hi cherry, i know exactly what you mean and i do much the same as you, it would be too harsh i feel to actually say that you feel nothing, and it is nothing isnt it, so i just go with the flow and do as i used to just for his sake. i dont want the whole thing blowing up into a big issue, because for me it isnt, but it would be for him. i do have 'yes' oil based lubricant, but to be honest its for my comfort at all times, not a sex aid. its so hard to be able to talk about this , i think he would find it even more difficult than i do! so thats why i just go along with it, it works for me. dont beat yourself up about it, do whatever you need to do. angie xx
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