Hello - the chemo drugs can give you terrible depression and anxiety. It’s just another physical side effect they can cause, but I don’t think this is properly explained - at least it wasn’t to me. Please do let your breast care nurse, consultant, chemo unit or GP know as they can prescribe something to improve your mood. I found my mood suddenly lifted about 3 or 4 weeks after i stopped chemo. I also know the frustration of people telling you to “be positive” or similar. They have no clue. Unfortunately you can’t really understand this until you have been through it yourself. Does your hospital have a support unit (e.g. Maggies) where you could access a support group, counselling or complementary therapies? Or could you get to a branch of The Haven? They offer free therapies such as reflexology, aromatherapy massage, acupuncture etc which some people find helps them to cope better with treatment. I was advised to take up yoga which i thought was a mad suggestion - but it really works! When i was awake all night and anxious after chemo infusions (it’s the steroids ...), I sat up watching comedy box sets on All4 and iPlayer which distracted me a little from worrying. Or listening to audio books or podcasts can help send you off to sleep. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. No need to worry about the future today. You will have plenty of time to plan the next stage of your life once you have finished all your treatment. For now, just focus on coping with today. That’s enough. You are on benefits at the moment because you need to be and you are entitled to be. No need to feel bad about that at all. It is what the benefits system is there for. Call the BCC helpline or Macmillan if you need to speak to someone who understands. Take care of yourself. Xx
It can be the loneliest place going though a cancer diagnosis and treatment, inspite of who you may have around to help it's you that it is happening to which is why forums like this are so important. Our nearest and dearest mean well but it's something you can't fully understand unless it's happening to you.
We all have different Personal circumstances here yet we all have the same thing in common and I think would all agree that this has to be a step at a time, the bigger picture just overwhelms you and it's not helpful in any way to keep going over the what ifs.
Keep digging deep and get through the next 24 hrs, no need to look any further than that for now Xx Jo
I do try to keep my cup half full, life will continue to throw stuff at us but there is always a way around it, it may not be the one we planned but hey there is always plan B!
Deal with one thing at a time that's all you can do.
You have so much going on it's no wonder your raging, You have had a huge shock being diagnosed with Breast cancer and you can't understimate what it does to you mentally but you have to try and slow down and take things a little slower, you can't fix everything today.
You are bringing up 3 kids by yourself while dealing with cancer, that's no mean feat so you are clearly a strong lady but you have to get through treatment first before you make any big plans about the future, you can't do any of it without your health.
Your kids are doing great, your getting through treatment and May is a long way off, there are always positives in life but we tend to dwell on the negatives and over look them!
Don't give yourself such a hard time, you should be proud of what you are doing not beating yourself up about what you feel your not! XxJo
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