Hi Carol Lina
Rubbish this cancer thing, isn’t it!
So so sorry you feel ashamed about your diagnosis. It really messes with your sense of being, doesn’t it!
I took the decision to tell all my friends once I knew my whole treatment plan. I could then be confident in my replies to the inevitability questions. I needed to tell everyone because I lead an active life and I am having chemo, so it would be rather obvious that all was not well once I started to lose my hair and started to feel rubbish. I also want to be up front to stop the gossips! My friends have been wonderful. I think all women fear getting this awful disease so are naturally supportive when one of their own is diagnosed. You will also be surprised how many others have been though it AND importantly come out the other side, fit and well.
But you must do what you feel is right for you.
Stay strong xx
I felt ashamed somehow too - can't explain why -.but I did tell a couple of friends before I had surgery mainly because we were due to meet up and I had to cancel. They were really kind and supportive with offers of practical support not just moral support. I think it has to depend on how easy you are going to find it to tell friends. If it is going to stress you out and make you feel worse then just leave it for a bit. Sometimes people can say stupid insensitive things however well meaning they are which can be upsetting . I had horrible feelings of guilt after my diagnosis and I still really don't know why but I did get over them and accepted that getting cancer was just random bad luck. There is so much emphasis on healthy living, exercise, not drinking etc that it is easy to think that by doing all that you can avoid illness. Good luck with everthing whatever you decide. All the best x