Thank you for your kind messages! Leonie and Ann Marie, I understand how you must feel about the waiting as it becomes your focus in life and it’s very hard to think about things that might be going on elsewhere. It will happen and you will be able to move on but it certainly teaches us patience.
Wendy, I’m glad you got some feedback from your visit yesterday but you have also been caught up in the waiting game - when do you expect to hear? Hope your wounds are healing well.
I'm based in Cambridge so at the big teaching hospital here. Can’t fault the staff, they have been lovely. Being assessed 4 hourly now which has meant I can get some sleep but looking forward to leaving this hot room for a bit.
Hi Wendy .. good to hear your updates .. I hate the waiting for results stage .. seems to be so much part of this journey .. I feel I have such a long way to go ...but it’s good to hear of the steps beyond this one and progress being made xxx
Hi Cornish mum .. that does sound an ordeal you have had but through the worst of it .. are you in Plymouth .. forgive me if that’s an inappropriate question .. Iran just that I know they cover a large area and I am originally from the south west myself .. I have a friend that works for the bosom pals group at the hospital .. anyway .. may not apply to you .. i am up north now .. I hope things settle quickly I guess although they check on you regularly there’s a reassurance with that you are getting lots of care .. good to hear your update xxx
It’s brilliant to hear from you and it sounds as though you’re doing really well and I’m so pleased to hear that you’re feeling relatively pain-free! I agree about the coughing and they’re so keen that you do it. I think it opens up your lungs after the anaesthetic. It’s hard to rest when the checks are very frequent but it gets easier and easier.
It sounds like you are being true to your work about mobility - and at least it’s an escape from the heat. Hope you’re starting to get more sleep now. I’ve been much better since getting home. I bet you can’t believe what you’ve just been through and how you’re feeling already! Do you still have any drains in?
I had my first post-op clinic today. A bit chaotic as the fire alarm went off and at first we weren’t allowed to leave the room - then were evacuated. Luckily, I was done and dressed by then! They seemed happy with scars and I’ve to start gently massaging except the central part of tummy wound as it’s still a little fragile. Pathology results weren’t back yet so will just have to be patient. I’m assuming all will be well, but not out of the woods until I can truly look back at the trees!
I’m sending you hugs and hope you continue to go from strength to strength.
Hi everyone, and huge apologies for the time it has taken to get back to you all. This is my fourth attempt! I’ve written to you but hasn’t posted on the forum because of internet issues or I have had to stop because of checks and then lost what I was writing. It has been a very long, few days but feel I have gradually improved at some things but struggle with others. The op went well. I was put under at 8.20am and woken up just before 6. I was in recovery for nearly three hours and finally went up to the ward at 9pm. I am amazed that I have been in relatively little pain, definitely the worst part is when I cough. My right arm has almost as much mobility as my left.
There was not much possibility to sleep as I was checked hourly for the first 24 hours, then two hourly after that. The surgeon comes by daily to check the flap as well. I went on a walk, twice, down the corridor with the physio and a friend; today I’ve been on a walk without the machine following me around as I’m off fluids and the catheter, plus two drains removed which is great.
Bits I’ve struggled with are the heat of the room and feeling sick. Even the staff come in to the room and say how hot it is! My temperature hit 38.8 on Saturday and I felt very low. However, now that I’m allowed to walk down the corridor on my own, I shall be escaping as much as possible! As for the sickness, I’m on meds for it but have come off the morphine so hopefully it will improve.
Ann Marie, that’s great news that you’ve got an appointment to see a plastic surgeon on Wednesday. It must be such a relief and I totally understand what you mean about being able to explore the options. It’s all about peace of mind, isn’t it? Hopefully it will be the news you’re hoping for or you will at least know why it’s not suitable. It is so difficult making these decisions and trying to make the best choice for yourself when, let’s face it, this has hit all of us out of the blue and we are dealing with so much information. I felt so many doubts- partly because it’s a bigger operation but also because I didn’t feel at all unwell. It’s hard to explain.
Wishing you all the best,
Hi Julia Wendy Leonie .. it’s so interesting to hear how you are doing . I hope the surgery goes ok Julia ..and wendy I am pleased to hear of your progress ..I now have an appointment next Wednesday to see the plastic surgeon so that was a bit quicker than I expected .. emotionally threw me a bit as I was in a place of doom and gloom and then whooshed into elation to think something was happening .. such a big surgery and her I think without it I would be so low .. even if they sat I can’t have it for some reason , I will be able to sleep to think I asked and not be thinking I wish I had enquired .. I am carrying quite a bit of weight on tge tummy area .. never thought that would ever be a good thing .. but we will see! I just want to feel balanced and feminine .. I know no result is perfect but this does sound hopeful ! x
Welcome, Leonie! Lovely to hear from you - although I’m sorry you have found yourself here wrestling with everything that has been thrown at you and having to make these hugely difficult decisions. And thank you so much for your kind words. Personally, I don’t feel in the least bit brave, but this conversation has been a massive support and has helped me to sort out some of the thoughts and emotions over the last few weeks. I’m so glad if other people have found it at all helpful.
I was only offered a mastectomy as DCIS was over a relatively large area in a small boob. I do worry that the other side may develop a problem in the future as they wouldn’t be able to offer the same reconstruction options. But I’m trying to keep the ‘what ifs’ out of my head to focus on reality.
Like you, I would have struggled with going flat and implants seemed to potentially involve more chance of repeated surgeries or further treatment in the future. Although the diep is, without doubt, a much bigger surgery up front (as it were!) I felt that once through it, I would feel clear to get on with my life. It was also very important to me that the diep wouldn’t affect muscle strength. I’m no gym bunny, but I want to feel capable of just doing stuff, if that makes sense. I certainly feel now, one week post surgery, that although my tummy is a bit tight and stiff, I’m able to move around, sit up, climb stairs, etc without difficulty.
I have my first clinic appointment on Monday, so slightly nervous that all is well even though I feel that this has gone better than I could have imagined.
Sending you hugs,
You ladies are my heroes!
The way you have quietly coped with things in your stride is amazing.
I was offered bilateral mastectomy with immediate implant reconstruction but like you had concerns over implants...... seemed like adding more surgeries, complications and worries. The dcis was small enough in both breasts for lumpectomy so I went for that but it really worried me being given the choice at the same time being told medically the outcome was the same, it was a personal choice of which one I would prefer. One side however turned out to be invasive so I am now waiting for radiotherapy which I hadn't bargained on and seriously considered the mastectomy option again but medical team persuaded me rads was best option as only needed one side.
The reason you are my heroes is that despite not wanting implants due to concerns I felt it would be the only reconstruction I would ever be brave enough to do. But after rads, as it affects skin, that isn't an option should I have a recurrence so it would be autologous or flat as mastectomy is only option if I have a recurrence. I am obviously hoping I don't but both boobs were affected and it's obviously something we all worry about especially when newly diagnosed. But I also struggle with the idea of going flat.
You ladies have been honest and brave about your reconstruction experiences and shown despite the difficulties it can be done. Please know you have helped reasure me of this option and others too I am sure and I wish you continued good healing and recovery...and lovely new boobs
Hi Ann Marie and Julia
Welcome Ann Marie! Sorry to hear that you’re in this position of waiting. It sounds as if you have been through a lot already and a hold up because of the difficulty in finding a surgeon must be hard to bear. Fingers crossed that someone is found very soon.
‘Billy’ looks like being a really good match in size and shape. Had a bit more of a look when I showered today. The bruising is quite spectacular! It feels a bit swollen and tight under my arm but not painful. My boobs were fairly small and, although I’m slim, I had developed a wee, stubborn menopausal tummy which has at least been useful. Back to a flatter profile than I thought I’d ever see again! Clouds and silver linings!😳
I think the marking-up crosses your boundaries and mentally takes you from person to patient. Your injection sounds much worse than mine. Mine was into the side of my breast. It is all exhausting and overwhelming - but it’s another step towards being cancer free.
I will be thinking of you tomorrow and over the next few days.
Sending you love, gentle hugs and my very best wishes. 💕
Looking forward to hearing from you when you are up to it.
Hi Anne Marie and Wendy!
Welcome Anne Marie and glad you could join our chat. Sorry to hear you are having to wait for a plastics surgeon, it does seem to vary on where one lives in the UK. I hope you get an appointment very soon or is it possible to switch hospital (though that does delay things, as I found out). Please chip in whenever.
So glad things are progressing well, Wendy, you’ve been amazing. You seem more mobile than I imagined we would be at your stage so taking great comfort from this. Can I ask, is “Billy” the shape and size you were expecting? Have you had any issues with the healing? I’ve been warned my new boob could be smaller than the original as there’s not a lot of stomach tissue to use but I don’t think it will be that bad. Will wait to see.
My cold is a bit better but was still worried about the decision to operate or not tomorrow. I had two appointments today to be marked up and injected. After taking my temperature and listening to my chest they decided I was ok but final decision rests with the anaesthetist tomorrow morning. I had a junior doctor mark me up, supervised by the surgeon and consequently I have more lines on me than perhaps would be normal. I just hope they use the right lines! I had a big gap then before my next appointment - that injection I really felt, right in the areola, ow! I admit I had a wobble then as I could see all the lines on me and I felt overwhelmed about it all. I feel really tired right now. Like you, Wendy, I feel I just have to accept it, and want to get on with it now.
Going in tomorrow for 7am and will message you both when I’m up to it. Best wishes to you both.
Hi Julia and wendy .. I am a little behind you guys but just read your thread which was helpful . I had a breast reduction on 20/8 but didn’t get margins so am waiting for a date for a mastectomy / Diego reconstruction if the surgeon says yes .. seems to be only one guy that does it in my area so although I have an available cancer surgeon I don’t have surgeon 2 .. he isn’t even free to make an appointment with me .. so I am just in a waiting game at the moment .. I was glad to hear about your surgery and journey ! Anne Marie
It is so hard to believe that this time last week I was spending my pre-surgery night on a hospital ward. I was actually fairly calm by then. I think I had just resigned myself to it.
I did sleep better last night than in hospital but took badly with warmth and weight of duvet even though it’s a very light one. I am resting a lot but managed a freezer tea and cups of coffee, etc. Going up and down stairs is easier than I had imagined and I was able to walk to the end of the street and back while my mum was round. My brother is still coming in to feed cats for a few more days so I don’t have any bending. I’m glad I moved kitchen essentials within easy reach as stretching for a glass today was an immediate ‘nope!’ and I used a mug that I could reach for water! I’ve had an occasional thoughtless moment when I’ve gone to use my left arm to push or pull something. That’s an immediate ‘ouch!’.
’Billy’ is doing well and tummy is very neat and I think will heal well. I’m particularly noticing that it’s tight whenever I stand up - but it does ease. I have an angry rash at my drain sites as I seem to have reacted to some types of tape/ adhesive. My main boob and tummy ones are absolutely fine. The muscles up each side of my back are very achy by the end of the day. It makes washing and brushing teeth difficult but will hopefully ease as I become more mobile.
I’ll be thinking of you tomorrow. The marking up was weirdly impersonal even though they were very reassuring and kind throughout. It was a bit of a disassociation from reality. I did look at all the black marks and mentally gulp like the cat on the Specsavers ad! I was a bit worried about the radioactive injection but hardly felt it. My blue dye was done once under anaesthetic.
Being able to chat like this to someone in the same situation has really helped me too. Here’s to last minute packing, big knickers and smooth recoveries! 🥂
You’ve got this!
Congratulations on getting home! So pleased for you and you must be delighted to sleep in your own bed in a cooler room. You must have really worked hard on the mobility, something I must work on too if I want to get home sooner. How are you finding things now you’re home? I’m sure you are tempted to do things yourself but trust you have plenty of support. When do you have to go back for your next appointment?
I hope “Billy” is healing nicely, as too your belly scar. I imagined the drains would be in for a couple of weeks so really pleased to hear that you’re drain free.
I have two appointments tomorrow, one to be marked up (which I feel quite unhappy about) and the other for the radioactive injection for the lymph nodes. I’m still sniffing and coughing, so very apprehensive about what they will say. My nurse friend says that if I don’t have a temperature and my lungs are clear they will probably go ahead so keeping my fingers crossed. I still need to pack but the big knickers and one bra has arrived. I warned dear hubby about the future underwear!
I just want you to know that I am so much calmer for sharing our stories and grateful for all the advice and experiences. If I can just be allowed to have the op, I reckon I can do this.
Good wishes for a continued speedy recovery, hope the down moments are few, and don’t do too much!
That’s great news about your surgery going ahead as planned- even better that you’ve met the surgeon. Keep dosing that cold and fingers crossed it won’t make any difference by Friday!
Good news is that not only have I left the hot room, I’ve left hospital! Made a big effort with mobility as was annoyed staff weren’t helping at all - only the physio helped with one short walk less than halfway around the ward. Took matters into my own hands and asked a couple of my visitors to accompany me on a couple of ward laps each. Then did another couple on my own. Was careful not to overdo but felt there was an improvement each time. I have to say that the weekend staff were far more organised and supportive generally. Today I decided to try to get up, wash face and put support socks on before help was (or wasn’t🙄) offered and did another couple of laps before breakfast. Surgeon said he was happy for me to go home if I felt up to it. So here I am, boxes of painkillers by my side and looking forward to sleeping in my own bed! 🎉🎉🎉
I can’t believe how much improvement I’ve felt since Sunday morning. Catheter was taken out last thing on Sunday - apparently they do that so your bladder can relax overnight, and last drain came out yesterday. The Breastcare nurse checked and redressed my tummy after I had a shower today. Said the new dressing was more for my peace of mind than because it was needed. First chance I’d had to look at it and it looked great to me. I have to say that I’m incredibly impressed with what they’ve done. I would not have believed that I would feel like this or that my boob (which I’m calling Billy in my head!😂) and tummy would look like this already.
I’m usually a side sleeper too - maybe that’s why I didn’t sleep brilliantly, but I was propped in a semi-reclining position with the bed top raised and a pillow under my knees. It was ok and by Saturday afternoon I was starting to alter pillows and angles to suit myself. Stayed on my back though.
I’ve had a nap and a couple of tearful moments where I’ve just felt a bit overwhelmed. I dare say they won’t be the last.
I know everyone is different and this has just been my experience, but the anticipation really was the worst part so far. This is doable. Let me know if I can help with anything.
There was another technical glitch which meant I couldn’t write earlier but it seems to have been sorted now.
How are you? How is the mobility going? I hope by now you have left the hot room and are racing down the ward! Any news yet on going home or do you feel you are not ready yet?
Well, the good news is that a breast surgeon has been found, someone I have met already, and surgery is definitely booked for Friday. The bad news is that I have developed a cold, thanks there to middle son, and panicking a little that they will say I’m not well enough to have the op on Friday. Drinking honey and lemon, taking vitamin pills, sucking menthol sweets and piling Vicks Vaporub on my chest, something must work!
i dread to think what state the house will be when I get back but only two of them about so it can’t be that bad, can it? I must resist the temptation to clear up so will have to resort to nagging (that’s when they will know mum is feeling better).
Are you ok sleeping on your back? I think I will find that hard as I’m a side sleeper. You’ve done really well with all the drains coming out as I didn’t think they would come out so soon. And how about painkillers? Are you still taking them or can you manage? Are they checking you 4 hourly or has it lessened again?
i went to the JobCentre again this morning and have set the ball rolling to get some support. No problems this time, just have to wait for it to be processed.
Yesterday was mostly good. Yesterday’s walk was probably no more than 12 yards - but felt worthy of Sherpa Tensing! I was a little stooped but not as much as I expected and having done that, I feel easier just moving about on the bed. Unfortunately, every time they’ve put me in a chair, my blood pressure has plummeted and I’ve blacked out. Last drain was taken out half an hour ago and they are hoping to get me more mobile today.
I think that I’ll be in this room until I go home now. I’m also on a mixed plastics ward and I think there’s ENT as well. It can sound a bit lively out there at times! I was talking to the nurse as she said that another lady is coming in tonight. She was saying that this option is not routinely offered in some areas in England as it’s classed as cosmetic and they are pushing to meet targets. I have certainly been very well looked after. Like you, I’ve heard of ladies being discharged too quickly and having to go back because of infections. Such a pity that there can be such a high standard of care if it’s being wasted to play a numbers game. I’m really glad that I had this option and that I took it. The anticipation was definitely worse!
I did loads of stuff around the house before I came in, too. The day I was admitted, I had to have a second shower because I’d cleaned and hoovered so much! Threatened the kids with dire consequences if they’ve created any mess while I’m in here. Got my hair trimmed too just to make it easier to manage afterwards. The nurse who’s been looking after me at night thinks it’s hilarious that I’ve brought in my straighteners, but she’s got short, straight blonde hair and mine only has to hear of rain in a forecast to go crazy! I would suggest taking a little hand held fan and loading podcasts or music onto a tablet if you can. I’ve not really been able to concentrate on following a proper story or drama yet.
Let me know when you hear from the hospital and definitely find out if they have bras. It’s so hard to judge quite what to get - and if you don’t ask....!
hope you had a good day today. Did you manage to have that walk along the ward? How far did you get? I imagine you have to stoop quite a bit so as not to pull on your stomach. The plastics nurse told me last week at my pre op that I could do a maximum of 10 minutes around the garden when I finally make it home again, and build up from there.
i think I will have to investigate the bra service at the hospital. I do seem to vaguely remember a Macmillan stand advertising about a bra fitting service but I’m not sure if I’m confusing it with the first hospital I was at.
Will they be putting you on a main ward soon? I imagined I would be with other mastectomy patients but the focus of the ward I will be on is plastic surgery, so could be a mix of operations. There seems to be a push on simple mastectomy ops as day cases but I’ve seen some comments on these forum sites where ladies have got infections and feel that they have been discharged too soon with insufficient follow up care. It certainly sounds like you are being monitored very carefully which is reassuring.
My oldest son is jetting off to the Far East for a three week holiday as I write this. Glad he’s not around really and I’ve made him promise me lots of photos I can look at while I’m in hospital. Middle son is being taken back to uni (5 hour drive each way) the day after I go in by my husband so won’t see much of him on Saturday.
Just waiting now for hospital to call tomorrow. Thank you so much for your feedback and reassurance, I genuinely feel much more confident about tackling this week. I am sorting out jobs to do and making lists to help my husband next week, so thinking about them rather than me.
Hope you get a reasonable night’s sleep as your healing continues.
All the best
Very relieved it’s over but it’s been ok.
Surgeon was in again yesterday and today despite it being his days off! Just had 2 more drains out and cannula (I think that was just a back up in case I needed fluids). They are big on drinking lots and lots of water!
Hot room has been mostly ok. Visitors have commented but because you’re lying fairly still you’re not so aware. I did feel hot at night though (situation normal!). I didn’t have a heated blanket- just a few layers of padding over new boob. Talk of putting a bra on later today after a wash. Should also be up more.
Definitely hospital gowns at the moment. They’re untied so they just flip down the shoulder to check breast. I’m rather hoping that they’ll be more secure for my planned walk down the corridor later though!
Shouldn’t be a problem for your sons to come in. The staff have been great at preserving a little dignity even while checking dressings and I’ve had a few visitors including my son and brother without feeling exposed. In fact, had quite a lot of visitors with it being the weekend.
Physio should start tomorrow, but she gave me some basic breathing exercises, arm and ankle rolls and tummy contractions to do.
Really hope you gave Job Centre what for. That’s just ridiculous, and you’re right- it is expensive getting various bits and pieces. Hospital may well have bras. Nurse on last night said there were loads for ladies who didn’t have something suitable. I was also given a heart-shaped pillow which some lovely ladies make for breast surgery patients. It’s great for putting over your tummy or under your arm.
Please just ask if there’s anything. Different hospitals will probably do things slightly differently, but I’ll help if I can.
Big hugs back,
i was so pleased to hear from you! I’ve been thinking about you so much and hoping that everything went well, which it sounds like it has. You must be relieved that part is over and hopefully just a few more days in hospital before you can go home. Let me know how mobile you are getting and whether you can leave your hot room soon (not looking forward to that part - I was told three days in a very warm side room).
I’m still waiting to hear back from the hospital but when I spoke to them on Friday I was assured I would know by tomorrow. Apparently they are waiting to hear back from a breast surgeon who is currently on leave and returning Monday. I’m quietly optimistic that it will go ahead but won’t know for sure until then. I’ve ordered my big knickers and one high impact bra but will get more. It’s proving expensive!
As for benefits, well, I waited a whole week to be contacted by my nearest JobCentre and heard nothing so I did the 25 mile round trip to go there and book an appointment for next Tuesday myself. I did say a few words to them....
Let me know of useful things to take into hospital. I was thinking of my crochet but reckon my arm will be too weak to do stuff like that? Might save that for home. Sounds like I might need to take a supply of food in! Is it easier to wear hospital gowns rather than own nightwear? Have you started exercising/physio yet?
How have the family been? Are you getting lots of visitors? It helps a little when you’re stuck in a room. Another question - Is it ok for two sons to see me post op? I’m not sure with all the dressings, drains, exposure!
So glad you’re on way to recovery. I hope the healing continues smoothly and do write any time (I actually slept pretty well last night after a rough previous one).
Loads of hugs,
How are you coping? Have you heard any more about your date?
Op went well. Went instantly from ‘just a sharp scratch’ to someone calling my name and it was all over. So far so good. Everyone seems really happy with new boob. I have a wee look whenever they check it and scar looks very neat. It’s a bit weird to see them press it and feel nothing. All being kept very cosy! Tummy scar is taped so can’t really see anything. There’s bruising but not too bad and plenty of painkillers. The worst bit is the cannula in the back of my hand - and there’s a nippy wee injection to stop blood clots. Had a bit of a low day yesterday. Felt a bit stir crazy and I think they were short staffed. I also think all the anxiety in the lead up and the physical and emotional exhaustion hit me. Better today though. Walked to the door of my room and sat up in a chair. Small steps! 🏅 Food is truly dreadful and I’ve got family bringing stuff in. Your hospital might be better in that department!
Still not sleeping as you might be able to tell from the time, but there are so many checks- particularly for the first couple of days, that day and night don’t really matter. Down to 4-hourly now.
Hope this is all reassuring.
Will be in touch.
Thank you so much. I can’t believe I’m at this point. It still all feels completely unreal and today, in particular, has just been a blur! I’ve hardly stopped for breath.
I hope you get sorted out with all your forms. You don’t need to be worrying about that as well. And hopefully you get your appointment sorted out sooner rather than later.
I’ll be in touch when I can, but I will be thinking of you.
Huge hugs to you too,
sending you my very best wishes for a successful op, a new boob that you’re happy with and that you’re cancer free when this is all done.
Loads of hugs. Go girl!
Glad you are keeping busy. All this getting ready business reminds me a bit of when you’re due to give birth - except here the new ‘baby’ is a new boob! I’m sure the sleepless nights, tiredness, discomfort, etc will be the same, just no little bundle to cuddle!
Yes, I’m feeling fed up with the delay. All I was told was that it will be before October if it doesn’t happen on the 13th. I’m guessing that available slots in the following week have already been taken so I fear the worst that it will drag on until the end of the month.
I have done the same re photo but have just cropped the boob part. I wanted to compare the old boob look with the new. I hope I shall be very satisfied with the surgery (when it happens).
I'm currently trying to sort out finances as I’m having to resort to benefits until I go back to work. I’ve filled in a form but it has to be verified by someone at a Job Centre which is proving more difficult than you would think as I can’t contact a JC directly.
Wishing you a good day!
You must be gutted! At this stage, when you know it’s going to happen, you just want it to keep moving in the right direction. There’s such a big emotional element to this so fingers crossed that they sort it all out for you quickly. Had a chat with my GP this morning and she said that part of the issue is that we don’t feel unwell and are facing so many unknowns.
A couple of friends arranged for us to go out for tea tonight which was lovely and gave me something to look forward to all day. I am finished work now and have spent the day running around getting organised and trying to make sure there are enough supplies that I don’t need to do any real shopping for at least a couple of weeks.
At risk of sounding a bit bonkers, I took a selfie in a full length mirror wearing only my bikini bottoms as a kind of record of my real body. Made sure the doors were locked and the house was empty first! 😳😂
I was told today at pre op assessment that my date for 13th September is looking doubtful as there is no breast surgeon available ☹️☹️☹️. Just my luck....
really hope you’re finding some peace at nights, I do sympathise. Have you finished the course of sleeping tablets? Does it help to physically do a lot during the day - weed pulling, a long walk? I realise it doesn’t always help as you’re still unable to fall asleep. I’m like you in that I can’t drink a lot of wine but a biggish glass does make me very sleepy and I can nod off fairly easily. Sometimes I then wake up again around 3-4 pm but I’m not awake for hours.
I assume you’re not working now? I hope you’re finding this ok and that you can fill the hours before Wednesday. I’ve been thinking about you a lot and hope you’re not feeling too down. I’m glad you have friends who have had similar experiences as it really does a lot for nerves. Although I don’t feel too bad at the moment I have a space between now and my date and lots could change as it draws closer. I had a lovely meet-up with some ex work colleagues on Friday. Only one of them knew my situation and I didn’t want to spoil a nice reunion with my news so asked the one who knew to tell the others. They were lovely about it, some hugs and a quick chat and then on with the other news. I felt so much better for seeing them.
All the best, and you’re closer to getting this out of the way!
Great to hear from you. Struggled to get onto forum as well. Didn’t realise that it was a technical issue- just thought I’d somehow managed to lock myself out!
Had my preop on 16th. Was pretty straightforward. Weighed and measured again. Nurse went through a vast list of medical history questions. Very matter of fact. More blood taken than seemed strictly polite 🧛♂️. Although the letter said it could take a couple of hours, I was out in just under an hour.
Meantime, for the last couple of nights, I’ve been experimenting with wine as an aid to sleep. I’m a total lightweight and 2 glasses is my limit unless I want to feel rubbish next day. It hasn’t been a great success and even the cooler nights don’t seem to be helping much. Back to eking out the sleeping pills!
I did, however, have a very long blether on the phone with one of my oldest friends who had exactly the same thing- albeit with different recon - just over 10 years ago (unfortunately, she was away on holiday when this all kicked off). It was so reassuring to talk to someone who really understands the emotional and practical effects of the diagnosis and waiting. I came off the phone feeling much, much calmer!
Had a bit of ‘why me?’ wobble this morning - probably the result of another sleepless night and a sense of time marching on relentlessly. But as you say, this time next week....
Hope your preop assessment goes smoothly. At least we don’t have boils on our bahookies! 😜
Couldn’t get online yesterday, I think there was a technical glitch.
Got my letter re pre-op assessment so another trip to hospital next week. Presume you’ve had yours? September is just around the corner and this time next week you’ll have got the op out of the way....yes!
You're not a wuss! Here is a wuss: someone I know (a man) was due to go into hospital for surgery on an uncomfortable boil on Wednesday. He’d taken the week off work but come the day he called in sick because he bottled out of the op! So he’s still living in discomfort and isn’t likely to get another date for months.
I'm so glad it’s less hot, sleep is better though helped considerably by the wine! Hope you are finding the sleeping pills are having the right effect. Thinking of you and grateful for the contact!
all the best
The wine sounds like a good solution! 🍷 I got sleeping pills from my GP with strict instructions to use for no more than 4 days. So I’m trying a couple of nights without followed by a sod-it-I-need-something night. Although the anxiety combined with the heat on Sunday was too much and they didn’t seem to help at all. If the anaesthetist can get me to sleep for 8 hours, I’m taking him (or her) home when I’m released!
I think that getting the second opinion would at least reassure you that, horrible though this situation is, you’ve explored every option and this the right treatment for you - and you have the confidence that the hospital has those facilities if you need them. I would have a pretty long journey to get to another hospital with the type of facilities my local one has and it would be long journeys all round for my admission and discharge and for family visiting.
Like you, I want this to all be over- I just don’t want to think about that bit in the middle! At the moment, I’m such a wuss I don’t even like seeing those dates on a calendar!
Sending hugs to you too. X
All this decluttering and food prep helps to keep busy, it’s just been a bit too warm today to feel like doing much. A glass or two of wine certainly helps me sleep better - I normally only have the odd drink but becoming more frequent in the build up to the op.
I’m not sure if seeking a second opinion was the right thing to do as I’m ending up having exactly the same op that the first hospital recommended, just later. I do feel that the second one really tried to explore other possibilities and I had further tests to try to avoid a mastectomy but it wasn’t to be. I’m grateful for what they tried to do. Also, this hospital has all facilities on one site whereas if I do need radiotherapy I would have a much longer journey to a different hospital that I haven’t been to before. Your hospital sounds very good, too.
I also have to prepare the chn. Fortunately one will be away abroad for a few weeks, one will be heading back to uni the day after my op so won’t have to see too much of me, but the youngest son will be around and, like you, I don’t want him to see much of those first few days in hospital. My hubby is starting a new job next week, making it much more difficult to get time off but fortunately have a wonderful friend who has offered to help do a lot of the transporting to and from hospital.
I hope you are able to keep on an even keel over the next few days. I’m feeling a little envious that your wait will be over before mine — I’ve heard so many people say that this side of the op is worse and I just want to get this over with. Keep smiling! 😬 Thinking of you and lots of hugs.
The weather has been fab - but the heat really didn’t help for sleeping.
Like you, I’ve been catching up on jobs I’d been neglecting around the house and had a fairly serious declutter which has been long overdue. I’ve also done a few batch cooks so there’s decent food in the freezer when I don’t feel up to cooking. It’s unlike me and I don’t know where I’m getting the energy! Pure adrenaline I think.
That’s a pity about your job. A couple of friends questioned me going back after the summer, but it has kept my mind occupied. I don’t work Fridays so will finish this Thursday. It’ll give me a chance to do last minute stuff and I don’t think I’d be much use next week anyway.
Although my op is on Thursday, it’s an early kickoff and I’m to be admitted on Wednesday afternoon- presumably for all the marking up, etc. I’m trying not to think about it as it gives me such a sick feeling in the pit of my stomach. I think the dye is done once I’m under general anaesthetic, but I may be misremembering that. The SNB certainly is.
I didn’t ask for a second opinion and now I’m wondering if I should have. I wish I could switch off, but my mind just keeps thinking up new worries!
My son’s boss is trying to organise special leave so he can be there. I wasn’t really expecting that. He’s been off travelling, so will have to sit him down when he gets home at the weekend and prepare him for seeing all the equipment, monitors, etc. I’m finding the thought of him seeing that quite upsetting even though he is a proper grown-up and everything these days! My mum will be there with him. I’m hoping my daughter waits a couple of days as there’s nothing they can do at the time.
We will be through this soon!
Sending you hugs,
hope you are able to enjoy the weather and get some enjoyment from the weekend. I’m trying to get some jobs done around the house that I know will be difficult to do post op. I lost my summer job as a nanny because I had no idea when I was going into hospital and the family wanted some guaranteed child care cover so currently on gardening leave. I see your diagnosis and op date are closer together than mine but I sought a second opinion from another hospital which has caused some delay. I think I was trying to find a way of avoiding a mastectomy but haven’t succeeded!
The day before my op I have two appointments - one for the dye to detect the lymph nodes but the other is to be drawn upon with a pen to mark out where the scalpel is going. I’m really not looking forward to that as I have to go home with the marks on and presumably can’t shower? It sounds grim. Are you facing the same thing or are you being ‘marked up’ on the day?
I went for the diep option for exactly the same reasons as you. I was told that I was most likely to have a mastectomy right from my diagnosis because of size of DCIS area and the fact that I’m fairly small of boob. It certainly escalated quickly from ‘non-invasive’ to mastectomy in virtually the next sentence. I felt as if I was watching a scene through a screen.
It’s been a rollercoaster of a summer! Like you, fingers crossed this is the right choice - and we both put it behind us.
Thank you so much and it’s great to hear from you!
Like you, mine was picked up through a routine mammogram in April. Absolutely shocked to get the result and never expected this to happen to me. It was suggested I have a lumpectomy at first but more tests showed three areas of DCIS in my right breast and a mastectomy was the recommendation which I have had to come to terms with. I didn’t like the idea of going flat nor did the idea of implants appeal following reports of capsular contracture and Breast Implant Illnesses so DIEP seems the best way forward. Hope it’s the right decision.
This has been quite a summer, hasn’t it? I wish you well over the coming weeks and hope you get some sleep. I’ve ended up in the spare room quite a lot so hubby can get some sleep even if I can’t!
I’m due to go in on 4th September with op on 5th. I’m 56. DCIS on left side and going in for mx and immediate diep reconstruction. Total shock as it was picked up at routine screening and came completely out of the blue. It’s all feeling very unreal and I’m still waiting for someone to tell me that it’s all a big mistake!
Completely understand the anxiety. Despite hardly sleeping, I’m hyper and buzzy. I’m sure it’s purely adrenaline and has to crash sometime....
I’m lucky that the team have been fantastic every step of the way. I made a list of questions from things I’ve read on here and the BCN was great in answering everything in a hugely reassuring way and said to call if I had more. But I still want to throw up every time I think about it.
Like you, I keep telling myself that I’m lucky it has been picked up at such an early stage, that it’s just one side, that I’m not expected to need other treatments. It just doesn’t feel that lucky atm.
If I can figure out how to send hugs on here, there’ll be one coming your way.
Are there any ladies out there who will be undergoing surgery next month who would like to communicate for a bit of mutual support? I’m 59 and booked in for a mastectomy with immediate reconstruction on Friday 13th (ha ha) September. Very anxious about it. I suppose I’m luckier than some as it’s just the one boob affected with DCIS but worried about post op follow up and what they will find. Would love to hear from you.