@Luli - thank you for your kind words. Sometimes it is easier to chat on here with others who have gone through/are going through the same. Friends can mean well but often aren’t sure what to say - and can end up doing or saying the wrong thing. Please do stay in touch and we’ll be right here with you supporting you through this. Evie 🤗
Ty so much @Evie-S
I have been trying to keep occupied with my physical therapy, watching tv but idk i feel like im going crazy i try not talking too much about it to my kids because i dont want to worry them too much. And then again i realy dont have many friends to talk to and the ones i do talk to dont seem to understand why im so scared. Im glad i found you guys on here and can express myself without being judged. Thank you again so much and i sure will keep you guys posted as soon as i get my results.
Blessings your way! 🙏
Hi @Luli - a big welcome to this lovely forum from me too, I’m glad you reached out for support and have already received some wise and helpful advice from Jaybro.
I’m not sure if I can add much, but I wanted to pass on some advice I was given/read while going through waiting times and treatment. First was to take one day at a time and not let my mind race ahead of me. The second was that fears are not facts - this is similar to the first in that we should try to focus on what we know rather than letting ourselves go down that rabbit hole. Of course it’s much easier to type that advice than act on it - the waiting time really is tough, so do try to find something to distract you, whatever that may be, perhaps a treat, mindfulness, walking, TV shows/movies.
This forum is a safe non judgemental place where everyone just “gets it” without you needing to explain, so do use it as much or as little as you need, whether you want advice or just to offload or ask for a hug. Please keep in touch and let us know how you get on. Sending you hugs, Evie xx
Thank you very much for your kind words and all the information you provided. You’re absolutely right I also think is because of the holidays. Im just an over thinker like my 21 yr old says and thats what kills me. And yes i think im going to start to try and forget about the results for now. I dont know how to explain this and im sorry if my wording is wrong im desperate because i dont know i think once i know if is benign or if its not ill be ok. Because then i will know what i will have to do if anything i dont know if you understand is not knowing what hurts i go to bed thinking about it wake up thinking about it. I guess i really need to find something to keep me entertained i do forget while im doing things but then you know.
I want to thank you so much for taking your time to read and answer my post i have no one to really talk to about this God bless you always🙏
I’m sorry you find yourself in this position. What I will say is that waiting feels interminable and what you describe is how almost everyone feels at the start. We’re still here so it’s painful but we survive. You are right, your results may well show a benign condition. 60-90% of referrals to breast clinics turn out to be benign, yet the fear each woman has put herself through because we have a tendency to jump to the worst conclusions feels unbearable.
The language of breast clinicians is alarming and, quite honestly, unless you are someone with little faith in their hospital or with a need to feel completely in control of decisions made, rather than accepting that there are specialists and they know far more than we do, I’d suggest sticking to the basics until you know where you stand. No amount of poring over the written report is going to change the outcome. ‘Suspicious’ does not mean you have breast cancer. It means there is something that needs more tests to identify or eliminate various possibilities. I have CT scans every quarter now and every report so far has come up with various ‘suspicious areas’ - one turned out to be a badly healed fracture of my sternum, not cancer at all. In fact, none has been cancer.
Going through this over the Christmas period is an extra frustration because staffing levels fall at all levels and services are stretched to the limit. My hospital’s radiology department issued an email stating they had a 13 week backlog - I still got my CT scan, only one week late. So the histology labs are likely to be a bit behind. Better they continue to be rigorous than to rush through results. I was a private patient in 2018 and twice I turned up for appointments to find the breast surgeon ringing the labs to get my results, so the problem of delays runs across both sectors, public and private.
You really do need to change your focus from what you can’t control (is it? Is it not?) to what you can control - your emotional wellbeing. Do what makes you feel good - running, baking, yoga, whatever. Make a point of allowing yourself at least two hours a day to practise whatever you find helpful - mindfulness, meditation, journaling. I get by with a daily meditation by Progressive Hypnosis on YouTube. It not only relaxes me, it often sends me off into healthy sleep after a night of insomnia. If you do have breast cancer, this will stand you in good stead as you go through the process of treatment.
Incidentally, over 90% of breast cancers which are caught early need no further treatment and have no recurrence. Breast cancer is crap, the treatments even crappier, but we’re all going through it or have been through it so it’s definitely manageable. I hope you get your results soon (but be prepared for more tests, just in case,,,). Good luck
Im a 40 yr old woman on 3/29/21 i had my first mammogram and some masses where found on my right breast. The technician ordered for me to have a 3d mammogram and an ultrasound i had that done on 5/13/21 and that time they recommended i had another mammogram and ultrasound of my right breast in six months. On 12/2/21 i had it done they said this