Deb - welcome to the forums, sorry you've had to join us here but I hope you will find some support and help here. My boys are a 5 and very nearly 3 now and they keep me fighting and also help to keep life ticking on with some degree of normality.
Tors - it's very hard to imagine how life will be while you undergo treatment and everyone is different but it might help you to know how it has been for me so far.
I have been having chemo since the end of November, 4xFEC followed by weekly Taxol. The Taxol was easier than the FEC but even with the FEC I was able to cook, shop and do the school run as normal on most days. I felt a little nauseous for the first 2 days of each cycle and tired for the first week but not so bad I couldn't carry on with normal activities as long as I rested when possible, the second and third week of each cycle I felt completely normal.
I would certainly have been ok to have a week in Cornwall during chemo if the timing was right so that I wasn't due for a dose of chemo that week. Are you able to delay payment until you know your treatment schedule and ideally see how you react to chemo? I would discuss the holiday with your oncologist before you either cancel or pay.
The cold cap doesn't work for everyone and some people find it too uncomfortable to use but I decided to give it a go and see what happened, I felt I had nothing to lose by trying it. I found it uncomfortable for about the first 5 minutes while my scalp cooled down but not too bad after that, it discomfort was like a severe 'ice-cream' headache and I found it was slightly less bad if I took some paracetamol about an hour before it was put on. I had thick shoulder length hair before treatment and had it cut to mid neck length at the start of chemo. I did lose a good amount of hair especially on the top of my head but I still have enough covering that anyone who didn't know me well wouldn't notice anything wrong, there are plenty of people around who naturally have hair as thin as mine currently is.
Although I'm not worried about telling people I have BC I haven't felt the need (or desire) to tell all and sundry. My friends know, as do my family but other than that I have only told my work collegues, the teacher of my son's class and four of the Mums at my son's school who are mothers of friends he sees out of school. I spent a couple of hours on friday afternoon helping run the tuck shop at the school disco, I didn't wear a scarf or hat and I'm certain that none of the other parents realised that I am unwell in any way.
Try not to be too hard on yourself if you can be snappy and irritable, you are on an emotional roller coaster and anyone who expects you to be reasonable and cheerful at all times is living in cloud cuckoo land!
My biggest piece of advice to try not to think too far ahead, read and ask about the treatment you are currently facing and leave the rest until you get there. Keep to trusted websites like this one and macmillan or you can get some very dodgy and misleading information and try not to scare yourself by reading about situations you may never have to face!
We have elected not to tell the boys much about my diagnosis and treatment and just tell them enough to explain anything that may worry them as we go along. I have been so well during chemo that they are currently unaware that I have been having any treatment at all, now that I am having surgery on tuesday we will obviously have to explain further but we will be keeping it as simple and low key as possible. We have found that they are very accepting as long as we don't appear worried or concerned.
Remember that you are still very near the start of this journey and things will get easier as you adjust to the unexpected road you find yourself travelling.
Linda
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