than willing to help. Added to the fact we can’t even arrange the cremation yet due to the repatriation it is dragging on so much. A funeral service would give some point of reference for us all to grieve and meet with everyone affected by my Dads death in one place. As it is I think it’s at least another 2 weeks away! Sorry for the moaning it’s good to spill it out to someone not affected by this.

I’ll be back in touch again soon

Nicky xx

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Hi Nicky, I just wanted to see how you are. It must be really busy organising everything and helping to support your mum. I remember hardly having time to actually think about my own grief until long after the event as mum was so very needy. So take care of yourself too. Hope you manage a bit of relaxation over the weekend with the birthday events. Thinking of you. Love Lily xxx

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Oh Nicky its just grim isn't it? I can still remember the day I got that call and not in any kind of calm way either, just mania and you hope you will wake up and find its not actually true. I used to say to people I lost more than my dad when he died because I instantly lost my mum too and had to become her mum and be there every minute possible, she was so needy and didn't know anything at all about her own finances. Glad to hear that the tour company have been supportive. Love your sense of humour. Can I add we better remind each other not to go to Spain as a destination when we get further down the track, clearly dodgy! Getting a cold on top is pants and bloody unfair. Take care of yourself as stress will be high for a while. Have you had your flu jab yet? Good idea to take a step outside the firing line and enjoy OH s birthday. Also it will help long term as your brothers will get involved more and stay involved so you don't take it all on as well as letting them feel like they have done something to help, which is important too. Get them involved as much as poss to lighten/share the emotional and physical load. Once again sending hugs love Lily xxx

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Oh Nicky, apart from my very best wishes and condolences I just don't know what to say. How awful for your Mum and for you all.

Lots of hugs from across the water. Love Carole xx

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Thanks Lily

My Dad also died  in Spain and even worse it was at the airport just as they were going to the gate! This made it even more difficult for my Mum as ‘being airside’ meant she didn’t have the Saga holiday rep there to help so was basically on her own and there was a lot of paperwork and hanging around to deal with before she could get back to the other side of passport control where the rep was and get that support. Anyway the holiday insurance company have been excellent and have dealt with all of the official bits including the repatriation. As our family has quite a dry sense of humour we have said that if you’re going to use any travel company and insurance when you’re in your 80s you’d use Saga as they must be very used to these situations 😉

Anyway it is quite exhausting both mentally and physically plus 8 have picked up the cold that my Mum brought back from Spain (and my Dad had, which could have been a contributing factor) so I’m not feeling 100%. However it was OHs birthday yesterday and we are sticking with our weekend celebration as my brothers are stepping in to help Mum. Will be in touch and hope all you ladies are doing OK.

Nicky xx

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Dear Nicky, I am sorry to read this sad news. It must have been a terrible shock for your poor mum and then all of you as you heard the news. So unexpected.  I will be thinking of you at this very sad time. It sounds very like my dad who died In Spain while on holiday with my mum and it made a difficult situation so very much more difficult as there are a large number of legal and medical things to sort out and she was there on her own. If I can be of any help with any part please just ask or pm me as I may have dealt with the same thing. We found people were very kind and I hope you are finding supportive people too as you deal with getting him home. Sending you a big hug and lots of love Lily xx

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Just a very quick post from me to explain my absence. After all these years of saying how bad the health of my in laws is and how my parents seem fine my Dad sadly died unexpectedly last week. It has been a complete shock to the family, and of course my Mum who I have been supporting. Although she lives fairly locally it is still taking up a huge amount of my time, in fact all of it, looking after her and dealing with all the paperwork. To add to the complications it happened just as they were returning from holiday so we have the whole repatriation to deal with as well.

I will be back in touch at some point but probably only once things have calmed down a bit and I have more time.

Nicky xx

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Hi all, yipppeeeee nicky, what amazing news so happy for you and your family, that's such good news, get another holiday booked 😎✈️😜.

 

lily, anything booked for half term? We have just booked a week in Tenerife and the start of November so coming around fast.

 

went to see kylie last week in Liverpool, wasn't so keen but she was really good and enjoyed it and then comedy night sat gone and then this weekend weekend in Manchester and Blackpool for rugby final and a country night in Nashville. So diet is going to take a hammering. Lost 1stone 4lb in 5 weeks but will be a gain this week as been so naughty grhhh....

 

carol, so sorry about your mum but in a way may give you some comfort that she's been looked after better.  Hope you aren't going to be too lonely xxx

 

well of to do the dishes rock and roll life lol 👍😀

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Hi everyone. Nicky its was only when I read your post that I realised I hadn't actually replied to your last one??? Not sure how that happened. Fantastic news. I am pleased for you and thank you for letting me know. I would definitely have run out of that door quick too. Your family must be so pleased too for you to have a more settled spell after so many big treatments and procedures. I am smiling while typing, I am so very pleased to hear your good news.Maybe a few trips can be planned then 🙂

Carole sorry I hadn't replied to you either! Such mixed emotions when they move out, I know them well. Secretly hoping my son will be around for a while yet, whilst saving to get on the property market one day. Your daughter has done very well and I guess her own place is the next natural step for her. I am sure you will still see and hear a lot from her. Is is driveable to her place? Did you watch the run? It always makes me emotional seeing them run with my name on their back. I think it helps them to do something positive too. Such a good cause to help.  I can feel your anguish about your mum going into a nursing home but hopefully it will mean you and the family can have a little peace of mind knowing someone is there for her and she is being well looked after. No bed bugs there, I am sure. I hated that story and how unfair it was for her to have to endure it. Lisa are you still working hard with the new organisation? Take care all Love Lily xx

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Again, a very quick post from me whilst I have a quiet moment on a Sunday evening with our grandson fast asleep upstairs. His mum has had to work at a trade fair this weekend and his dad is currently in the nights section of his shift pattern so it has been up to us, and his other grandparents to help out. Fingers crossed we have a good night  as he’s been a little bit clingy today.

A yeah, I will read posts and catch up in the week but just wanted to all to know that my latest scan report was good, all stable nd presumably no evidence of mets in the liver still. I say ‘presumably’ because my previous onc used to show me my scan picture and let me read the report so I knew everything however the new one just told me it was good and to continue with the current treatment. I was too relieved to ask to see anything so I left without knowing the exact details and also to get out of there fast in case he changed his mind! So, this gives me another 3 months until the next scan on what I would call a very unintrusive treatment which is a welcome relief after all the recent years of chemo. Less hospital visits and blood tests as well which is an added bonus - I’m making the most of it!

Hope you all had a good weekend and have a good week.

Nicky xx

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Yes the mornings and evenings are definitely chillier now, we've had some nice sunny days though but not in the high 30s like through the summer.   We still haven't had rain so I'm still watering pots and some plants. It's crazy, having had so much rain in the Spring for the last 3 months we've had none.

 

Lily yes I do still have dexa scans, and mammograms once a year. I'm booked into have an injection in my back on 25 Oct. We don't know if it will help but worth a try.

 

Nicky the part of Italy you mention is not where we went last year, and it sounds interesting.  Sometimes it is nice to see parts of places where the tourists generally don't go.   Have you caught up with your washing yet?

 

YD is in Italy at the moment, taking a well deserved holiday after all her studies.   She is moving into her own flat by the end of the month.   It's 45 mins away so at least not too far to visit her.   She had a telephone interview last week, they wanted to conduct a face to face interview tomorrow, which sadly YD can't do because she won't be in France.   It's a job being an English teaching assistant so the school hours would be nice and could give her the chance to be working on her own business she will try to set up.   We will see, she hasn't really been looking for work too much because of being away this month.

 

Yesterday YD and some friends ran a 5 km track in aid of breast cancer.   Quite a feat for her as she doesn't really like exercise - she takes after me lol.   They (all the runners) raised 45,000 euros so not bad.

 

I'm home alone now for 3 weeks, so apart from the dogs and cats it's quite strange to be alone again! I don't like it but needs must.

 

Mum will be moving into a nursing home (out of independant living care). The social team decided it was time.   I feel sad that Mum has come to this, but we all have to get old and she has done so well until about 4 years ago.

 

That's about all from me for now.   Love Carole xx

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A quick update from me as we on,y got back yesterday afternoon from our holiday to Puglia in Italy. We had a lovely time and it is a totally different part of Italy to the ones we have visited before. It isn’t so touristy, unlike the Lakes, Rome, Venice etc. but has some really beautiful towns which we enjoyed visiting. The countryside is also completely different as it’s very southerly so a bit more like Malta with palm trees, cactus etc and then huge areas of Olive trees as it produces most of Italy’s olive oil. Very relaxing as we didn’t have any particular agenda other than to visit the towns that we knew about. We stayed in 3 different places so we could explore the areas around them without travelling too far each day. The weather was so hot when we got there last weekend but got cooler as the week went on. Always bright sunshine with fabulous blue skies and the Adriatic was incredibly blue and clear. It didn’t get as cool as it is here in the evenings but there was a chill, especially towards the end of the weeks and when it was a bit more breezy. 

Anyway, back to reality as I have a pile of washing, need the heating on in the evening and have to get my scan results later this week. Oh the joys! Will catch up later with your posts and news but thought I’d quickly post whilst I had a few minutes.

Nicky xx

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Hi everyone, hope you are having a good weekend. It was so warm here I went out without a coat and was still warm. Hope it lasts. Heating on in the evening though as the temp seems to really drop. I received one of those horrible envelopes with NHS on the front today, those ones we all got too many of. I am being called for another dexa scan, does anyone else still get called for them? Just curious as i was not expecting it and cannot remember when the last was. Lily xx

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Hi buddies, how are things with you all? I hate these chillier mornings, bring back the sunshine. I would always rather be hot than cold. Carole glad mum didn't have sepsis. She is amazing isn't she, 92! Mum is the same doing so well for her age but driving me insane at times. Do you think we will end up that way! How is your back? Nicky I will enjoy hearing about your Italian travels, have a lovely time. Not sure when you planned to go.  Lisa how is the diet going? I just hate them and want to press a button and be exactly how I want!! Now the person who manages that will be a millionaire. I have no will power at present so not even trying to be good. probably not the best idea with another wedding next year.  Must buzz off today but talk soon love Lily xx

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Hi all, happy weekend, I so love weekends, today is a pj day doing some housework and prepping some meals . Thanks for your support but I'm fine, think I know who the person is and it's their issue, not a very nice person so I'll be smiling so sweetly and be extra nice lol.

 

carole, so glad your mum hasn't got sepsis I watched my uncle with that and it was awful. Hope you have a lovely video call, how lovely. Think you've probably done right re the op for you right now.

 

lily, yes it is lovely but I hardly notice the lakes which I must change, your OH is right, it always rains 🤣😂. Love rugby but the legs are just an added bonus lol. Diet going okay another 3lb so that's 11 in 2 weeks so hoping to hit my stone next week, few things coming up so want to have a good few weeks and actually enjoying it, but tonight is wine night and fake KFC so happy days. Good luck in your shoe.

 

nicky, hope you're off on hols soon, can't wait to hear all about it so love Italy, I really want to go to Rome 👍. I'm with you on the food shopping, my parents go nearly every day, I go as little as I can hate it lol.

 

Well of to make some food, wish me luck x happy weekend all, just want it to last a bit longer x

 

 

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Happy weekend everyone

 

Hate mail, why do people have to be so horrid? It's usually centred around jealousy so I would agree with Lily. How is the weight loss? 

 

Nicky you are in Italy? How lovely I did enjoy what we managed to see but there is still a lot we didn't see, so a trip back one day I think to revisit.

 

Lily, good luck with whatever plant you show at the horticultural show. I know what you mean about watering, we have had to it lots, then we stopped for a few days now our forecast is for the upper 20s for the next week so I'll be back to watering as Mr P is away.  You had a hangover?   Still as long as you had a nice day/evening, did you see a show?

 

I'm pleased to say Mum doesn't have sepsis after all, so they stopped the ABs and will no doubt be sending her home. I think these hospital visits are going to become more and more frequent.   She hasn't listened to any earlier advice about letting the Carers help her with walking, showering, letting them heat her food in the microwave etc. etc.   So what can we do!   Absolutely nothing. Even with dementia she is a stubborn old mule who will be 92 next month!

 

Our little GD is 1 year old today.   So I'm going to do a video call.   She is nearly walking but just not quite yet.

 

On that note, better get some breakfast before calling. Have a nice weekend everyone xxxx

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Hi everyone, how are you. I love friday evenings, end of the week and no work for a few days. They wizz by too fast though. I have a lot to do this weekend as it is my horticultural society show and I am an official. Been in the garden tonight trying to find things that look well enough to enter. Terrible year for the plants, especially as I refused to waste water to save them. Still very dry down here with little rain. I was in London last weekend and stayed over, which was a nice change except my hangover took out most of the next day. Never again! I rarely drink and it seems to hit me harder because my tolerance is pathetic. I had a very nice time on that evening though lol. 

Lisa what a shock to have hate mail after the first nice one. Some people are just poos, there is nothing better to say about them. Don't take it to heart, you know its just jealousy as Nick says. Must be someone who you got promoted above but thought they should have got the job. Not sure yet about Barcelona, it is the trip we lost but a lot on with family so will be a last minute deal again if it happens. Its a cheap city to visit when i looked at prices of flights and hotels. You like your rugby don't you? I have only watched family playing so just school stuff. Do you go for the game or the legs ha ha. Funnily enough my son was in your area doing via ferrata recently. He came back telling us we had to move up there because he loved the scenery. OH said there's a reason they have so many lakes, it rains a lot !!! Ha ha. Bit far to drive to work each day for me too. Would love to meet you and Carole one day. Just need the kids to drive a bit further when we holiday in the UK. Think its 5 - 6 hours drive from us. I am not hooked on bake off and first dates yet but watch them occasionally. Like first dates so probably need to series record it so I don't miss it. We have been hooked on bodyguard and I watched 90 day fiance once and now watch every series. I can't believe how gullible some of them are. Good luck with the diet. Its really annoying when money needs to be stretched for nice trips. Hope you get to do all you want to do. How is mum now?

Carole I was very sorry to hear mum has sepsis as I know it can be life threatening. Please keep us posted and i hope she can fight her way through it. So diffcult the dementia thing as you want them around but the outlook is bleak when they get to a certain point and suffering for families can be tough. Hugs. My oldy with dementia fell asleep after putting the oven on so I am left wondering what to do for the best. No fire but there was smoke and the fire alaram went off and the care company rang through to check he was ok. The news on your back was not good either. i hope the jabs work but consider how long they can hold it off as it would be safer to have it done before damage more severe and painful. What a recovery time!! Sounds daunting but maybe easier to cope with now than when 10 or 20 years older? Good luck with the injections. Your daughter did so well, congrats. The G P sounds exciting. Victor would love it. Are we all heading for Barcelona?   Nick are you making plans to look around a lot on your trip to Italy or is it a more relaxing holiday? Weather should be warm but cool enough to get some walks in. Always lots of hills and things to climb up in Italy. Yes I love the autumn leaves and colours but hoping it will not arrive too soon. i am still hoping for more sun. This weekend is supposed to be good. Carole and I would definitely say stay out of the inlaw trouble because one set is tough and it comes to most of us in time. Enjoy yours being ok and well.  Better buzz off as I am hoping for a good sleep after nights of insomnia. love Lily xx

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Hi all, I'll try not to make another mammoth post but it's not going to be easy.

 

Mum is back in hospital with Sepsis.   She lasted around 2 1/2 weeks back at home, was so confused that she didn't know where she was. The nurse diagnosed a urine infection last week and apparently she has been on anti biotics but kept telling me she hadn't had any.   She made up stories about the Carers not going into her etc. etc.   It is very difficult to know when she is lying, but apparently that is part of dementia.  My sister was away on holiday for 2 weeks, my brother was left in charge and according to mum he never visited her when in fact he did.   I phoned every day and tried to keep the conversation light.   She was admitted on Wednesday, the day my sister returned from holiday.   She is not on iv ABs so will possibly not keep her for long.   We all think she needs more care as it seems the dementia is getting the better of her.  She still doesn't eat, barely drinks and there is nothing anyone can do, it's like self harm!

 

On my front, I had the MRI and long back xray.   The neuro surgeon wants to operate, using a frame rods and pins around the vertabrae and then decompress the trapped nerve along with fusion.   I am not going to have this surgery, it involves (along with the risks of the surgery) a long recovery of about 3 months needing

someone to be at home all the time as no driving, no passenger, no bending, no lifting, no dog walking and more.   It's impossible to recover for that length of time as you know, Mr P is frequently away.  So I am going for the option first of anti inflammatory/steroid injections to see if that will help.   It's better than the other option.

 

YD has found a flat she will be moving about mid October.  It's about 45 mins away so not too far and whilst she is setting up her business she will get some help from the Government as they're trying to encourage young graduates to start up self employment.   I forgot to mention that she passed with Honours her Masters degree so we had a small celebration for her.   We are extremely proud parents.

 

The weather was really hot and sunny, until yesterday and so now feels very autumnal.   We desperately need some rain which has been forecast but hasn't appeared.

 

I'm excited because next May we are having a little holiday in Barcelona, and we are going to the Grand Prix.    Can't wait for that Smiley Very Happy

 

I'm sorry it has been all about me girls, I will try to catch up or at least keep up with your news.

 

Love to all and take care Carole xx

 

 

 

 

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Lisa, well done you for all the positive feedback about the work you are doing. Ignore the troll, they obviously have jealousy issues if everyone else can compliment you.  Good idea to be aware of who it might be, but we kniow you won't stoop to their low level.  Yes, we went to Bologna about 5 years ago and thought it was fabulous.  A very underrated city which also means its not too touristy either.  We are going right down into the heel part of Italy which is meant to be very untouristy but still a few beautiful places to visit.  Some have renetly been on the Jamie does Italy programme (or whatever its actualy called) and it has really made us look forward to it even more.  It is our anniversary whilst away so we are treating ourselves to a few nice places to stay in and keeping fingers crossed for the continued good weather they are having. Am also into Bake Off, its such a great format to watch and the new team are doing a great job taking over from Mel and Sue.  A more interesting bunch of bakes as well this year.  It's happened before where one year they haven't been quite so interesting to watch.  Not into any other reality shows but of course will be tuned into Strictly when it starts for real in a couple of weeks.

Lily, was Barcelona your cancelled trip? I hope you get to go on it this time and get to see all the sights you had booked before.  If you are going in the half term I expect it will be perfect weather for it.

Carole, how are things with you?  What's the weather been like?  After such a hot summer I expect you are looking forward to autumn kicking in with cooler nights and sunny days.  I love autumn, partly as its when our anniversary is and we always take a holiday then when all the crowds have gone.  But we love walking in the countryside around this time of the year, not too hot, not too muddy and the trees are often looking so pretty as the leaves turn.  

Hoping to get out a bit more this year as last year we were helping a lot with new born GS and of course there's the continuing saga of what to do with the In Laws (none of the 5 siblings seem to be able to discuss this properly so it drags on and on).  This takes up time from our weekends as OH inevitably makes sure he visits them each weekend as they still live at home and its never a short trip even though they live relatively nearby.  TBH I don't always go as my idea of a weekend is to keep out of supermarkets and not traipse around following them as they are not quick on their feet any more.  Sounds very harsh I know but I really don't want to go supermarket shopping unless I have to, and even then I always go on my own and in the week.  I still don't know why the siblings havent organised a regular online shop so they only have to go out for a couple of things rather than a weekends worth.  I am also sure I will have to be helping out more as the time goes on with my own parents who, touchwood, are very capable at the moment but it's only a matter of time before I have to do the same with them, which is one reason why I don't get involved with any decisions etc for my in laws.  Sorry, enough moaning.

Have a good weekend

Nicky xx

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Hi all, loving the long posts, I need to try and get on more and post more often.

 

good to see everyone is busy... nicky 1 year old how fab and a nice celebration on all counts xx oh I'm so jeleous of you going to Italy, think I'm having withdrawals from Italy, have you been to Bologna before it was lovely. It's been years since I was in London, last time was a flying visit for a conference.

 

lily, Barcelona is on my list too... how's it being back at school, count down to the next break? I'm sure you do an amazing job looking after everyone, I don't know how you have time.  Are you planning on a trip to the lakes if so let me know we can meet up. I live about 30mins from the lakes, to be honest take it for granted too much. I'm into bake off and tonight tried first dates hotel which was a giggle.

 

carole, seen some pics on Facebook and looks like you have lovely time with family. God news about your scan if you know what I mean and fingers crossed no operation needed. Lovely news about your cat, pets are like family.

 

Well not much to report here, bit of a mixed bag. Loving work and after my lovely comments someone sent in some anon. Feedback on our structure and made it really personal about me and it was really nasty so been a bit upset, but new head on, it's their issue not mine so I'm over it but will keep an eye on my list of prime suspects.

 

diet week 1 equals 8 lb loss but it just doesn't last, my willpower fades. Money's a bit tight at the moment so no holidays booked. Almost 3 weeks next may just with Mam and dad, they want to go back to Florida but I'm hoping to squeeze a nice day trip in somewhere different. Have a weekend in Manchester for the rugby in October and this group we have seen which is country modern playing all sorts is on in Blackpool on the way back. Seen them twice in other places and I'm hooked, although not hooked on Blackpool it's been around 15 years since I've been but it was handy on the way back. I think though could have gone abroad by the time work it all out... I'm going to have to save hard as my friend wants a possible few days abroad so I won't be able to say no, when I could do with one now. 

 

Thats all from me for now, try and keep up a bit more. Night xx

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Hi, you are right Nick, mammoth posts, including yours 🙂 . Fab. I will try to respond to as much as I can remember! Lisa I'm glad we kept you busy on the long train journey. I think this new very busy job is just what you needed to keep you busy and give you a new challenge. I hope it goes really well, you deserve it. It should present much better career opporunities being a bigger concern. Although it sounds like you currently have a lot to tax your brain, but all in time. What a lovely thing they do to recognise good work and send gifts. I wish! Still, beaming parents and pupils was good too. How is it all going with your friend's wedding plans? Such fun but busy. Well good luck with dropping some weight. You are usually very successful when you put your mind to it and start, so I believe you can make a difference. Good luck and be good!  My yd is the same after being asked to be bridesmaid again, as she will be one of 4 and all the others are very small. She looks fab but I guess it is how you feel about yourself. Lisbon is only hilly if you want to climb up to the castle. Greek islands were much more of a climb. Pretty flat and we were right in the city centre. Not that it is really anything like a city over here. So much quieter. 

Carole thank you for the info about respite care, I had not hear about going to A & E. I was offered it on the phone by SS. I am over that now as I realised they were most concerned about me not being there and told me I was doing a good job. Its upsetting though. I didn't realise that Brexit would mean that kind of information verification, I hope that is not the case. Isn't your daughter a translator? Or does it have to have legal signatures? Sorry to hera about the disc trouble, which sounds teribly painful. Poor you. Keep us posted how you get on. Also about your cat. We are all animal lovers on here. Any news about your mum? You didn't really make me feel good about respite care from her experience. My trees are a ginko biloba an acacia pravissima and a purple mist. Plus a few that I have not got labels for. I belong to the local horticultural society and show 3 times a year. i am reall getting into it since joining the committee and have to help with all the awards and prize money each time. Nick I agree August was the longest ever and I appreciated it very much. Unfortunately it has gone now. I haven't been to Poole, would you recommnd a trip there? WE are visiting UK cities too. I fancy flying into Edinburgh and must get up to the Lakes again one year. has anyone ever been to Tommy's pub. i would like to revisit Angie's roots one day to think of her. I can hardly believe your little chap is going to be one. Can I be a know it all and remind you that I told you that you would be holding a grabndchild one day, when you were in a bad place. Dr Lily can see these things. I wasn't fake to make you feel better. Maybe I come from a line of witches, mainy moons ago!  Anyway I will stop boasting and say you really deserved this because you put up with a lot of treatment nd procedures. You should write your story to help others believe. Italy sounds fab, can I come? Will you go over to Sicily? Lt me know how it is, as it may very well have to go on my list. Everything crossed for your scan as always. Keep me posted. Congrats on his 1st birthday xx

We are maybe going to Barcelona. Not completely clear yet as so much going on. At least this time we would be in footy season and I would love to see Barcelona play if the timing is right. Being back at work is pants and i seem to be behind with everything already. How did that happen? Lisa will understand that one. Take care all my dear friends. Love Lily xxxxxxxxxxxx

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Wnat lovely long posts to read. I’m sure it’s the same with all of you as it is with me in the summer months, we don’t get enough time to post on here whereas in the colder months I seem to have more time and type a bit more. It’s nice to have a good catch up.

I expect you are back at school Lily. For some reason this year August seemed to last forever and I couldn’t quite believe it only ended on Friday. Maybe it’s because we have done more this year, other years we tend to be mainly at home and avoid staying away due to higher prices etc. This year we went to Poole, and yes, it was a manic with the Ringwood area roads as you remember Carole, and last weekend went up to London for a nights stay. Just chilling and going out to a nice restaurant as a treat. The weather was fab, not too hot, nice and sunny in the daytime.  OH had a meeting up there on the Friday afternoon so I took myself off shopping, or attempting to shop as I didn’t manage to get anything but it was nice to mooch around. We walked through some of the parks on Saturday morning and around Covent Garden which was nice although it got a lot busier as the day went on, and then back home. I hope you were able to pack as much into August as I was Lily, I expect you were busy with the grandchildren but it would have been nice to spend time with them all. We have been looking after our GS a few times, with a few more to come which is down to another wedding that ED and SIL are going to and also an exhibition that ED now needs to attend over a weekend (when SIL is working) so we still get to see him a lot even though he is now at a childminder 3 days a week and ED is back at work. He is now walking and babbling away saying recognisable ‘words’ (ie clear to us what he is pointing out but not an obvious word in most cases). He is celebrating his first birthday at the end of the week and I can’t believe that it has been a year since he was born - and that I’m still here and healthy enough to enjoy it!

Lisa, a lovely long post from you as well, maybe you should take some train journeys more often 😂😂. Well done you for working so hard and getting recognised for the work you do, plus of course your promotion 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 Have you got any other holidays booked, other than the family Florida one? You normally do or have tickets for something which is great to have some nice treats to look forward to. We are off to Italy later this month as we try to always do something for our anniversary and is a nice time to get away. The crowds have all gone, or at least got smaller, and the weather particularly in Europe is still really nice. We’re gping to a region of Italy we’ve never been to before, right down in the heel and it looks lovely, not as touristy as other parts so we will be enjoying just being there with no great sights to visit, just coming across them on our days out.

Carole, it sounds lovely that you had the family over and time with your GD. I think most of Europe was boiling hot this year so none of you would have got away from it. It’s good that it’s cooling down now,  it’s for you and for us in the UK. I love these sunny days but cooler nights, so at least we can get a better nights sleep. How are the dogs? And I hope your cat is feeling better now. It is always difficult when they show their age which sometimes we the owners have to make decisions we don’t want to. However it sounds like for now that has been put off.

Well, other than what I’ve mentioned already I’ve not been up to much. It has been great to be away from the hospital so much this year. The past 4 years have involved regular visits to either see the oncologist or to have IV treatment so to be away for so long has been bliss.  However that all changes this week with my injections due, but luckily they are just that, injections and not IV. Then CT scan next week so another trip up to the hospital but I’ll wait until I get back from holiday before I get the results as they probably won’t be reported on before I go away and I’m not going to stress myself out waiting for the morning or phoning up on the off chance. 

Have a good week all

Nicky xx

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Hi all, I'm around although time has flown by since I last posted.   I'll try to catch up on your news first as I feel my news will turn into an epic post lol.

 

Lily you asked if you would have to pay for respite care: I don't think so if someone at the  hospital (if he went to A & E) assesses him and thinks it would do everyone good.  There are specialist places I believe that are designed just for that, respite. How awful that someone would try to drop you in it with SS. It sounds a good plan to tell Victor the new trees are for him.  What trees are they? I think it is lovely that you have little trips out with your Mum, I'm sure she appreciates it.   Where are you thinking of for your next break?  How lovely for your students to get such good results, all credit to their teacher Smiley Very Happy

 

Nicky I know the Poole area quite well as we used to live around 40 mins.   That Ringwood Road used to be a nightmare so I don't know if it is still the same.   I'm dead jealous you get to see GS and babysit .  Take care though when you are lifting it sounds as if he is getting big. Sorry you did'nt get an ice cream.   So, you are planning a break too, where? May I ask??  

 

Lisa nice to hear you are keeping busy, being chief bridesmaid comes with big responsibilities. Well done and congratulations for being the winner and having all your hard work appreciated.   What with the wedding next year and the holiday planning, don't overdo it especially with winter coming.

 

I had a smashing week with Son and GS and GD. The weather was wonderful for them, if a tad too hot but they were in the pool every day and Son and GS went kayaking along the Dordogne. The rest of the time was fairly quiet for them.  I made the most of looking after GD when they wanted to go out for a while and so I topped up on all my cuddles.

 

All in all we've had about 9 weeks of weather much too hot and no, or little rain so the garden is dead and watering had to be done.   The day after son went back it changed, was much cooler and cloudy.   Now it's just up and down.  When the sun is out it's hot but we also have chilly nights and mornings and when it's cloudy not so hot.   I suppose it is nearly Autumn.   Most of the trees here are going brown through lack of water.

 

The IBS is a bit up and down. Last week I saw the dr for my back pain  and problems.  She has suggested surgery as the discs L5S1 are slipping so bouncing around on the nerve.   Next week I am seeing a neurosurgeon, having an MRI and more xrays so I will see what he suggests.  I don't really fancy surgery so hope he can give an anti inflammatory/steroid first to see if that helps.

 

Yesterday I had a thoracic scan for pain on the right side of chest and an increase in my coughing. It came back showing damage from radiotherapy but at least that's better than what it might have been.

 

Still on the medical front, Mum has spent a few weeks in the respite/rehab centre. She's supposed to have had physio and I am disgusted that today they have sent her home. She hasn't (or wouldn't) walk without supervision using a zimmer, and yet they've sent her home.   She's been told she MUST call for help using her alarm system if she needs the toilet (they have given her a commode), especially during the night.  Her care plan has been upped, she's meant to have 4 visits each day by carers along with help for her medication.   I don't think this is going to work somehow the care home she is in are not really there to help with medical needs as it is "assisted living".   However it seems it has got to the point where she can't (or won't) do anything for herself anymore. The assessment said she will have more physio at home but as she is not really medically unwell they say there are lots of elderly people far worse off than her.   Probably true. I hope she will start to try and walk otherwise she will sit in her chair all day. 

 

Still talking about medical things - the evening before last our 15 year old cat could not support his weight.  He could lay, but was crying - I honestly thought he had had a stroke.   So yesterday a trip to the vet thinking the worse, but the vet seems to think it's a trapped nerve in his back. He gave him a painkilling injection and a prescription for tramadol.   Today Finn is feisty and cross because he wants to go out and mustn't for a week!   I'm relieved I didn't lose him, he is my baby but I know that time will come sooner than later.

 

On top of all that, I am suffering from Brexit anxiety!   Obviously for us living in France we just don't know how it will affect us and if rumours are true we will have to apply for a residents card in order to continue living here.   There are many problems it seems with getting interviews to apply for this card and it would mean having to have things like birth certificates, marriage certificates, even divorce certificates translated which is going to cost quite a bit people are saying to apply with all the translations it could run into a thousand euros!   Just something else to aggravate my IBS Smiley Sad

 

On that note I better go before I lose battery.   Take care everyone and sorry for the epic post xxxx

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Hi all, well I'm on train at this early hour one of 3 trains and 20mins walk or taxi for me in between then another taxi so thought I would finally post. Soz haven't been around it's been manic. We've become a subsidiary of another organisation which is around 50 times out size so me and interim M.D. been heavily involved as lots of governance and legal arrangements but it's done and whilst it's been rough upsetting and tough jobs are secured for 3 years and lots of money to upgrade our houses which is fab for our tenants. It was an emotional week for me... 2e arranged little gifts from staff from the parent company so we all got a voucher foe 25 quid and a mug and chocs. Then we had a board meeting and the day after I received a thank of them of 25 voucher some chocs and fizz and lovely note... then 2 days after I received a letter at home from the parent CEO saying they could nominate someone to review an award in their organisation which employs 5000 staff and she nominated me with 100 quid gidt you hers so been a tad emotional. Plus restructure and I'm being promoted lol.. it's all go and I've worked my butt off but nice to be recognised.... still talking about role as it's governance and legal manager and I'm not 100% on the legal side...

Rest of my life has been spent with my friend whose getting married ... boy she's obsessed and doesn't work so lots of free time my what's app is going bonkers but she's finally got her dress but I'm so struggling I've gained so much weight and she's wanting to buy now and I can't for into anything. I've ordered some.online so can try on at home and yet to go into shop to try but wanting to loose some weight as I've just been having to much junk food and snacks whilst working so slimming world rejoin on Thursday wish me luck.

So sorry hard to catch up on phone can only see last 2 messages... Sounds like a journey and a half Nicky but also sounds like you've had fun bit ready for a rest when handed back.

Lily is this your last week off? Sure you've had a lovely break? Did you enjoy Lisbon? Looks lovely but I'm not sure looks a bit hilly foe me lol.
Oh p.s. love bacholer and bacholerette but Thu k I've seen latest and completed all blue bloods too... Oh and blind spot which was good but now onto Australia Masterchef and bake off started last night... Not that I need to be watching food shows lol but easy to watch whilst doing other things lol.

Carol how are you and how's your weather. Hopefully better than here.

Also been busy booking Florida for next year again but a quiet one and the day after friends wedding lol. Was hoping for California Vegas and L.A. but my dad doesn't like change lol. It's his 7pth and their golden wedding next year so need to get thinking.

Have nice day... I'm getting ready for 4 mins spirit across platforms ekk

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Hi lovely ladies, hope you are ok. I think this is my favourite time of year being paid and not actually going to work ha ha. Of course we don't really get paid or it, they just even out our 12 salaries so people can pay bills and survive. I still like it and it drives my young inlaws crazy. Anyone who steps into a secondary school these days needs a big rest, to keep them chirpy and calm and patient and cheerful. I think primary teachers get more exhausted from the time commitments than us but in secondary I think you tend to get more mental pressure than physical. Just my view. Its been a very good day with the school doing well and my lovely class coming in to collect their results. The new level 9 gives them such a positive shot of energy that you ould almost laugh or cry when they look at the numbers. I had a lot of my tutor group with cheshire cat grins or emotional as they saw the big run of grades. They did really well, all at their own levels, all different.  Made me and their parents proud. Lots of hugs for me, so a lovely day. Hope anyone reading had  good day for their family too, getting results. Such a big high or low when it goes wrong, sadly.

Carole how is mum after the falls?  BTW the diet is fodmap, look it up.YD says its helping her ibs a lot, when she sticks to it. When being the important word here.  Lisa how did the merger go? Will there be much of a difference for you? I am hoping they fill the place with nice chaps for you, preferably not pigeon collectors ha ha.

Nicky I am enjoying hearing about you enjoying this summer. What a great time after all you were brave enough to put yourself through! Quite a list of procedures for one person too. Well it sounds like gs will be a lovely tall man one day with a dad so tall. Yes being heavy to carry, is the downside. I noticed a big difference between my son and my girls and encouraged him to walk asap. Mind you boys run off a lot so I would stick with him being happy in a lightweight buggy as long as possible. Boys are happy to let you shop  if they have enough food to keep them busy. i found girls want things and boys want food more.Our little chap (1st) is now 6 inches taller than me and the same size as smaller men. I swear he grows every day he is going up so fast. He asks me why I am so little! I say well I am not going to grow any more now, probably shrink and become a garden gnome!  He is doing really well t school, getting awards each year for academic achievement so hopefully this will open many career doors for him. He has made some gcse options but is another, I have no idea what I want to do person. When they are good at absolutely everything you just don't know which way to advise them to go, if they are not sure. Nicky the drive sounded horrible. Where is the next trip? I am planning one too. Hugs Lily xx

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Good to hear from everyone even though we all seem to be busy.

I have been looking after GS a bit more than usual as ED and SIL were at a wedding at theend of last week and both playing key supporting roles as well as ED doing the bridal party makeup. So we had our gorgeous GS for 2 nights plus the day in between and a final morning before handing him over to his parents on Saturday lunchtime.  It is lovely spending time with him but boy is it exhausting! And he is a heavy lad being already over the tope percentile for height which in turn means he's heavy for his age (although completely in proportion - as is his dad who is about 6ft 5 so we know who to 'blame'!). It really does my back in carrying him so can't wait until he can stand better on his own and walk, although then I'll be bending down holding his hands to stop him falling over!

We were returning him to where his parents where they stayed overnight after the wedding and as we know the bride and groom we were invited to the post wedding day BBQ. Only trouble was that it was in Poole, in August, in the final week of the school holidays so you can imagine the traffic problems we had.  The drive took over twice as long as it should as we kept being sent on alternative routes by our sat nav as another accident had happened on the original route.  Luckily I sat in the back to keep GS company and feed him a few snacks once he had woken up and we were still not there.  Reminded me of when I used to go on holiday as a child and it took forever to get there.  We had decided to stay down that way overnight for a short weekend break and I'm so glad we did as the weather yesterday was a perfect English summer's day. Quite breezy by the sea but not overcrowded as it wasnt as hot as it had been a few weeks back.  Some lovely walks along the cliff/beach walkways and a good dollop of sun. Perfect.  Only thing to stop me giving it a 10 out of 10 was not getting an ice cream on our walk back to the car as we had to hurry along as our ticket was expiring. It was good to get back home, in the normal amount of time, and sit on our patio yesterday evening enjoying the last bit of the sunshine.

A few more weeks of no appointments then I'm back on the CT/results treadmill although fitting in another holiday in between them as we may as well!

Have a good week all

Nicky xx

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Hi Lisa, nice to hear from you and also really good that you have a lot going on in your life right now. You are far too young to vegetate ha ha. Its all hen party talk and plans here. My daughter wants it to be secret so I am finding it very difficult not to accidentally blab something. I hope I don't! So I try not to think about it. Do you have to plan the one you are going to? I know its a lot of work and you don't always get thanked for it, too many moans at times. Are you merging with another charity? Will it cover a wider area, more people or just the same? Take care and we are hear whenever you get a minute. Love Lily xxx

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Hi all, sorry I've been missing, it's feel steam ahead for our merger go live date on Monday so been working lots and starting wedding planning so not had a minutes break. Hoping to catch up with you all and your stories tomorrow day time when I'm actual awake lol xxxxx hugs x lisa

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Hi everyone, how are you? Carole any news about your mum? It sounds like it was a nightmare situation and I am sure it was made even more diffcult by you being in another country and trying to work out what to do for the best. Its a situation I constantly worry about, everything going pants up and big changes to the current regime having to be completely rethought. Actually everything went wrong here while I went on holiday. The other relative I care for had a fall and I have spent the last week sorting it all out and calming everybody down.Its surprising how many people do nothing to help but are quick to voice their view when anything goes wrong briefly.  I even got interviewd by ss thanks to someone making exaggerated false claims so they thought he was not safe. I was more than happy to tell them exactly how much I do for them around caring for my mother, a full time job and the large family of my own. I detailed every service I have in place to see he is checked on every day and eats, etc and also said I was quite happy to let anyone who thought they could do a better job, have him and do it instead. They were nice and said you are doing a great job, well done, just let us know if you ever need help or respite care. Do you know if I would have to pay for that? I am over it now but was very upset and then cross that somebody would take the time to ring them but not take the time to actually help him themself in any way. I have my suspicions. Carole I hope your situation is moving along better and that mum is safe and looked after now, so you can relax a bit. Nicky I love the hot weather so have been disappointed when the clouds came back. A bit easier to sleep at night though. Better for your walks too. Ha ha Victor would be like that about extra purchases too. I am back on plants and trees. Its not good weather to plant things so they are staying in pots near the house so I can keep them watered well. I bought 2 more trees for our mini forest, a bit more exotic ones this time so I told Victor they were a birthday present for him!! Then I have been looking for some shrubs with different foliage to create some colour when the flowers are finished. So there are another 6 to go in. I need to stay away from garden centres, they are the new cake!! Yes I rather thought Lisbon coulb be renamed sardine city from the way they cover every wall, shop, restaurant, fridge magnets, everywhere you look. I didn't like to mention that I don't eat them.  Like you I have been very busy babysitting. I think the toddler stage is most tiring as they get heavy and have their own secret language of noises to understand but rarely sleep during the day by 2 years. Labour of love though and we wouldn't miss a minute. I have to juggle mine as I have 3 families asking for sitters. Heaven help me when they all go out together! Glad your parents and inlaws are reasonable at the moment - enjoy the peace as it can change so quickly. Yes I am having such a lovely summer holiday break, probably haven't done enough work yet but the calendar tells me there is still time so I am putting it off. Get ready for the last minute panic. We are looking at holidays again already. Firstly to try to rebook my holiday trip which we lost. We might try to go again later this year if our plans work out. Then thinking about next year so we don't end up with an expensive house to rent because we left it so late. With a wedding next year too its a help if we can reduce the bill to share out. Also been trying to take mum out on little trips while she is up to it and she enjoys them very much. Have you got much left to do in the house or is it as you want?

Lisa what are you hooked on, on tv currently? I have to confess to being glued to the batchelor and batchelorette. Its a bit like a clean love island. I have also got hooked on wire in the blood and blue bloods. So the planner is full of things to watch.  Hugs everyone. I hope your week is going ok love Lily xxxxx

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Nicky good for you to be out early before the heat starts so you can still fit in a walk.   But I bet by the time you've finished you are perspiring a lot (ladies don't sweat of course).

 

Lily thanks for the tip about the fodmap diet (did you mean foodmap?) I will take a look when I have a quiet time which doesn't seem to happen at the moment. Portugal sounds wonderful, it's good you got there before the intense heat,  you don't know your limitations do you with the sun LOL. Hope you are not as sore now. Have you worn off the custard pastries?

 

Lisa how lovely to be a maid of honour.   Has the diet started yet?  Are you cool at work?  

 

Our intense heat continues, I'm sure you realise how difficult it is to be outside after about 9 am until 9 pm! But even during the night we've had temperatures of plus 20.   Sleeping is extremely difficult and I'm changing my clothes several times a day as my neck and back are constantly wet! When I am at home I wear the barest minimum. I haven't been able to get out with the doggies, well 2 at the same time is a put off as they both pull and it's hard by myself.   They play together and run about all the time and as we have a large garden (with very dead grass at the moment) so they are exercising.

 

Mum ended up having another fall after they sent her home, with the second fall she was left laying on the floor for around 3 hours, head bleeding.   Goodness knows why she didn't press her alarm button, she religiously wears it and yet was too confused it seems to call the alarm. Anyway she was taken back into hospital on Saturday, nothing medically wrong like an infection but was severely dehydrated, constipated and confused.   She was put onto a drip to get her hydrated and had several enemas to clear the impaction. We are all aware that she can no longer live in an assisted living home, so are now hoping for a place in an actual care home.   She needs help with her medication, cooking, drinking and personal care (much to her disgust, she never loses her stubbornness).   She was sent into a rehabilitation centre yesterday for some intense physio and a bit of looking after. She might only be here for a week but hope it could be for longer. As for the assisted living home, we are all going to make a complaint as it is clear that she should have been visited in her flat 4 times a day, had her room cleaned and washing done once a week and this has not been happening.

 

Sorry for long post, I think it's time for me to hop into the swimming pool as dripping already! Take care girls love Carole xx

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Phew, a break in the weather, although none of the rain that was promised for last night which is annoying.

How have you all been coping? I have just been getting out for a walk early in the day then shutting myself indoors once it starts getting hot, closing all windows etc after trapping in the cooler air.  It seems to have worked as it's been reasonably cool indoors but boiling outside. When it gets this hot I do absolutely nothing! Which must please OH as I end up just buying food that we need and dont go to any other shops so the bank balance stays healthy.

Good job you just missed the extreme heat in Lisbon, Lily, that would almost have been as bad as a holiday when it rains all the time as both typoes of weather mean you dont venture outside as much.  I'm glad you found and tested the custard tarts, although they are difficult to miss.  Did you see all the beautiful sardine shops, one we saw was like a circus all brightly coloured with merry go rounds etc.  They certainly celebrate that particular fish!  Any plans for the rest of the holidays?  We have a few odd days staying away here and there but generally being at home and helping look after GS on the days he's not at his childminders.  Well, I say we, I mean me as OH is at work.  It is lovely but really tiring so I'm shattered by the end of each day as he's on the go all the time, and he's not even walking yet so goodness knows what will happen then!

Carole, how are things in France?  Any change in the heat you've been having?  I think we left just as the hot spell was getting going as the week before had been quite pleasant we were told.  Our weather over here has also stayed hot with only the odd cooler day thrown in for a bit of relief.  Hope Mum is OK and recovered from the falls.  It's a worrying time when it gets this hot especially for the elderly.  My parents are doing OK but OH's don't cope so well and their health has been suffering, although there's lots of underlying health issues as well which dont help.

Lisa, how has it been for you?  Do you have air con at work?  I tell OH to stop complaining about the heat, he's in air con offices all day, I'm sat in an un-airconditioned house!

Keep cool

Nicky xx

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Hi everyone, how are you all? Baking hot like me? Who would believe British weather could do this??  Lisa how lovely to be asked to be maid of honour, is it for a friend? We have another wedding on the go of course and every time YD gets in a flap and starts doubting herself and planning diets. At least I get some company and someone to talk to about it as everyone else is tiny, lucky them. I think you seem to be having slightly cooler weather so maybe you can sleep better than us? Fan is on all night for me after having a week of air conditioning, its tough. Carole, sorry to hear about mum's falls, how is she now? Did they test her for a stroke or TIA or think it was just a coincidence to happen twice?  Mum gets much more doddery if she has any kind of infection and its not hard to get dehydrated and get a water infection in this heat. It sounds like you are even hotter though. How are you coping? YD gets IBS and has been trying the fodmap diet after being recommended to try it by a gp. Its about certain food giving you bloat, etc and is not too difficult to follow. Although it is annoying when favourite foods are out. Might be worth a read to see if your diet contains some of the worst foods, these include some fruit and vegetables too. Nicky I bet that free week was amazing and went by too quickly for you. As you say this is a really good regime compared to past more challenging ones so enjoy it and the extra time it brings to do all the other things you can't always fit in, on a busier week. ceWell we were lucky to escape Portugal just before the very high temperatures started. It was very hot there and seemed much hotter than published figures but that's probably because we were right in the city streets and the tall buildings hold the heat in. It was a lovely week. Our hotel was huge and very smart withuniformed doormen and silver service. So it was an anxious week as everything I ordered turend out very differently from what I expected and I am really fussy as well as being allergic to shellfish so in a flap about fish dishes. Good old Victor is now fat as a horse as he HAD to eat up my disasters as the waiters got concerned if I didn't eat it! That along with a lot of cool beers, which he only drinks much unless people are round. Thank you Nicky for the thumbs up about the little custard pastries. I fell in love with them and probably ate about 15 over the holiday!! What a piggy. Its a great city for sightseeing especially the historic sights. Did you go underneath the bank in the underground passages to look at the ruins? We did a lot of research before we went and visited so many interesting places. I was in heaven when I found THE shopping street with all the big names. Well better buzz off, still struggling a bit after a day on one of the lovely sandy beaches. I think the breeze off the sea is refreshing but fools you how hot it is. My tummy is like a red jelly 😞  and this hot sun seems to be keeping it going. My own fault. Love to all Lily xx

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Hi all. Just not had much time to post really, 2 pups are keeping me very busy. But they're good company for each other so exercising hasn't been to much of a problem.

Everyday we seem to go to 40° heat. Thank goodness we can cool off in the pool at 30°. It's lovely before 10 am but after that just keeping inside, with fans as it's too hot outside.

I'm now on treatment for IBS. Can't really say it's helping except the strange sachet of granules I have to swallow once a day (Not unpleasant just odd), seem to be helping. They taste much better than fibregel.

The pups keep me very busy, even though it's too hot to go for a walk.

Other than that no news. I'm looking forward to son, girlfriend, grandson and baby granddaughter visiting in a couple of weeks, excited about that.

My mum has been taken off to hospital today for the second time this week. Tonight she had a fall, nothing broken but they're keeping her in overnight. She will be happy with that.

I'll post more about this but for now I hope you are all coping with the heat and keep safe in lisbon Lily as the heat is more intense. Love to all xxx

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Hi all, how's the weather for you all, ours has gone downhill in the last few days, been bad but least garden had a water. Whose on holiday then? 

 

Im shattered work is relentless but will hopefully calm down in a few weeks lol.Nothing lee to report, but need to commence diet as maid of honour next may, yikes lol 

 

xxxx hope everyone well xxx

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Hi all, I'm around Judah been manic, after 400 miles work driving last week hoping to be around more this week and have a good catch up tomorrow xxxx

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Hi buddies

No reason for my absence other than not having time to log in and write lots! It was nice to have last week relatively free of appointments, just the one MRI (as the final part of the research study I signed up for) but what with that being early in the morning and looking after GS one morning and trying to get out for a walk before it gets too hot  I ended up not logging on as I find I can ‘lose’ too much time first thing in the morning. Excuses over! So, other than keeping out of the heat most of the time I haven’t really been up to much. It has been nice not having quite so many visits to the hospital this year (last year I was on Eribulin which was far too many visits) and also having minimal side effects from the current treatment so I’m relishing the freedom. We have managed to squeeze in two lots of friends for evening meals here which has meant some preparation etc (and late nights) but I’ve enjoyed it as it’s been quite a while since I’ve been able to plan ahead and feel up to entertaining anyone other than close family. It’s also been lovely to be able to sit out in the evening with them whereas most summers we have get far too chilly by July as the good weather usually stops when it’s time for the schools to break up!

Carole, how lovely to have a playmate for your little pup, I hope it pays off and you don’t end up with double trouble! How hot is it where you are? When we were nearby for the wedding I think it was about 32C on the day of the wedding and about 25C at least at night which made for some uncomfortable nights as we stayed in older places without air con. Btw, Lily, it was a friends daughters wedding who went to infant school with my ED so we know the family well and ED was giving a short reading/poem so we were all in invited.

Lisa how are things your way? Are you getting any of this decent weather? I hope so as it so often misses out the far north.

Lily, enjoy the holidays, I’m sure you will and I hope Lisbon isn’t too hot for you - at least you’ve had time to adjust to the heat as it’s been so hot here! I might have said this before but the old style trams get so overcrowded as everyone want to get on one. There are newer ones on most of the routes I think which are far more dignified and cooler.

Well an even better week appointment wise this week as I have none, hooray. So I’ll be getting out for early walks then hiding inside like I did last week plus a bit of GS sitting. Enjoy your week everyone, if you can cope with the heat.

Nicky xx

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Hi everyone, how are you? Carole asked if I was near the end of term, yes this week but it has been so hectic in the weeks beforehand I hardly had time to do anything else so sorry for my online silence. Carole we have not had the final part of the refund yet but managed to get an email confirming everything from our bank so fingers crossed. I would never fly ryanair again as they have totally ignored my request, despite being on their form and posted to ireland. Nothing at all. Plus being left to stand at the gate and not be told they had no fuel and no plane. I think they were aware of that a long time neforehand and could have donbe more - like anything at all. My friend lost her planned holiday too due to pilot strikes. Carole the storm sounded freaky and I am glad it did not do any more damage as could have been catastrophic and you have had enough of those with your home already! How are the 2 pups getting on now? Any easier with 2? 

Lisa how is your job going now? Any more plans for your house this year? Its been a while since you decorated and I know you love it. I am planning on changing the hall, landing and stairs as we had some new doors put in and it really updates the look so deserves a few less fingerprints!!

Nicky I forgot to ask whose wedding it was? A long way to go for a wedding but probably worth it from the sound of it. Sorry gs was unwell and it had to be when away, nightmare. Did your daughter manage to stay calm as mine would be frantic if taken into hospital. 

Its been very quiet at home with son away with his work for a fortnight. Although we were on yhe mobiles to each other through the world cup games to exchange cheers and groans of disappointments. He was really fed up as had thought he might see their first win. I said as you get older you will get used to it! He has split with his gf so we are lodgerless now and he has found it difficult at times I think. Wedding fever has hit so we are all excited and the wedding dress has been picked. A spectacular creation that requires a catwalk figure. She certainly doesn't take after me, that's for sure. There are so many little ones and 3 are hers so it will be interesting to see how they are all included in the wedding. A little more difficult with boys. I am really looking forward to it already and its not until next year.  Well better buzz off. Holiday in  a week or so and I better get off the ground this time or I am going to sit in the middle of the airport and scream. So if you see a news article and see a woman dragged off, its me!  Lily xx

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Hi just a quick post to say fantastic news Nicky and I am so pleased for you. Well done 🙂 Carole another dog!! Hope that will give Aero someone else to chew. Lisa your trip sounded lovely. Will catch up mor next time. Lily xx

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Hi all

 

I'm actually finding time to sit at the Laptop rather than my phone so can send a slightly longer message.

 

Lisa, how was the barbeque?   Is your weather still hot?   

 

Nicky that is brilliant news about your results you must be delighted?   You sound fitter than me despite having ongoing BC.

 

Lily did you manage to get your refunds for your lost journey to Barcelona?   You must be excited, only a couple more weeks of this year's term left?

 

Our weather has been extremely hot, but last week we had a very strange storm.   Around 5 pm it started to get very dark and windy, so we knew something was going to happen.   As we sat eating our meal half of a tree came flying into our garden during an extremely strong gust.   The power went so we had dinner by candlelight lol.   However, the electric was off for 24 hours and the windy storm was soon followed by heavy hail and rain, thunder and lightening.  This weird weather didn't last more than a couple of hours and the debris of trees and branches in our garden and along the road was pretty full on.  Fortunately, all our animals were inside otherwise I fear they may have been injured.   The French news said it was a hurricane, but I think it was just a very strong gust of wind.

 

Then on Friday YD returned with all her belongings which as yet hasn't been sorted out so our house looks a bit like a charity shop.

 

Some other news, we decided to visit a French dog rescue.  I had already decided that IF we took on another dog it would have to be a femail.   Sure enough there was only one female there, she had been in the refuge for 4 days after being found just wandering around the streets.  Their vet thought she was around the same age as our pup.   Somehow we felt she found us!   We have called her Mea, she's a cross lab. So for 2 and a half weeks we have been very busy with 2 young dogs, who get on really well.   Mr P had to build a low fence around our pool area as Aero the chocolate lab decided he liked swimming and was jumping in and not getting out!   The pool doesn't look as nice with a fence around it, but the pool liner might not have stood up to doggie paws.

 

I'm full of aches and pains, yesterday I think I pulled a muscle in my chest so find today some movements very difficult. I'm having a problem with one foot and I've also been stung by a wasp just above my knee and that has swelled up and still painful. The other knee (the one I fell on) still can't take kneeling and that has been 4 weeks now. Enough of my groans.

 

It's hard to believe we're in July already, where has this year gone?   All from me, hope you managed not to fall asleep during my epic post Smiley Very Happy   xxxx

 

 

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Hi all sorry I haven't posted for a while. All ok here, very hot like your weather.

I'll catch up soon.

Hope you're all ok love Carole xx

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Welcome back nicky, sounds fab. Lots of people I know have had gastrointeritos heck ignore spelling. Poor wee thing. France sounds lovely but hot. I'm off to BBQ now after weekend in Newcastle so hopefully catch some soon.

 

fab news on results 🎉🎉😍😍😘😃🍾

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I'm back!  We had a fabulous time in France but unfortunately weren't able to meet up with Carole.  I had explained this to her beforehand and had thought that it might be possible but we only had one free day whlist in that part of France and an awful lot of driving beforehand and still to go.  As it turned out we had to help out ED as our GS wasn't very well (he had gastroenteritis) so we gave them a break that day and looked after him, keeping him out of the heat, cars and everything else!  It was very very hot but where they had stayed was much breezier that in the town part where we were staying so it was better that we kept him in the shade and let him sleep as much as possible.  He's fine now, it just worked its course, but they did need to take him to hospital to get checked after the local GP advised it.  He needed to be kept hydrated and replace his salts and sugars as he'd been very sick on and off for a couple of days. Back to his happy self now though.

So, we had a fab time visiting quite a few areas of France on our way down to the wedding venue.  The wedding itself was lovely, but everyone was so hot!  It was held in what we call a country house but was called a chateau and it was absolutely picture perfect.  Lots of fun, eating, drinking and dancing the night away.  A long drive home but we broke it up with stops so GS wasn't too fed up in the car, and back home to even more sun - but luckiliy much cooler nights than in France.

Also I came back to my recent scan results which I had this morning and it was rather an anxious wait in the waiting room.  Anyway it came back as all stable, no liver mets (or none that are visible), no other soft tissue mets and bones are stable. Phew, huge sigh of relief. Plus I had a routine heart checkup in London just before we went away and that came back probably higher than most of the general population!  I'm now on annual checkups with them unless my treatment changes to a harsh chemo regime. So, I continue being stabbed left right and centre every 4 weeks but other than chatting to the nurses on those occasions I don't see anyone medical at all until my next scan results.

Hope all of you are doing OK.  I'll catch up with any news from now on but just wanted to update you.  Sorry to have missed you Carole, the extra drive would have just been a bit too far.

Nicky xx

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Hi all, been back a few days but straight back at work. We went to albuferia, in between old town and new town just to relax, so chills, walks and lots of fab food. We had amazing cake shop attached to us which was lovely and had some lovely meals courtesy of trip advisor, would never have found them. Even dad enjoyed the food. Weather was fab but boy it's hot here, I've got a fan on 24/7 it's been between 25 and 30 every day. 22 at night so very sweaty sleep, reminds me of the hot flush days..

 

nicky, that s fab news re your heart and figures crossed for other results. Hope you manage to meet up with carole x

lily, hope your holiday is coming up soon? 

Carole, how's the weather your end and how is the puppy coping with it.

 

well short week again as off to Sarah millican on Thursday in Newcastle, so football tomorrow and love island then off again 😍😍👍👍

 

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Well done Nick, really good to hear about your heart function now. Such a good thing you were brave and had the heart procedure, is it a year ago or more?  Fingers crossed as always for latest scans to show the op has had a very beneficial effect too. Good job you are a brave person!  Enjoy your breaks everyone. I will stay here and work booo while you all have a great time. I love the hot weather, love the footy too. One of the littles had their 7th birthday so 2 celebrations this month and another 2 nnext month and the holiday, so no chance of any kind of healthy eating, so having a great time ha ha. Take care. Hugs Lily xx 

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Have a great time Lisa and tell us all about it when you’re back. Where did you decide to go in the end (other than Portugal, I mean which city). The UK does look good weather wise next week and we’re also off but, as you say, at least there’s no work and for me no chores or appointments. I think I need to give a 👍🏻to all my friends about any holidays we have booked as every time we go away the weather turns better here and we miss it. 

Carole, I’ll PM you about meeting up, I have been trying to check with both ED (and OH) about their plans and thoughts  as there’s only one day we could make it and the weather outlook has been changing a lot since the early part of this month which will make a difference about what we’re all planning to do on that day. I expect you are watering you’re plants every day now and hopefully getting in your pool to cool off. Who needs a holiday when you have that on your doorstep?

Lily, well you asked where the sun was and you have now got it coming your way! I love this type of weather when it’s still cool in the morning but bright and breezy during the day. None of that humidity that stops us sleeping. Not long until your holiday which you must be looking forward to and I hope there’s no hiccups with the travel unlike Barcelona. How annoying that you have to chase up the insurance company but it always seems to be the way doesn’t it.

So a catch up from me. Not much to report other than all the appointments are over with for a week or two at least. Scans and treatment last week and then a heart check up this week which went really well and it’s good to know that my heart function is now as high, if not higher, than the healthy part of the population. Well done that team. And also I’m on an annual checkup now rather than 4-6 monthly but can obviously see them if I have a problem. Going on how some GPS up the doses of heart meds without the detailed knowledge that a specialist centre has I would definitely take them up on that should I need it.  My MIL is having so many problems with her heart and her GP admitted to her the other week that she was wrong to give her a higher dose! Doesn’t instil confidence does it?

Anyway have a good weekend whatever you are doing. We are following the football, or most matches in the evening at least, and YD is loving Love Island but other than last night when she was watching it I haven’t seen it. Enjoy the ☀️ wherever you are.

Nicky x

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Hi everyone. Lisa have a lovely holiday. I can't believe I booked Portugal so long ago and you have all got there before me. Making me excited to go though. Still no sign of the rest of our money 😞  I need to get on to them. Yes Lisa I am a fan too, have to be as that is all anyone talks about at work! Well that's my excuse. Love Lily xx

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Hi all, sounds like you've all been busy too. I've been absent as so tired working so many hours to get into next stages at work so hopefully will settle down soon, I know when I've over tired as headaches and ears vibrate lol, I'm strange.

 

Carole hope you've got better weather now, we got the rain tonight but looks like a lovely week coming up, just as I head off to Portugal, looks like just as nice here, but no work there lol.

 

is everyone else off on hols soon?

 

im only watching footie, but I'm sadly addicted to love island, shussssss.....

 

catch you soon xx

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Hi everyone, how are you all? Carole we could put the 2 mums together and they could put the whole world to rights ha ha. Well mine is on the phone to the doc as well. She is under the impression that they can cure anything and demands it. Last week she had called a paramedic out because she couldn't breathe and then opened the door moaning at him as she walked along on her zimmer, that she had a breathing problem. As she has had asthma all her life it beats me how she suddenly thinks that she would be able to do all this if in fact in trouble. Then she decided he could look at her legs while he was there and chatted about that! Everyone and everything seems to be wrong, which is tough work on visitors 😞  Hopefully this moody phase will move on very soon! Well it was my daughter's birthday not one of the littles. We had a ladies afternoon tea party where someone came and set the place up with yummy cakes and traditional china and cake stands. Then all the rest of the family came in later. i ate far too much and suffering now for it. I hope you knee improves soon, don't worry about scars they add character ha. I think we all have quite a few war wounds.It will be fab if you and Nick meet up, good luck with your plans. What is the new diabetes gadget, it sounds like a great improvement.

Nicky have you recovered a bit yet? Pretty much the best kind of tiredness, from grandchildren don't you think? I had 2 staying over the weekend and am still trying to catch up with work after that. A busy time with all your checks, fingers crossed as always for good results. Will you liver be healed yet? I agree the weather is so unreliable this year. I am sure it is lovely and sunny behind the thick bank of clouds. So much for global warming, I want to be warmer grrrrr. Are you watching the footy everyone? I love it but Vitcor is not a fan, so we watch separate tvs. Son is absolutely crazy about it and leaps up and down cheering, lovely to see people supporting their country really. School is just fulll of footy talk, so I have to keep up with the latest.  Better buzz off. Lily xx

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Lily, you are quite right, in another life we might have known each other. We have a few similarities what with our Mums and our children.   Speaking of which I'm sure you're little pink will have a splendid birthday if you are organising it.   How old is she, I guess about 3 now??   Talking of Mums, mine is still driving me crackers. She's given up her day centre one day a week, one chance to get out of that awful home she lives in and she can't be bothered.  She was prescribed anti depressants in May but hasn't taken one! She seems to speak to her doctor about once a week over the telephone, he makes a decision about what is wrong and treats her with something from a phone call!

 

Nicky hopefully we can manage a meet somewhere, but I do appreciate how busy some holidays can be, let us see.   Reading about how long your results take makes me appreciate the health system here in France.  It is normal to come out of the radiology dept with Scans and report.   Sometimes it involves a wait of about an hour - or longer - but it is nice to know the results on the day.

 

Lisa how is work now, are you enjoying all the changes?

 

I have a new device for testing my blood glucose.   I'm excited about it because it means I no longer have to stab my poor fingers 5 or 6 times a day.   It is available here on our health service but I understand it's not available in the UK and has to be paid for privately.  As long as I can support the glue that it sticks to me with. As you may remember I seem to be allergic to most plasters and sticky things.

 

My poor knee still hurts, I can't believe how long it is taking. It looks rather nasty too so I'm sure I will be scarred.

 

I'm hoping today will be sunny, no rain is forecast for today which makes a change.   So I had better get out and water the tomatoes and cucumbers.

 

Love to all Carole x

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A busy few days for me over the past week or so. Looking after GS is quite exhausting and then playing catch up with all the usual things I do in the week just adds to the tiredness. Throw in a couple of nights of insomnia and that’s how I feel atm! Anyway I’m over the most hectic parts so hoping for a quieter few days although I do have several appointments to keep me on my toes. I will get the CT results when we get back from our hols as they won’t be through before we go, well the actual scan will be on the system immediately but it’s the report that takes the time. Then a routine heart checkup that was postponed from last month which will complete my latest MOT except for a liver MRI which hasn’t been sorted yet but is part of the research study rather than an essential part of my ongoing care.

Carole, sorry to hear about the fall. A few years back I slipped on holiday and as I had my hands full at the time I couldn’t stop myself hitting and grazing my knee. Boy did it sting and looked absolutely awful on the rest of the holiday sat by the pool. I still have a big mark where it took the skin off. I hope you’re adjusting to Mr P being back at work, it must be very strange the enforced separation but I guess other jobs also have that drawback, or is it a bonus (for some 😉). I will get back to you about whether we can meet up when we’re in France, OH and I just haven’t had much of a chance to check maps and work out how much driving we’ll be doing.

Lisa, it must warmer where you are than where we are for a change as we haven’t had the unpleasant sweaty nights! But maybe it’s because you’re at work and have to shut the house up during the day? I hate it when you can’t get to sleep but are desperate to.

Well it’s a overcast start to the day herein the South, very gloomy but due to brighten up later. What an odd year this year has been weather wise, one day hot  and sunny the next day cloudy and much chillier. Oh well, at least it gives us Brits something to moan about.

Nicky x