I am married and have a 20 year old son. We have always been a very close family unit and share/discusse everything. However, my diagnosis has put a real strain on this, particularly my relationship with my son. He cannot cope with Mom being ill after treatment etc and struggles massively when I am unwell, particularly if I am in bed. To add to this, he has been in a very intense relationship for over 4 years with someone who continues to creates huge conflict in the family. This conflict has been going on for 3 years but is far worse since my diagnosis. She has openly told my son that I am feeling sorry for myself and everything revolves around me!!! She wouldn't even come to our house as she found it depressing because of me. Thed culmination of this was 6 weeks ago when she shouted at me to p**s off (this was on a pub car park with both my husbands and son's friends present). Needless to say my husband told her she was not welcome at our house and we have not seen her since. My concern is that my son is getting no support from her at all at a time when he needs it more than ever. He spends the majority of his free time, including all weekend at his partner's house.
I am really worried about how he is coping with the cancer and the lack of support he gets from his partner. I am also at my wits end with his relationship. Part of me thinks let him get on with it, after all he is 20, but the Mother in me wants to try and advise/support him.
Sorry to rant and I know there really is no answer to all this. Just feeling really angry and frustrated today and needed to vent. B****y cancer affects everything