Lemondrizzle, I echo everything ElvieS has said. Postpone your birthday until you really feel like having it. Do let your BC nurse know exactly how you feel - which isn't at all unusual, as ElvieS has stressed. It can take days to get over a general anaesthetic, and weeks to adjust to the physical and emotional effects of what is major surgery.
At my post-op session with my surgeon three weeks after the op, he asked me how I was. So I explained in a straightforward way that whilst I was organised and matter-of-fact on the outside because I had to be, I was feeling very frail on the inside and near to tears. He immediately pointed out, reassuringly, that that was only to be expected, I had gone through major surgery and had had a general anaesthetic, and that I must allow myself to recover at my own rate. And that was 3 weeks after the event.
Do take all the support that comes your way. Your BC nurse can advise on what is available through the hospital and Macmillan have phone services you can use. Their number is 0808 808 00 00, 9.00am - 8.00pm, Mon - Fri. Their website is www.macmillan.org.uk.
Come in here and let off steam.
All the best
Lemondrizzle2 - I'm going to start by giving you a huge hug and also telling you that you are not alone and never will be. The lovely ladies on here will give great support. Maybe there are support groups where you live too - have a chat with your BCN.
Also be aware that anaesthetics can make you feel very low days afterwards, I know that happened to me. Plus you are getting used to a new change to your body, that all takes time. We are grieving our former lives and bodies. Be gentle on yourself and take one day at a time. Go ahead and book that haircut and any other treats, you deserve them.
Definitely speak to your BCN and I'm sure she will help you along. You can always postpone celebrating your birthday until you feel more like it, but maybe you will feel better in the morning.
I had my surgery on Monday and was given the chance of having reconstructive surgery done. Unfortunately they can only do the affected breast so I'm now very lop sided as my breast size was 42E.
I was OK until today and now I'm feeling very low and alone. It's my birthday tomorrow but I wish it wasn't. I thought I would treat myself to a hair cut seeing as I can't wash my hair in the usual way but everywhere is fully booked until next week. It's not something you think about when you booked in for treatment. Oh well the drag me through a bush look will just have to do for now.
I'm going in to see my BC nurse tomorrow to get the dressings changed so I will have a chat with her. Knew this all had to hit me at some point and it choose today. 😢