Tweenie, get you, I had to reply. I read post one and wanted to send big squishies, but now look at you. You DO have strength, just your own sweet way. After the op I felt a bit wobbly (emotionally) but after three weeks was feeling positive and ready for the results. the waiting is tough, but you do get your head around it. I'm a real worry wort and everything would set me off, but surround yourself with good friends and family and keep up with friends on here and you will get stronger and stronger. I loved your wish: 'I cannot wait to be home tomorrow night in my pj’s knowing that another thing has been ticked off this list and give my son the biggest cuddle (with my good arm of course).' wow that sounds super strong and the fighting spirit you have been looking for - it was there all along. Yes you will get wobbly, and that is OK, but for now girlfriend you are doing great.
all here for you..
Delly - if you click the “@“ button it is a way to tag people, and an email will be sent to them notifying them that they have been mentioned in a post, assuming they have such notifications turned on. By clicking “@“ the member’s name turns pink. Hope that makes some sense. Evie xx
Lovely. Glad you've let us know you're OK. The fact that we all helped to make you feel better last night makes us feel better. I always suffer the night before something major and unknown. Keep doing well and lay off the housework, eat and drink well to heal well.
Here Here, to ALL that in your message, tweenie. And I would never wish it on anyone either.
I'm not understanding why the "@delly" has appeared? as opposed to just delly?? xXx
I certainly will be, this forum has been invaluable to me during these early days of shock and sadness.
friends and family try their best however I think you truly will never understand until you have been there or are going through it yourself, however I would never wish it upon anyone.
Im hoping that one day I can look back on this and be a stronger tougher person who will treasure every moment ❤️
I'm interrupting your tv viewing and relaxation time.
Pleease don't think or feel I'm trying to "twist your arm", BUT, pleease DO carry on using this Forum, during your recovery and BC journey. I cannot tell you how invaluable it is/can be. An Endless source of support, great advice and shared experiences of so many other women who've either "been through it" already, or are going through it at the same time as you are.
I so hope all goes well with/for you. Please stay in touch.
Lots of love, Dellywellydingdong 😆 xXx
@tweenie - I’d like to echo Delly’s lovely message. I’m so pleased to hear that you are home and doing well. As Delly says, lots of treats and looking after yourself as you recover. Evie xx
Eeeeee, tweenie. Listen to you, Ha Haaa!! Not exactly what you'd call a "walk in the park", cos it's far, faaar more serious than that - isn't it just girl. But . . . I'm lovin hearing that you're back at home, seeming and sounding so "laid back" and relaxing 😅. Cosset yourself. Very important to, and . . . You're sooo "worth it" my darlin. Do keep us informed how you are doing, hey. xXx
just an update I’m back at home watching tv in bed.
Feel fine and had food on the ward, met some lovely ladies who were also having their surgery today.
thank you for your support last night it really made me feel better about today.
lots of love xx
Awww, tweenie, sweetheart, I soo feel for you.
Regards General Anaesthetic - D'ya know what? It's the easiest and BEST bit of all this BC operation s**t you're having to go through. I had two boob mast and ANC ops, and a number of knee ops, and I can definitely and reassuringly tell you, EVERY time, the anaesthetics team were ab-fab amazing. Ultra caring, kind and so reassuring in their approach and manner. Honestly.
You'll probably have a pre-op sedative tablet. They oh so "caringly" administer the GA, ask you to count down from 10 or similar, and by the time you've reached 5 >> zzzzzzzz. 😌 You're totally out of it. Every time, it's always been the best sleep EVER 😃Trust that you are in GOOD HANDS, and that they're ALL doing the best for you.
Also, you'll have been "starved" for quite a few hours, so waking up in warmed blankets, hungry, and to someone else making you tea and toast? Likely to be the best you've ever tasted!!! 😋
I'm sure everything will go well, and we look forward to hearing from you afterwards, when you've woken up properly, and when and if you feel like reporting back. xXx
I feel I must reply to your post and wish you all the best for your surgery tomorrow. I too was a stranger to the world of general anaesthetics, having only had tonsils out at age 4 and still remember waking up from that. I was extremely worried about my operation but wanted to re-assure you totally that all will be actually OK. All you have to do is make sure you do the things the Nurses want you to do, and if you can't - eg I tried but couldn't get the compression stockings on - do make sure you ask for help. Ask for painkillers if you need them. I was very well looked after and I am 100% sure you will be too. Time will absolutely fly by. Make sure you get some lovely buttered toast, lots of teas, coffees and biscuits afterwards. The sooner you can prove you can eat, drink and have a pee without too much trouble, the sooner you'll be home relaxing with your family who I am sure will pander to your every need. Remember, your cancer is treatable and having it out is the right thing to do.
@tweenie - thank you for your kind words. I had so much help from this forum when I was going through treatment that I wanted to stay around to see if I could try to help others newly diagnosed - it would be wonderful if you too decide to stay around after your treatment to share your experiences. But see how you feel, you may want to or you may decide you want to pack away that part of your life, it’s such a personal decision.
Keep focussing on that image of yourself back home in your PJs cuddling your son, and also the fact that by that time the lump will be gone. As you say, I’m sure once you are there it will be easier, at the moment it’s the fear of the unknown. Remember that your team do this operation every day, you are in good hands.
My over active brain is already thinking ahead to my next mammogram when any good advice goes out of the window! So I know what you mean.
Please message in the morning, or this eve, if you need any more hugs and support, I’ll keep an eye out. Otherwise do come back when you feel up to it and let us know how it went. Evie xx
Thank you so much for your kind reassuring message.
I truly hope that one day I am able to help other ladies on here like you do, it’s so lovely that you are able to help others when you have been in this difficult position yourself.
I have ordered the book that you have mentioned, I am hoping that my over active brain will soon calm down and just allow me time to process one thing at a time rather than a million things at once!
Like all of us I did not see this coming at all, I was happily enjoying being a busy working mum and even after a month I am still feeling so much shock.
I am going to make sure I let the medical team know how anxious I am in the morning and hopefully I will feel better once I am there.
I cannot wait to be home tomorrow night in my pj’s knowing that another thing has been ticked off this list and give my son the biggest cuddle (with my good arm of course).
thank you again for taking the time to message me xx
@tweenie - first of all a big gentle hug coming your way, and good for you putting down your thoughts on paper, and reaching out on here. I could have written your message myself, as I’m sure many others could. So you are not alone in feeling as you do, particularly the day before your op. Your medical team will have dealt with anxious patients before so tell them how you are feeling and they will be even more caring.
The GA is a strange feeling, the injection goes in and you are “out of it” before you know it, the next thing you know you are waking up in recovery. I was also very anxious and I seem to think they gave me a sedative before - but it’s all a bit fuzzy now so I may have imagined that. A close friend has just had a lumpectomy and snb and was home the same afternoon, and thankfully is recovering very well.
I also had counselling after my treatment and that helped a lot, as did a book that was recommended on here called The Cancer Survivor’s Companion by Frances Goodhart and Lucy Atkins. The line I always quote and try to remind myself is “fears are NOT facts” - much easier to type than put into practice of course. We have to try to deal with facts if we can.
Again easier said than done, but the best advice I had was to take one day at a time or even one hour at a time when things get really tough. We are all right here for you and will be with you tomorrow holding your hand virtually. Please keep chatting on here if that helps. Sending hugs and strength, Evie xx
ive posted a few times over the past few weeks and find this space so helpful to share how I feel.
I have my lumpectomy and snb tomorrow and I’m so worried.
I have never had a general anaesthetic before so that is not helping, i have just said bye to my little boy who is staying with his dad for a few days & I’m finding everything really hard.
I have tried everything to try and ease my anxiety since my diagnosis I have been to reiki and have started cbt counselling last week.
I have been an absolute wreck since finding out and I see posts from ladies on here who are so strong & I am really not good at this at all.
i have a fear of test results I’m already worried about the next appointment my mind does not switch off I have also contacted my gp who has given me something to help me to sleep.
I feel so guilty when I look at my little boy that this is happening in our little world and I am so scared for the future and any little niggle that I am getting I convince myself it’s all related.
Any advice would be appreciated xx