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amd66
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oh Janice bless you, what a bum. glad scan is being done soon. i didnt even know about meteor shower so you did better than me. my mind also all over the place, and am so glad to have you all. saw chemo friend for a seafront walk, talked a lot about mil and how hard it is. just good to be with someone that knows how it feels. i was very matter of fact about it yesterday but today am churning over all that was said, and felt overwhelmed. big hugs and spoons to you too, we must tell ourselves to be gentle, i realised i cope when things are normal but not when something gets thrown in the mix,
big hugs spoons etc
A xxx
jmr
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Sflutterby some of our flutterbys are having a rough time including me Phil back in hospital but one where he had his op as I asked them if he could be transferred to get to root of infection as I was sure it wasn't a urine infection seems I may be right as he is having scan to see if there is anything lurking from the op after drains were taken out.Got scan this afternoon.He was doing so well till this happened again so hope it gets sorted this time.Didn't see meteor shower as it was pouring with rain very disappointed as I was going to watch for it.Mind in a turmoil again don't know what I would do without this site and you lovely ladies love hugs spoons to you all and thinking of you all who are having problems Janice xxxx

amd66
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finding it pretty tough, saw mil yesterday,no op yet cos she has heartbeat to sort out. she didnt know me or daughter yeterday, and was really nast on morphine and very confused. doesnt know where she is . have woken tense and edgy today but i hope it gets better,
much love to you all
anne xx
Elsa
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Lozza-I've just finished my nurse prescribing course (still waiting for results!) and so I can really sympathise with you over the stress of getting assignments in. My course ran from January to July this year and I honestly couldn't wait for it to finish because it seemed to take up all of my time and if I wasn't actually doing any work for it I was thinking about what had to be done.
My SIL remains in hospital; she hasn't been transferred to Leeds as her liver function marginally improved yesterday. However, she's now threatening to discharge herself (missing her cigarettes and drink) but ward staff have told her that she'll be sectioned if she does. She actually isn't physically capable of walking out to be honest. My brother visits her every day and despite all this he's remaining firm in his resolve to leave her. She keeps asking him if he'll stay and every time she asks he quite clearly tells her that as soon as she comes home then he leaves the house.
Did anyone else see the meteor shower last night...we lay down on the grass looking up the night sky and there was nothing for ages then all of a sudden like london buses there were several shooting stars all at once.....lovely.

Jane xx

GIJaneH
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All quiet.... How's things peeps?

Hugs, thoughts, spoons...

J xxxx

Lozzarooney1
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Jane - so sorry to read what's been going on, so difficult to know what to do and say. Guess its about being there for them all - I feel for you all I really do. It must be such a relief for your brother to be able to speak freely to you. Sending love and hugs to you all.
Anne - hope your MIL is not in pain and is able to have her op soon. Such a worry I know. Please don't beat yourself up about not seeing her as often as you'd like, I'm sure she realises. Lovely to hear you had some time away last weekend - and no, it's not selfish.
Doz - good to hear you've only got 2 shifts this week! Gosh you've been working hard - where do you get your energy from!! So cross about the biker - hate dishonest people. We had a similar thing with a rider on a horse who had freaked out and did considerable damage to our car. Hubby went to make sure she was ok and she was ... the next thing we know her father (who wasn't even there) made a claim for vets fees!! He was in the Farmers Union and managed to get them on board! It was a horrible time and I'm only glad that hubby had reported it to the police first. So hope it gets sorted soon and that its a good result.
Janice - Do hope that Phil is continuing to make good progress.

Spent a long day in A&E today with FIL who had chest pains. Thankfully he's ok and was discharged, he's 83 so by the time we got him home and settled, spent time with MIL and come home ... I've felt too exhausted to even open my OU books to get on with my EMA assignment which is due in just over a week!! Am feeling the stress and can't wait for it to be done and dusted!!
Have my oncology appointment on Tuesday ... need to decide whether to bite the bullet and go for an oophorectomy so I can go on Arimidex as the excess saliva and continual nausea of tamoxifen is getting to me. After nearly six months you'd have thought it'd settled down!!

Sending love, squishy hugs and spoons to you all

Lozza 🙂 xx
GIJaneH
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So good you can be there for your brother, and the kids. I guess her liver I has taken a hammering over the years, ere co mes a point when it says "no more". Lets hope that's not yet... Addiction is such a crippling illness, and affects the whole family...

hang on in there Jane....

Elsa
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The news today is no better. My sister in laws liver is not responding to treatment and normally you would expect it to have responded by now. if there is no improvement then she will be transferred to a specialist centre in Leeds. This has to take priority therefore they're doing nothing about the possible lung cancer at the moment. With regards the possible diabetes they are retesting for this in 2 days. She is very weak and can't even stand; she can't keep food down therefore is being tube fed and has a drip up. My brother says she looks absolutely awful and has blotchy skin. He told the children everything yesterday and their reaction was that she's brought it all on herself. I guess they've suffered years of her alcoholism so I can understand their reaction now. My brother remains his same old self; he just gets on with what has to be done without complaint. Considering he left her last week he is now having to visit her in hospital which must feel very strange to him. We speak on the phone every day and he's so open about the problems but is glad that he can now talk freely about them.
Anne- you too are going through a difficult time so sending a hand to hold
Janice- I hope Phil is starting to feel like his usual self
To cope with all this I am keeping very busy and today I worked outside all day in the garden and was actually well pleased with what I achieved on my own; its amazing what can be done if you set your mind to it and when I say this I am also thinking of what Doz has achieved this last week... She is an amazing woman.
Thank you flutterbies for being there when I need you
Jane x

GIJaneH
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Hi Ann. Can't answer your question, but if she gets rehydrated she'll perk up a bit. You may be the closest, but yOu are not close. I totally get the self employed bit. Oh was too...

doz... Camels... Well.....we did a 'virtual nativity' which, naturally included the camels bringing the wise men, and somehow they took on a life of their own, and were looked after by the person riding them, so they had to come witH us, of course! Hump and Dink....

hope phil continues to make progress..
pjane, keep us posted.

Big hugs xx

amd66
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Jane you poor thing, what a mess. as you say she sil has been here many times and she has to want to be helped. much love to your poor brother and the children, i hope it gets sorted for them. but not a quick fix, will be sending you extra spoons. and big hugs. glad you have this post to just say whatever you want to.
libran lady so glad to read your post.
Doz have been such a worker for dan, can i borrow you to get my house sorted?!
Janice glad phil has been sorted a little bit.
after our few days away, oh got phonecall from his sister, his 92 year old mum has fallen and been alone for 24 hours. she is now in hosp waiting hip operation has fractered it. difficult for us as we are closest but hosp is over hour and half away.other brothers etc are in wales, reading london etc. there is no point them coming visiting until we know more.
we get the feeling she hasnt been tkaing care of herself, not drinking etc but am proud that she has lived alone til now.
am hoping one of you may know more but she has irregular heartbeat and op could not be done til she sees cardiologist which of course wouldnt happen today ??? how do they get past this to do procedure??. am going over again tomorrow as she doesnt have a wash bag. my oh is the youngest sibling and its pretty tense as the others are saying about her not seeing anyone but we just cant afford diesel each day. she is on morphine and was dehydrated yesterday so making no sense at all. she wouldnt expect us to be there all the time so i feel content with that. she knows we are the only ones still working etc. and has never been demanding.
i dont want to feel guilty but she is in a ward of other oldies, quite content but its that expectation. oh is self employed and cant just cancel work. i hope you understand what i am saying i dont like to think of her with no visitors. as you can imagine its made me anxious and overthoughtful again but am trying to contain it. am walking with a friend tomorrow before visiting times.
in a purely selfish thought am glad that we did get away last weekend and am grateful for that,
much love to you all
Annexx
Doz1949
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Hi Jane
Really glad Morcambe was a success... Tiara,s I get...... But camels 🙂 errr!
i have to agree with the 2 yrs healing time I,m 2 yrs on and although I,m different in the fact that I have slowed down a bit believe it or not 🙂 and my body,s not quite the same but I am back... Just different, I don't think anyone can guesstimate how long it will be unfortunately as we all are different we all had our own personal treatment and we all react different to medication but it is worth knowing from some of ourmore experienced 🙂 Butterflies that time is the issue and it does get better, and as our dear Ami said the mind takes longer to heal than the body.... How true x
Afghan Dan is HOME on Friday eeeeeeeeeeeek! 🙂 he,s been away over 4 months this time and so much has happened his house is near on complete (just lots of cleaning to do) on Friday we erected a 6' high fence along the back of the garden 40' long 🙂 between myself and his friend Dave we had it done in under 2hrs 🙂 and it looks amazing even tho I puff my chest out to have been the lackey 🙂 at the other side of it it's a rough area for a golf club and brambles were poking thro the old fence, Vikki was mortified that we might have to chop them back as there were hundreds nearly ready.... So we saved them and now they are hanging over instead of through 🙂 bramble pie it is then ha ha! Can't believe that in 5 weeks we,ve completely renovated the whole house apart from the kitchen which is really pretty 🙂
Just waiting too hear from Loss adjusters re the idiot biker... I am still determined to fight it.. I spoke to an ex policeman and he said the fact he undercut you is an offence in itself so I,m not giving in to this claim culture it stinks!!
Work owed more a few hours so I,ve cut my 4 nights this weekend down to 2 🙂 and today I,m gardening 🙂 if it stays clear tonight and tomorrow night we are going to see a massive meteor shower, best night being 12th I love star gazing so i,ll be out in the garden tonight having a peek 🙂
Flutter gently Butterflies new and old xxxxhugsxxxx
GIJaneH
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Oh Jane, how desperately hard for your brother, the children., and you... big hugs all round

Regarding the elusive mojo, I can only say for me, it took longer to come back than I ever thought (or wanted). However, two years later, and it HAS come back.. Slipped in un-noticed, but is now reliable. Looking back I remember that last year I fell asleep every time I sat down. I don't now...

be gentle with yourselves, cause you can't make it happen any quicker... Sadly and annoyingly our bodies do it in their own times...

morecambe was great fun. So nice nt to have to explain things.... Including tiaras and camels!

Doz - how VERY distressing... some folk are out for making a buck any-old-how, but it's just not right/fair...
Dan home soon? Holiday? Brilliant ....

Doz1949
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Elsa I,m so sorry to hear your very sad news I do hope there is something they can do for her and your brother and children can see their way through this my thoughts are with you xxhugxx
jmr
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Elas Jane have P.Md you thinking of you love Janice xxx

Elsa
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It is just getting worse and worse; my sister in law is in hospital after taking an overdose and since being admitted she's had blood tests which show she may be diabetic and that the overdose has damaged her liver but that it could recover if she stops drinking. Also what I only found out today was that on the day of her overdose she called the ambulance herself not because of taking the tablets but because she coughed up some blood. Because of this she has had a chest xray which shows shadows on her lungs and may be cancer. It is all just so awful for everyone at the moment and I feel so sad that it has come to this for my brother and his family.
xx

mandyp
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Thank you libran lady. not a day goes by when I don't have sad thoughts. When I look at my young children I still wonder if I will be here to see then grow. And I am scared. But your word's make me feel better and like I can and will pass this and emerge a better and stronger person. I just pray for good health for us all. Xxx
Elsa
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What a great post libran lady. I'm having these wet flushes; just pour with sweat; I now have a fan on mhy desk at work to cool me down but meetings are still tricky.
I've told you all about my sister in law well today she took an overdose of cocodamol and is now in hospital until sunday. She will be seeing the substance misuse team on monday but ...she's been here before so many times. My brother (her soon to be ex husband) had to go to the house today ;which was a tip; and there was no food in the house for the children. I am just so upset by all this I can't tell you.

Faith_63
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Excellent post librantlady xx
LibranLady
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Hello ladies, I do not often post on here, but felt drawn tonight!
It looks like we are all healing & feeling at different levels; it should come as no surprise as I expect we all have different home situations. emotional and external support groups. I feel that I must let the newer ladies know that occasional sharp stabbing pains in the area of the breast where surgery took place is perfectly normal, the area is healing itself. For myself it lasted probably a month.
I started to keep a PC diary after my surgery and radiotherapy in June 2012, but at times felt too tired to even crawl out of bed to the PC. As I am lucky enough to have a Cancer Support Centre in my town that offered complementary therapies I pretty much tried them all - Nutritional advice (I must have spent a small mortgage on supplements), Yoga (did nothing for me), Counselling (I think I was given the wrong therapist), Massage (love it and still go as many times as I can), Acupuncture (interesting, but unfortunately didn't seem to kick my mojo back), Reiki, Reflexology and have just started EFT.
For myself I prefer the "hands on" therapies - massage, reflexology. It has been a slow journey, but you have to remember that every one of us is in a different scenario. Now after 12 months, I am at last starting to take control, I think the glorious weather that we're having helps, although my "wet flushes", seriously I do not have hot ones, I literally start dripping with sweat do not help in trying to stay cool, calm & collected. I have been taking Metatone Tonic every day, and also realising that there will be good & bad days. My bad days are not getting up till very late and slobbing around in my jammies, my ]ood ]days are where I mow my lawn (IF I can get the petrol mower started), trim the edges, hose down the back patio, clean all the windows etc etc etc

I'm not hard on myself now, and have also reawakened past interests & hobbies. I have also had my first holiday since 2008, visiting an old friend in Bavaria. This has done me the world of good and I only wish that there was a sort of special holiday resort for ladies only after their surgery and rads to just recuperate and meet with others.
I have rambled on, but newer ladies please be assured that all the pain, tiredness & tears will disappear and you will emerge a much stronger lady.
Janice x

LibranLady
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PS Sorry about all the untyped [/] and - they seem to appear even after I've previewed before posting.

jmr
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Doz how appalling is that his mates have probably put him up to it do hope you get it sorted soon and you have your holiday to look forward to.
phil picking up a bit and he has now been started on Insulin to control his blood glucose so hopefully he will gain some of the weight he has lost.Gut seems to be settling and hopefully iron pills are beginning to work.may get out for a short walk if it stays dry.
Jane2sounds like your brother and children are having a dreadful time do hope S,S gethin loved and get it sorted for everyone's sake.
to everyone else flutter gently and don't work to hard I am trying to have a quiet day as mowed lawn and did some deadheading of flowers yesterday Sao shattered today love and hugs Janice xxx

HJU63
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Morning All,
Doz that is shocking news about the claim - evrything about it feels false, I hope that you are able to find a way to counter the claim without too much hassle. Jane the situation regarding your SIL does sound very difficult, as you say the poor kids are coaught right in the middle of this. GIJ the trip to Morecambe sounds as if it was great fun (I have popped into benchland to catch up on your adventures). Janice, I hope that you and Phil are doing OK and that Phil is managing to recover a little every day even though he has these terrible digestive problems.
I am now back to 4 days a week at work and in addition the work has been intense (but very enjoyable) Come home each evening and just dropped asleep so no forum for me for a few days. Weekend is almost here and hoping that the weather dries up and OH and I can enjoy some time outside as we have both been stuck inside all week. Moved office on Monday and really like my new space - it is interesting how the right space/environment can make you feel good. Counting down to our hols at the end of August, can't wait. Take care all, Helen.

Doz1949
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Bless you Jane what a worry for you and your brother 😞 I hope for his sake it gets sorted without SS involvement what a predicament 😞 xx
I,m off in 3 weeks for my hols too 🙂 2 whole weeks in Mallorca with no.one to worry about (tho I,m sure I will) no more decorating 🙂 yaaaaaay and some very welcomed me time!! My friend who lives there is very chilled and the days just flow 🙂 I s didn't get to see her last year as I had to cancel with Vikki being poorly... so we,ll have plenty to catch up with I just can't wait 🙂
Finally started the last room at Daniels plasters dry enough to start decorating so that's my day sorted 🙂 5 weeks on and a complete renovation I can't wait to see his face when he gets home next week..... After I,ve hugged him to bits 🙂
Still spitting feathers over daft lad on a bike!! I have the log number and they read the report out to me yesterday when I rang them and it does state he left the scene carrying his bike and shouting abuse... Still waiting to hear from loss adjuster to go through it all but I,m determined he is,nt going to get a penny from my insurers without a fight!! Watch this space!
Janice just sending you a big hug and some spare spoons but hoping your both taking things easy sweetie xxhugxxspoonsxxx
New fridge freezer arrived its so quiet I keep checking it,s still working 🙂 my old one used to hum tunes.. This ones silent.. That's progress 🙂
My garden has been sadly neglected this past month and is looking like a jungle... But in a funny way I,m liking it 🙂 getting lots of birds and its looking very natural but the 4" of grass is definately in need of a haircut... Tomorrow 🙂
Paint brush in hand and off I go 🙂 flutter gently precious Butterflies love to everyone and a hug to those in need
xxxxxxhugsxxxx
Elsa
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Morning flutterbies
Doz-unbelievable that somebody should even try and make a claim after all this time. Sounds like he got home and chatted to others about it and has had the idea of claiming put in his head. Your call to the police should be logged and will have a reference number so that could be useful as evidence of their non action!
Janice-really hope that Phil is feeling better and more like his usual self
Helen-I sometimes get twinges and some pins and needles on my affected side....I think it could be scar tissue which isn't as flexible as normal tissue. Still worth checking though to put your mind at rest.
Ongoing problems with my alcoholic sister in law....she's trying to get my brother to go back to her by saying the children may be taken into care if he's not there. This is going to run and run and I feel so sorry for my brother as he's had years of this. I guess we all just need to be there for him and the kids to support him through this awful time. He's living with a friend about 30 miles from his home so can't see his kids as often as he'd like. He hasn't got enough money to rent/buy himself a place as ideally I'd like to think the kids lived with him; their mother is just too unstable. I know social services were involved 3 years ago and threatened to forcibly remove her from the home due to her behaviours. My heart goes out to the children as I just can't imagine how their life must be at the moment. I think that circumstances are such that social services will inevitably be involved again.
I've now increased my hours at work to 4 days a week to help fund my daughter's Masters in September; it's not so bad. we're going on holiday in 2 weeks; staying on Arran for 2 weeks then Mull for a week so can't wait; family coming too plus boyfriend etc so a house full.
Anyway, flutter gently
Jane x

Doz1949
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Morning Flutterbys
Jane I don't feel quite so amazing today 😞
i got a call from my insurance co re the cyclist driving into my car months ago... He,s decided he was injured and has put a claim for compensation in!! 3 months later might I add! I,m absolutely furious he legged it when I rang the police and was even carrying his bike cos the front wheel had buckled when he hit me! The Police have never been in touch with me since I reported it? Yet about 5 hrs after the incident he rang them and said I,d knocked him off his bike and yes they went to see him... So i,m spitting feathers and the only witness i had apart from Vikki did give me his address but nearly 4 months after the event can I find it....... 😞
My insurance company said its cheaper just to pay him??? Than take it to court! I was flabbergasted.... Cos no way is he getting compensation! I will go to court if needs be I,m not letting them give him a penny without a fight!
Apart from that my fridge freezer decided to leak water all over the kitchen floor and on investigation it must have been doing it for quite a while as the fitted cupboard next to it has water damage along the bottom 😞 so waiting in today for new one to be delivered, i,d hoped it was going to come early as i wanted to go to Daniels and then to see my sister at tea time but just had the text message to say anytime between 2 and 7 pm which I could have done without as I,m onto the last room at Daniels and I,ve only got tomorrow now to get it done 😞 I,m working nights sat to wed and he,s home friday morning next week and getting carpets down Thursday so I think I,ve blown it 😞 Aaaaaaaaargh!
Hope all you lovely butterflies are having a better week than this muddled Moth 😞 xxxxxxhugxxxx
GIJaneH
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Just enjoying a flitter flutter with some other flutterbies from the Benchland thread. It's completely mad, and a few of us have come out of virtual hiding and met up in the real world. Great couple of days in Morecambe....tired now..... But good to put faces to folk...

doz, I think you're amazing. Janice, hope phil is sorted/checked...and that everyone else is ok
ok love Jane

jmr
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Still a busy butterfly Doz you amaze me.Phil has some food supplements now and doc is going to refer him ti dietician as well.He is eating ok but just going straight through but now A.Bs are finished hope it improves.He is also waiting for diabetic nurse specialist to ring as his B.Ms are very high.Laughed about the shorts it sounded like a comedy movie ha ha.Hope physio is helping.
Hope everyone else has managed to dirty their wings after the downpours.take care love and hugs Janice xxxxx

Doz1949
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Hi Flutterbys
Helen I think we all get funny little healing pains I know I do.. I ended up with a blood clot after surgery which was drained successfully but still get the odd stabbing pain in and around the area and still got the sharp pain under my shoulder blade and into my ribs, but you should still get it checked out sweetie, we all have a habit of blaming everything on C and with good reason I guess 😞 hope it turns out to be wind or something simple 🙂
Janice I hope everything has got sorted for Phil and things are looking up for you both, could he have the little food supplement drinks to build him back up? xxx big hug and a few spoons for you xx
Had a couple of busy days at Daniels house.. Now completed 6 rooms and can finally see the light 🙂 which is a good job as he,s home next week 🙂 spent almost a day glossing the bannister!!! 48 wooden strips aaaaargh I will be seeing them in my sleep me thinks! There I was merrily painting away sat on the carpetless stairs in an old pair of shorts when a parcel was delivered.. Got up to answer the door and my shorts had snagged on the metal teeth on the carpet runner eeeeeek! No I didn't loose them as I stood up I just ripped the backside out of them!! Thank goodness I didn't have to turn around....... 🙂
Should have been an early night to bed tonight but it didn't happen.... Nothing new there.... Got my second appointment at Physio in morning so nite nite flutterbys hope all is well with everyone xxxxhugxxxx
Faith_63
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Morning ladies,
Hi Helen, my friend is 4 years post op, and still has pains, the dr said
its all to do with the healing, but always best to get it checked out.
Had a bit of a mad weekend, went to see the musical The bodyguard,
and out to dinner, was brill, but soooo hot with this wig on,
cant wait to go topless ! bbq yesterday, bingo last night,
won £50 now catching up with the housework
Take care xxxxx
jmr
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Hi Helen I get what I can only describe as cramp in my ribs and pain is quite sharp but only lasts for about 30 secs happens if I move wrong way sometimes I don't think it's anything to worry about as my friend says she gets it and she hasn't had B.C. But still mention it at your app.Glad party went well and all enjoyed it.
off to bed as up earlier these days to see to O.H bless him he has been to hell and back lost loads of weight so getting G.P in tomorrow to see if they can give him something to build him up.Antibiotics have certainly taken their toll on his guts.
Take care all love and hugs Janice (sorry got no spare spoons) xxxx

HJU63
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Hi All,
welcome to new flutterbies.
Need some calm advice - over the last week or so have had an increasing number of episodes of sharp pain in my chest in the area of my wle/anc. Very sharp pain, very specific site, lasts for 20-30 seconds - hurts more if I move or breathe, so I just hold my beath until it is over. I have also noticed occasional pins and needles down my rignt arm (surgery on right) with no explanation for P&N. Trying very hard not to read too much into this but am feeling a bit concerned - anyone experienced anything similar? I can't think of any reason for it. Due to see surgeon for check up on 02/09 so plan to mention it then if still troubling me. Probably nothing.
Had my son's birthday party yesterday - bbq, and was very lucky that weather stayed dry until late. Had a busy day making salads, baking and then making sure party went well - felt very weary today but son said he had a great time so it was all worth it. He has headed back to Bristol as working there for the next 12 months, OH set off for lodgings as still working away and so just me and my 18 year old son at home. Early bed as I am working 3.5 days next week and although the summer is supposed to be out quiet time I have lots and lots to do. Take care everyone, Helen

Elsa
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Hello flutterbies...great to have new flutterbies on here so welcome to all
Haven't posted for a few days as coudn't log on but for some reason I was allowed to this morning. Lovely to hear from you again Emmy sounding so happy and carefree.
I don't know if you remember but a couple of weeks ago I went for a proper bra fitting with a lovely lady called Julie who is a breast screening nurse in her other job. Anyway, I posted my cheque off to her for my purchases, it got lost in the post and she called me last week at work to tell me. I hate being late with payments so I decided to call in on her and give her another cheque as it was on my way home from work; and do you know; we clicked straight away. She invited me in for a coffee and we just chatted away like old friends; think I've got a new friend! Funny how things work out isn't it?
A bit of a downer this week; I was having a really busy day at work last Monday as I was on the self harm rota; when my brother called me to say that one of my other brothers had left his wife and was living with a friend in Warrington. These things happen I know but they have 3 children the youngest is only 10 and their mother is an alcoholic and I feel very uncomfortable that the children are with her. I guess its up to my brother to sort things out but its hard to stand by and bite your tongue but I will have to.
Anyway, just finishing some decorating in the kitchen then OH and I are off to Shrewsbury to get some things for our hols in 3 weeks. I've just cashed in some Tesco clubcard vouchers for some ASK vouchers and we're going to have a slap up lunch, yum
Hugs, hand holds and spoons to everyone
Jane xx

jmr
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The Em sense of humour is just wonderful can you just imagine the neighbours faces if she was in the nuddy.
Phil still unwell A.Bs behave given him horrendous diarrhoea ands he has lost even more weight he isn't much heavier than me now.So will call G.P in morning as don't want to ring 111 as they will just tell me to take him to A&E and that's the last place we need to be.So as Em says I am the mother hen and will smother him with attention till I get him well again.
Weather here not too good cool and showery but was so hot during the night and the flushes were yuk.
Flutter gently girls and enjoy BBQ Jane love and hugs Janice xxxxx

emmy
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Jane you really made me smile fiasco 🙂 just hope the peeps you are having for BBQ don't get stuck in your teeth!! 🙂 sorry couldn't resist or come to that Anne NO KNICKERS? NO T- SHIRT? good grief girl are you plodding around in the nude??? So sorry but am in great mood had fabulous country show on locally and managed to last 3 hours which for me is amazing!! It has been a lovely day all round went to son and DIL and ended up in hysterics as they were putting together their new bed, it's one with a gizmo for a tv then we all went out for a meal so I am flying at the mo 🙂
Janice I am so happy for you that Phil is home love you I bet you are being a bit of a mother hen with him!! I know I was the same when hubby came home after his do it made me understand the helplessness he must have felt so I appreciate the time we have now it doesn't mean he is a saint ( maybe he is for putting up with me?) but it is somehow much more special. I am betting you spend lots of time looking out to sea!!! I love the sea funny we live slap bang in the middle of the country and its lovely but there is something about the sea that is good for your soul.
Welcome to our new flutterbys I have found this thread full of support,humour and love from amazing women who are at different points in the journey to a new person dealing with all sorts of good and bad but always ready with the hand, spoons and just downright fabulous! I have been so grateful from day one to find Doz when I was crawling back from the precipice it was the start of new friends and having a forum to bounce off which has been the foundation of a journey to a new me 🙂
forgive me if I don't list you all but I am so pleased to meet more flutterbys and am sending you spoons, love and a big group hug Emm xxxxx

amd66
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Janice, so glad you have him home, and dont keep thinking about those tablets!!! do what feels right but dont keep pretending xx
lovely to read em's post, you write so nicely
wont be back on until end of week, lots of love to everyone
bournemouth and old haunts here we come, well im not the student i was but will still be fun
no t shirt and knickers today
Anne xxx
GIJaneH
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welcome Mandy, Faith and EMMA SO GOOD TO SEE YOU AGAIN!!!

DD and her fiasco are coming tomorrow .... lots of people for BBQ Sunday... day in London with DD for her birthday on Monday, and leave early Tuesday for a meet up with some other BC ladies in Morecombe!!! May be weary (and a little quiet)...

Flutter well and very gently.... especially the new, very vulnerable flutterbies... you WILL get stronger as you flap gently.. promise....

Doz1949
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Brilliant news Janice I hope you both have a lovely lovely weekend love and hugs xxxhugxxx
Faith this may sound like a pun but for your namesake do have faith sweetie it takes time as so many of us have said before, were all at different stages of recovery so your amongst friends who have been there still there and done it 🙂
Em soooooo lovely to have you back my dear and your special humour.... Some things never change 🙂 thank goodness 🙂 there,s one thing that lifts the spirits... That is a smile 🙂 xxx
With love to all you lovely Flutterbys double shift tomorrow eeeeeeeeeeeeyuk!!
xxxhugsxxx
mandyp
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I like this thread a lot......thank you Phoenix Lady - you're not he first person whi has said this .... a ldy at the haven said the same thing...but i have cried every day since my dx. so whatever it is, it is serioussly stuck! But i am going to tell myself 4 times a day that i love myself and i like the idea of a gratitude diary. i also really appreciate you coming back and telling us that there is a good life after cancer.xx
amd66
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Lovely to read our latest posts. Had already forgotten to say I love u to myself, working tomo then off to bournemouth for 2 days, I went to bCollege

l there in the 80s, so will be looking at old haunts and mt old bedsit, hotel has nice pool and hope to find nice tapas or cocktails, flutter gentkyGently to u all, today has been busy but vetBetter, written on daugters tablet so excuse typing cerrors xxx




jmr
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Welcome Faith we know exactly what you mean but I am sure a few visits to this site will help you to realise you aren't alone
big hug to make you feel better
Phil now happily home and says he feels normal again maybe they discharged him a bit too early.Just hope this is the start if a good recovery. Love and hugs to all Janice xxxxx

Faith_63
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Hi all, iwould also like to jump aboard,finished my treatment around 6 months ago,
feels like this C has chewed me up and spat me out, and left a paranoid wrecked heap !
i am trying to move on, but as you all know its not that easy, stiil trying to find that new
"normal" xxxx
jmr
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My garden is overlooked by what used to be sheltered housing but now sort of retirement flats so methinks t shirt and knickers may not bode well for some of them ha ha especially my body.Glad to have you back Em and yes IBS goes with the fibro as my friend has it.Flutter gently my friend and hope they don't need to do anymore oscopies.
Lozza I feel very plod now as my family are 42, 41, and 35 it's hard to believe sometimes but I was only 23 when I had my eldest.I am busying myself dusting the bits I can see as Ami said and waiting for call which will ask me to go get Phil.
Still haven't taken a pill yet will give it another few days and if I can remain calm I may not bother.Sitting looking out to sea helps so may take half an hour a day and do it and forget the world for that short time.
love and hugs Janice xxxxx

emmy
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Good morning flutterbys phew!! A veritable flitter of flutterbys!! I do remember a discussion on what to call a gathering of flutterbys and as there are so many now I thought I would use it as there are so many more of us 🙂
Well coming to the conclusion that the are so many ways of using coping stratagies that it can be confusing so I think what works best for any person is great! I have had the meds side of things checked out and it is definitely the right diagnoses I have Fibro but may have had it for years as I had some of the symptoms before BC but didn't see it as there was a lot going on at the time and seems BC has finally sent it into overdrive!! i had scan,then yesterday had endoscopy so far no stones or ulcers so they are now talking colonoscopy BLIMEY are there any more oscopies out there left??? 🙂 going to ask for a rest as they are leaning towards this being part of the symptoms of Fibro (IBS) and again I think it's right as I was diagnosed in 2005 after colonoscopy at the time and it all came flooding back yesterday,I remembered the specialist waking me and saying sorry we had to anesthetise you as your bowel went into a huge spasm and we could not get our camera back!!! How very embarrassing is that?? Even worse I replied being a scouser I tend to hang on to expensive equipment :0 it was the effects of the drugs honest 🙂 it just fell out of my mouth so maybe not finding my vein yesterday wasn't such a bad one heaven knows what would have tumbled out 🙂
Well done Jane for clear results so glad for you and Janice so hope Phil is home soon so you can spoil him 🙂 Doz what are you like? I could imagine the scene you outside in your lounger priceless!!! It made me smile!
Right got food shopping (oh joy) and wanted to say I am back flutterbys I just needed the down time to get my head round it all and actually it's not the disaster it once may have been!! I have missed being here with you all and so many thanks for some of your pm's they helped me through so this Flutterby is still a job in progress!! I cope by seeing that funny around the corner it works for me 🙂 take care all in the words of Arnie ( I will be back ) 😉 spoons for those that need it,and of course something I have so missed a big group hug. Emm xxxxxx
Anne t-shirt and knickers? My kind of girl 🙂

Lozzarooney1
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Am wide awake ... can't sleep... So thought I'd come and see what you've all been up to.

Janice - hopefully your Phil will be home later today so you won't be lonely and you can feed him up! ❤️
Helen - hope you get your ortho appt soon. birthday celebrations ... how lovely ... 21 gosh where does the time go! My eldest will be 30 this year and I have a 26 year old and my youngest is 24 next month. Gosh I feel old! 😮
Doz - hopefully you're slumbering now. So frustrating when your hands are too hot for gloves... I remember those days and that was pre BC! Ooh a double shift on Saturday - rest up today and spoil yourself.
Jane - sorry you're having a difficult time at work ... hope it resolves itself and you are able to make any necessary decisions and have peace in your heart about it. I miss coffee ... tastes awful now and I so used to be a coffeeholic 😞 Miss chocolate too ... Malteasers and Cadbury Giant Buttons ... used to be my favourites ... cant taste it now sadly 😞 but I can taste plain Bounty bars 🙂 funny really cos I used to hate plain chocolate!
Anne - ooh hark at you ... sitting in the garden ... T Shirt and knickers!! You go girl! Love that!

Welcome to the newbies from a newby!
Hugs and love to you all and I hope you all have a good day today.
Remember... the past is the past, you can't change it - but today is full of possibilities!
sleep well
Lozza xx
Doz1949
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2.15am still sat out in the garden.... Been working a late shift today.... Er yesterday now 🙂 and by the time I got home I was soaking, my uniform was stuck to me... Put it in the wash ready for a double shift for Saturday and I,m sure it came out drier than when I put it in eeeuuuooow!! Not thinking about retiring to bed yet its like an oven upstairs and too heavenly sat outside to even contemplate!
Welcome to the new chrysalis 🙂 very soon you will be fluttering along so just remember to have some quality time to yourself to forget how rotten you feel as its not going to last forever!! Where did I go will always be a stigma but we do develop into something special eventually it's just the getting there that takes time patience a strong mind and a lot of support xxxx
between star gazing swatting b****y mozzies and trying to convince Ben (dog) that the rustling in the bushes are probably our family of frogs is impossible... He hears a noise and plays the scaredy cat by shooting in 🙂 what a wuss!
Hot flushes galore and several packs of wet wipes later has been unbearable.. tho the hot flushes if they don't mind can just go and do one!! Sick to death of leaking 😞 can't get the rubber gloves on at work and by 8 tonight I think I ripped approx 20 pairs trying!!and my second armpits have been over active....inside my elbows?? Where did that come from??
oh well it's claiming to be a tad fresher tomorrow...... We shall see!
I hope you get Phil home soon Janice then you can start having your little bit of me time 🙂 enjoy honey xxxLove and hugs to one and all flutter gently don't go burning those precious wings xxxxhugsxxxx
GIJaneH
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Hi Janice. Do come for a cup of coffee in a chocolatier....seem to remember it was fun! Have to have some virtual company tonight....

pilates is brilliant, been doing it for years.....

not sure i understand those mindfulness stuff - I pray.... That helps....
hard stuff going on at work tHat I can't talk about, and it's too hot 34+) so sleep may be an issue tonight... Flutter gently...

jmr
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Phil was told most likely home tomorrow he feels so much better and it was so nice that hico surgeon from Freeman hospital rang to ask how he was and if any problems just to ruling him so nice.
Lots of lovely posts today and Phoenix woman I am going to be more positive and will repeat I love myself 4times a say.going to book massage as well and must get hair sorted as haven't had much time for me lately so I am going to have some me time everyday even if its just a long bath with relaxing oils.Helen enjoy the party it seems a long time since my family were 21.
welcome Tamsin we are becoming quite a big party again which is nice haven't sorted Pilates yet going to see how Phil does as he is so anaemic and BP so low he gets quite dizzy and unsteady so don't like leaving him too long but will def do it once he improves.
hope all is well with everyone else or as well as it can be live hugs and spoons Janice xxx
p.s feeling a bit lonely tonight as its sooo quiet xxx

HJU63
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I feel inspired to try pilates. I have been trying to swim 4 times a week but I struggle when I am working as I still get v tired. maybe a gentle exercise class would be a useful alternative. I have been waiting 10 weeks for an appointment with an orthopaedic surgeon as I might need a (partial) knee replacement - can't wait for someone to do something so that I can walk some distance without pain.
Very hot here in the Midlands - have to say that I have had some immense hot flushes today - no fun at all, nearly sweated all my makeup off. Tomorrow I have to be in a meeting for about 3 hours and I don't think there is any a/c - taking lots of tissues, drinks and my trusty postcard for fanning.

Celebrating my son's 21st birthday this weekend, hoping the sunny weather lasts so we acn enjoy a long evening in the garden. I think I might have a small Pimms or maybe some fizz - as its a special ocasion!!

Take care all, Helen

amd66
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welcome to mandy, tamsin, etc and thanks for great posts, phoenix woman you are definitely my kind of person, i start with great intentions on gratitude journal. relaxation etc but then let it slide. i think i need to acknowledge what works and keep it up.
Janice, figners or gingers, fingers!!!! crossed for phil. i have been trying mindfulness, it has to be repeated but it will try andget you to focus just on today and not look too far ahead, well done on a gp being positive about complementary therapy.
theres seems to be certain authorities with clinical pyschologists attached to cancer but nothing down here. i suppose it would be a long referral from gp if i dont feel i move on. i am accepting that this is only in the mornings and i am still doing so much normal stuff.
have listened again to a download of anxiety free, and i hope its getting through.
you are right, phoenix we are the ones to get such great support, and caring.
thats why im not worried that this is side effects, i know it is in my head.
love to you all, am still in my back garden, tshirt and knickers, its too hot!!! and they dont match either
theres a few pink tinged clouds, drifting gently across the sky
xx
and Helen too thanks for your good words, thats my daughters name xxx
Phoenix_Woman
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It's happened again! This machine has a mind of its own or is it being subtle and telling me to shut up! Mmm.It just fles off my fingers.
Love to all you georgous butterflies. XX ps Bamber Castle is one of my favourite places ........
Mandy it sounds like you need to cry. Perhaps you could get a pillow and a wooden spoon and beat the hell out of the pillow. Your body sounds as though it needs to release something. You will be ok. Tears have a healing chemical -oxyctocin.xxx