Thanks very much Wonky:). I'm working at full capacity these days (I work in mental health) & am struggling to manage my workload as well as all of the anxiety/messages from family/friends about COVID so am intentionally keeping my messaging down so that my work doesn't suffer. I appreciate the offer though! I hope you are well?
I must apologise for not replying until now. I've not been checking the forum at all and am so sorry.
In the end I decided to buy gifts and they were all very grateful. I've since had a second surgery but have not sorted any thank you's out as a result of COVID, etc. I'm behind in everything at the moment.
I hope you are well....
Thanks Jaybro. I *had* actually thought of a donation, etc but am still undecided.
It also occurred to me that I should wait for my treatment to be over but that could be another 6-9 months and a card feels so “small” given what she’s done so far. I need to think about this:). She will be the main person treating me (I know this) but I appreciate there are a lot of nurses, etc. I’ve already ordered 24 cupcakes to be sent to the ward I was on as a thank you to the nurses on the ward.
The numbness is quite normal from
what I’ve heard...I’m sorry you are still suffering with discomfort.
Hi Marla, you are such a lovely person to think of other people when you have cancer. But I totally get where you are coming from! I sent 'thank you letter' to my surgeon, including thanks to his team and I can only assume he appreciated that, as he remembered and commented on the day I next met him and learned my fate. He seemed very 'chuffed' that I made the effort, more for his staff, than for him. So ( and I totally get you) I think you should think more about a donation to charity and maybe some nice m&s tins of biscuits for the wider team. Immense respect to you Marla, because I also think it is important to be thankful. Wonky X
My advice is to slow down unless you’re all done and dusted, lovely though the idea is. As you say yourself, they get so many gifts.
You don't yet know what lies ahead. I had a very experienced surgeon who, no, doubt, saved my life and went out of his way to make everything I needed possible - such as going home the same day. But as my scars healed, I was left with two sizeable ‘dogears’ at the end of my scar and an upper arm that was completely numb for almost 12 months and even now causes considerable discomfort. Not his fault, considering what he had to do. He has received a fulsome letter of thanks for his contribution to my treatment.
If you are moving on to further treatments, there will be many people to whom you’d love to give a personal gift (and some you’d like to thump) and the whole thing gets out of hand. Why not wait until you’re treatment has ended for the decision about gifts? I suspect if you asked them, they’d suggest a donation to their hospital (unexciting but somethings others will benefit from).
Hello ladies...I'd love to hear from those of you who have bought gifts for your surgeons/nurses/anaesthetists as a "thank you for taking such good care of me" and if so, what did you give them? I adore my surgeon and would love to show her my appreciation by way of a gift. I've thought of a nice "hamper" of goodies but these days one cannot possibly know if someone drinks/eats chocolate/dairy, etc. I would hate for it to go to waste if it's not to her taste. I've thought of asking the BC nurse if she knows her taste...any suggestions welcome-thank you:).