Just read your post Stella about Minoxidil. I have very fine hair (nothing to do with treatments, that's just the way it is). I've tried lots of different thickening shampoos and conditioners and most of them don't do anything. Howver, for me I've found that L'Oreal Fibrology shampoo seems the best then I follow with Jason's Lavender Conditioner which is very thick so I tend to water it down as I go along just so it comes out of the bottle! I think with Minoxidil that it works whilst you use it but if you stop using it then your hair will revert to how it was before. I always remember Jane 1 saying she had problems with her hair and that she was advised to eat 3 breakfasts but in stages e.g.half hour intervals and it should include some protein and she also mentioned that dried apricots were good too. Also, make sure you eat enough iron rich foods. Also, 2 years ago when I'd convinced myself I needed chemo I decided to have my hair cut short to prepare me (luckily chemo wasn't needed) but I liked my short hair and have kept it that way ever since because it makes it look thicker.
Doz-a good old sing song does wonders! We occasionally go and watch Man Utd play and we stand in the Stretford End belting it out with the rest of them.....wonderful.
Anyway, work beckons
It's very quiet on here so hoping that means everyone is enjoying the sunshine or is on holiday. Really glad it is a bit cooler I just don't seem able to do heat anymore. When I was younger I loved it but not these days; give me a cool sunny day anyday and I'm happy.
It's our 30th wedding anniversary in September so we're going back up to Scotland; it will be my 4th trip there this year....1st night of holiday will be spent in a castle; 2nd night we're going to the most northerly michelin starred restaurant in Scotland called the Albannach and then after that we will be staying in a cottage near the sea for a week. Can't wait to go.
Our daughter finishes her Masters course today hurrah so next week we're going to have some much needed relaxation and a few laughs at the Edinburgh Fringe. Hotels are sooo expensive there so we're booked into the halls of residence at the uni for £39 each for B&B; which I thought was really good value.
There are a lot of free shows but we're also going to a couple of paid shows...Eric and Little Ern and Frankenstein Unbolted!!
Hope everyone's ok
Thank you Janice and Emmy for your kind words. I mostly feel ok; I get on with work and enjoy my time off and holidays it's just that every so often that little gremlin comes to the surface and knocks me for 6. I know it will never go away and that I have to learn to live with it. Maybe I just need to go with the flow and accept that there will be times when I feel this way but know that it won't last and like you say Emmy hold onto the thought that tomorrow will be a better day.
Hi flutterbies, me again....
I feel a bit silly asking this as I'm now over 2 years down the line from diagnosis and surgery but...I still get what I suppose are flashbacks to things that happened during this time like today for instance I was driving to work when out of the blue it was like I was back in outpatients being told all over again that I needed a mastectomy. I nearly cried in the car but managed to hold it together as I was only a few mintues away from work. Does this happen to any of you? I'm not sure what to do about it or is it a natural process that I just have to go through? I'm don't really fancy having counselling but wonder should I? Help!!! My family and friends never mention it anymore and its like as though they expect me to be over it all and actually I don't think I am.
Just returned from hols; went to the isles of Harris and Mull. We had a great holiday and the weather was good; we even managed a swim in the sea on Harris at the gorgeous Luskentyre beach! On Mull we went on the boat trip again to see the Sea Eagles but this time had a real bonus of seeing bottle nosed dolphins swimming and jumping around our boat; wonderful.
Been catching up on the posts and was horrified to read about your friend Doz and what happened to her on Turkey; poor thing; I hope she makes a good recovery. Also it was good news to hear that your other friend's breast cancer hasn't spread.
Anne-also really good news that it was scar tissue; you must be very relieved. After all that worry I expect you now feel exhausted as well!
Emmy- your Dougie sounds so cute; animals quickly become a part of the family. I had to put our cat Iolo into the cattery and I missed him dreadfully. On Sunday morning I was at the cattery before opening time as I coudn't wait to see him. He looked really well and the owner didn't want to give him back as she had taken a shine to him!
Going back to work yesterday was tough; I feel shattered already! Anyway, speaking of work got to go and get ready. Take care flutterbies
Good to hear from everyone, and Doz nearly retired, janice sorry that Phil has been through the mill again, but sounds like he knows what he wants and can be manged that way. let us know how hospital goes, does not having repair means he keeps stoma etc, my medical knowledge not very good!! he is able to get about and go anywhere with you.
em, your poor sis in law, what a horrible shock but its sounds they have taken it in their stride,
elsa, glad things have moved on with your brother, its tough after all the difficult times they have had.
was out with the receptionist staff at somones house last night, im not really a newbie now but still felt a bit on the edge of it, but its bound to, with them working together, some for 6 years or more. i felt a bit awkward with not much to say, but think it was okay. there were 2 of us taken on at same time and she is very funny,and i know im the quiet sensitve one, who takes things to heart. reading this sounds a bit weedy. there is also squabbles with 2 older ladies, and you know I just wanted to tell them how petty it sounds and try having cancer. but i dont do confrontation, just moan on here.thank you ladies.
Teenage daughter has pmt and being a right grump! we decided we would have lazy, bread cheese salad, etc for dinner, 'well mum thats not proper food is it', well i wanted to say, go get a job, do your own dinner. just gets you down when they forget all the other stuff you sort out, but eh thats parenthood! shes getting roast pork tomorrow fgs!! she has piled of quite a bit of weight and i have to tread carefully, am hoping to pick up cheapish exercise bike, and hope she goes on it.
got a bit of a low sunday, night feeling but having reflexology before work so that should relax me.
i seem to be doing okay with anxiety and a bit more in control. accepting the feelings that come. i overanalzyze a lot esp in the mornings but its goes away. i dont think i can learn to turn that off.
love and flutters to you all,
glad you are here
Hello flutter by s, hace some xatching up to do. had my yrgent refferal abd all okay. Scar tissue. Everyone ekse very relieved abd I jyst felt the same. Battery low was will write more. Have been plodding along. Doctors ok, can get a bit petty sonetimes, stilk going to support group in the woods, and days go up and down much love to you all
Waiting for mammo results is awful; where I am it's usually a 2 week wait. Why can't you get them on the day; it would be so much better. All that stress can't be good for us.
At work we've had a new locum child psychiatrist started and he's lovely; nothing is too much trouble; let's hope it lasts. I actually slept soundly last night; which is the first time in ages and is it because I'm feeling less stressed at work because of him? Maybe. His predecessor was awful; he wouldn't communicate with the team; he literally put barriers up by keeping his office door closed or not replying to emails; it made working life very very difficult.
Good news; do you remember me telling you all about my brother and his alcoholic wife? Well he's sold the house and the sale completes today (Friday 13th I know!!) so at least financially they are now separated thank goodness. Next step is divorce. He just wants some peace and quiet; not much to ask is it?
Anyway, the sun is shining, it's my day off. OH and I are having lunch later and I think a glass or two of red/white/rose/sparkly (haven't decided yet!) will go down very nicely!
Just been catching up on everyone's posts..a lot going on for us at the moment what with wedding anniversaries - congratulations Janice and Phil and only 4 wines!! - and Doz thinking of retirement...possibly?? I've been thinking not of retirement but scaling down on the work front. Working in the NHS is so stressful at the moment and do I want it anymore?? No I don't. Yesterday I had my check up with the respiratory consultant; lovely man. He thinks my sarcoidosis has burnt itself out and I don't need to be see for another 2 years. I just felt huge relief and exhaustion after the appointment as haven't been sleeping well for worrying about it. Anyway, I got to thinking that I have enough to worry about with my health that I don't need the hassle of work so will be looking for another completely diffferent job; it may take some time to find the right one though.
I like to think that little butterfly was Ami watching over you Doz; I often think about her and what a lovely person she was; so kind.
Anyway flutterbies, flutter gently
janice, you may find there are tiny things over the summer that you can enjoy, even if it just a new flower, a nice smell, a cream tea you make yourself, look for those things.
Im so sorry to hear all this about phil, and guilty that i hadnt been on here. hope things have improved and chin up, he must have been gutted. you have always been so lovely wit support for me.
much love and hugs
and will catch up with the other news.
am still waiting for mammo, cant remember when i felt the change, saw registrar he feels its probably scar tissue. but do the tests to be sure, only bummer will be I cannot get to speak to someone straight after, as it is an extra clinic.
am trying just to think thats nothing, we are away to edinburgh, next sunday, first time we have flown, we went there for honeymoon 25 years ago inaugust. so shame that i wont know by then.
went to gym today, and instead of just swimming, made the effort to go into studio, 30 mins or so on some of the machines,good to get a bit sweaty.
anyway will catch up more tomorrow