Breast Cancer Now Forum

I know hun. Honestly I did feel better once I'd actually had the diagnosis, knew what I was dealing with and had the treatment plan in place. Just a really tough few days waiting to get there x ... View more

Yes, in Wales x ... View more

No it doesn't. It might, but it might not. They give chemo/radiation/hormone therapy to try and stop it from coming back. What they can give depends on the type of cancer it is. But after all the worry, I hope when you get the results it isn't cancer at all and you won't need to think about any of this! ... View more

Ah hun, don't think like that. I said the same words to my husband. But my consultant told me I won't die of this breast cancer. And I have to believe it. The future is another story, but this one isn't going to get me at least. I have a 5 year old, 3 year old twins and a 3 month old.x ... View more

How old are your kids Suzie? Mine have been my biggest concern since all this started. It's so hard isn't it. It sounds like your dad is really supportive, which is great. I'm very lucky to have amazing family and friends around me. I stayed 1 night in hospital because of the node clearance. They seem very on the ball with BC but yes, you should be offered any treatment you agree to within 30 days because of NICE guidelines. It's so helpful to talk to people. Hearing from people like sissylw finishing treatment really helps keep you going knowing there will be an end to it all eventually!! And I know it's hard, but try tonstay away from Google for a few days! I did the same, and almost none of the stuff you find is good. Especially when you don't know your diagnosis yet. Like I say, not easy but try not to do it! ... View more

It's so natural to worry though. I don't see how you couldn't worry about things like spread until you know for sure. I tend to over think everything though so that probably doesn't help! I felt much better once I had a treatment plan in place. And for a couple of weeks after he op I was focussing on recovery and it took my mind off the rest of it for a while. I've recovered really well. Had it done on a Thursday and was very sore and stiff, but by Sunday I could feel an improvement and then kept getting better. Not perfect now but very manageable x ... View more

I waited 5 days for results enough to tell me it was invasive ductal carcinoma, then another 2 days for her2 results to decide treatment. In the meantime they gave me a ct and bone scan. Once the her2 result came back negative they booked me for surgery which was a week later. It was all really quick. I had a lumpectomy and axillary node clearance as I had a positive node from sample they took during biopsy. If the her2 result was positive they would have done chemo first and then the surgery x ... View more

Hi Suzie, I'm not going to be able to say anything to make you feel better I know, but I do understand exactly how you feel. I'm the same age as you and was diagnosed last month. The days between biopsy and diagnosis were the most difficult of my life. Like you say, your mind wanders and you imagine the worst scenario possible. But if they are positive in telling you they can treat this then hold onto that fact. I'm now 3 weeks after surgery and waiting to start chemo. It's a long road, but I'm so thankful it was found when it was still able to be treated. I'm here if you want to talk x ... View more

Are you back with your kids now netti? I hope they can help take your mind off things until Monday. I was such a mess the days waiting for results 😞 I'm doing ok. Have my appointment with the oncologist tuesday, so just hoping to have a nice weekend away and then get back on the rollercoaster! Tried on some wigs the other day ready for starting chemo. Going back on Thursday to have my hair chopped and then try a couple of styles I like in the right colour as they had to order them in for me. It's all a bit strange!xx ... View more

I agree, stay with a friend or have her stay with you. It will be so helpful to have someone to cook for you and just be there to help with whatever you need.x ... View more

How did you get on with your scans today netti?x ... View more

Lynda I'm so glad your daughter is feeling so good after meeting with someone else who has been in her position. And that it has helped you too. It really does make a difference when you know the person you are talking to truly understands how you are feeling. I didn't say in my last post, but when I first saw my dr she also thought my lump was most likely a collection of breast milk. But luckily for me she decided to refer me to the hospital, just to put our minds at ease. I am so glad she did. I am so sorry your daughter got left so long without being referred. But it is good to hear that the lump is shrinking with the chemo. You have to take every positive thing you can. I'm still waiting for a date for my next appointment but hoping it arrives soon. We are going away this weekend and I would be happier knowing when the appointment was instead of wondering all weekend if there will be a letter waiting for me when I get back! xx ... View more

Thanks hun, you too. Let me know how it all goes tomorrow? I have cried plenty!! Just try not to in front of my boys. I don't want to worry them. It's funny but after my op I didn't cry at all for days and days. And I didn't have the same level of worry. I ate properly for the first time in weeks too. Then literally the day after my post op meeting with the consultant last week it all started again with the random tears and fears!!! I've read far too much as well and almost none of it is good. I tell myself I won't read any more but then I find myself back on Google!! Anyway, sending you lots of luck and hugs for tomorrow. And let me know how it goes xx ... View more

It's hard going with all the testing. Will be better once this bit is out of the way and you can get a plan of what's going to happen next. I was really lucky that it was only 3 weeks from seeing the gp to my op, but it also meant it was such a whirlwind I didn't have time to get my head around any of it. But it was a relief just to have all the results in and know what the plan for treatment was. They were waiting for the her2 result to decide whether to do surgery or chemo first so until then I didn't know what was going to happen. I'm still really tearful today after my meeting with the bcn earlier. So silly I know! Trying to focus on our weekend away and not let all this spoil it. I'm sure you're the same trying to focus on being with with your kids xx ... View more

I didn't have an MRI, just a CT and bone scan. Tey were honestly fine so I hope your CT scan tomorrow is ok for you too. The only thing with that was they didn't warn me it feels like you have wet yourself so that made me panic half way through!! But both were pretty quick and not too enclosed. Are you from Wales?? Or just having a little holiday there?xx ... View more

Suzanne are you a midwife too??? ... View more

I hope Monday comes quickly for you. The waiting for results were the longest days for me 😞 My children are younger (5, 3 year old twins and the 3 month old baby) so don't know about cancer which I think is a good thing for me. So far they know I went to hospital to have a bad lump taken out, and that they needed to be careful with me while it fixed. They don't know about the rest of the treatment yet, I thought it would be too much for them to take in in one go. The bcn today gave me a book to read with them. That talks about all the treatment and explains that mummy will feel poorly because of it. And it explains that it is called cancer. I'm not sure how much they will understand but I will read it with them. We are going away for the weekend on Friday as they won't get a summer holiday. So after that I'll start to prepare them for the next stage. I've already told them I'm going to have my hair cut and then I won't have any at all. My eldest thought short hair would be good but no hair would be silly!!! You are right, protecting our children from anything that could hurt them is our number 1 job as a parent. And I hate that there is no way to avoid the hurt of this. Have your children known anyone else in a similar situation?xx ... View more

Wow Suzanne, where abouts are you? I'm in Pontyclun and am on Facebook yes x ... View more

Bel, thank you so much for posting. 14 years post diagnosis is amazing!! I hope one day it can be me saying that to someone else. Until then it's just 1 day at a time!x ... View more

Hi netti, thank you for your message. Have they said when you might get the full results? Waiting is absolutely the worst part of the whole thing isn't it. I'm recovering really well from the op, so just waiting for my oncology appointment and then start chemo. I saw my bcn today to go through a few things and ended up in tears so she's referred me for counselling. I'm not sure if it's for me to be honest, but going to give it a go. So much to think about with it all. How are your children coping with it all?xx ... View more