Hi Erin,
I am 41 and was diagnosed with breast cancer in Jan 2009 aged 38..It wasn't IBC but I feel I wanted to come on and talk to you when I read your post. I do not actively take part in these forms much now as I have completed all my treatment but I do visit now and again, life has moved on and I am trying to get back to normal...I have been with my partner 13 years and this year we managed to do the right thing and make it legal!! My partner has been my rock, my soul mate and has been there heart and soul throughout my diagnosis, treatment and beyond. You and Jo are where Sandra and I were 2 years ago...Yes it has been tough, and it has been one heck of a journey...no one asked for this and it is totally normal for you to be feeling the way you do..as the patient, I probably feel more in tune with Jo but over the last 2 years Sandra and I talk about how this has effected her, talking has been our bond and I have tried so hard not to shut her out and to make this all about me....for a time it was, when it was treatment, medication and all that stuff...but we have came out the other side and are happier and closer than ever before...you will experience so many different emotions and you sound like you know what jo needs..just be there for her, talk, laugh, cry because that all needs to happen at times...just take one small step at a time, don't look to far in front, just deal with this week...and the puppy....we have 4 kids, 2 cats, 2 bunnies and a hamster...all fantastic distractions may I add!!....please come on here and rant away!! you need this as much as Jo does, and Jo needs you as much as you need her....be strong and take it easy..
lots of love
Fiona xxx
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