Thanks Whitelilly for replying. Am glad you found what was right for you. Yes the good think is I have time to,think about this but I guess you and others are right, at the moment I should concentrate on getting better. I will also ask the breast care nurse if there is anywhere local I could go to to talk to people who have had reconstruction or decided not to. Sending best wishes. X
Hi Lisa I felt like you at the beginning and felt I had had enough after the initial surgery and treatment that I was sure I would never want to go through any more surgery. Advice from my bc nurse was that given time I will know what I want to do and not to put too much pressure on myself in making a decision. She was right as initially I swore I would be happy staying as I was a year later I knew I wouldn't be so I started on the road of reconstruction. It hasn't been a straightforward easy road for me but I do not regret it. I am on the waiting list for my final lipofilling (hopefully). For me flat was not an option but it is different for everyone and in time you will know what you want to do when everything has settled down just concentrate on recovering at the moment and take one step at a time x
Thanks for replying to my post. I have joined Flat Friends on Facebook and it is encouraging to see so many brave woman living flat. My head is still in a whirl but I have time to think about it, construction would be next year if I go ahead. Had my first inflation which thankfully was painless but am still not sure. Sending hugs. X
You must be feeling in a very lonely place at the moment. Quite a few women who post on here have discussed living flat rather than have more surgery. To others, living without breast or breasts is unthinkable. I live half flat because I wanted minimum surgery and healing time after my single mx. and I wear a prosthesis.
It is good that you have time to think it over while you have your treatment and that your husband is so supportive. I agree about looking at Flat Friends website too.
Some women have reported on this forum that there events where others who had had reconstruction attended and that it helped them with their decisions. I do not know if these events include women who did not have recon.Perhaps your team will know if there is anything in your area.
I'm sorry you've had such a traumatic time. Sending you best wishes for your treatment and future surgery if you decide to have it.
Hi there, have recently (four week ago) had a double mastectomy, with R lymph node removal 10/10 which was cancerous, biopsy on Left nodes which were cancer free. I had inflaters in place after mastectomy. Day after op had such a bad time, internal bleeding, emergency op and blood transfusion. Healing as been hard but I am healing. I am now not sure if want to be having reconstruction, I dont know anyone who has had this or know anyone who has decided to live without. Any advice out there, anyone had the reconstruction using inflaters, when have full recon the inflaters will come out replaced by silicone and then lipo on tummy which will be placed round the silicone. Still got radiotherapy, Herceptin for a year and ten years of tablets (as I am at high risk of returning) to come. Am so comfused, I do not know what to do. I dont have to make my mind up straight away but do I want to put myself through anymore surgery etc. My husband is supportive of my decision whether to have recon or remain flat. My head is in a whirl!! Eeekkk.