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Hey well done on the sugar Sounds manic! Hope youre being kind to yourself. Im ok thanks manic work too and not ready for christmas. Sorry to hear about your mum hope shes on the mend. Youve had such a lot going on. Sending you a massive hug and hope you have a fab christmas xxx ... View more

I'm glad. Yes it's annoying 're the big it's making my brain fuzzy lol Yes it's still difficult 're the dog Xxx ... View more

You sound a lot brighter. Good luck with the mammogram I struggled with mine this year for some reason but I'm sure you'll be fine 😍😘 shame re your hubby it's so hard sometimes isn't it? I'm ok dog is not sorted yet we thought it was going to be this weekend but it fell through so gutted. Really want him out now. Work is up and down and I've had a virus that just won't got away for the past two weeks so I have been limping along really. Cancelled plans for this weekend and just going to try and rest it out now. Hopefully your hubby will be all better when he comes back xxx ... View more

It's strange the difference a bit of time makes eh? Sounds like you've had a lot on, I hate changing cars! Fab re starting in the new year, it definitely sounds like a good time to start afresh and you are definitely due a change. Do you feel like you've had a break? I hope so! All ok here, had my mammogram and all clear which is always a huge relief hurrah! So that's six years since diagnoses 5 since treatment finished eek! Sending lots of love xxxxx ... View more

I'm so pleased for you. sounds like just what you need. And you so deserve a break. 😍😘♥ ... View more

Whoop whoop congratulations!! I'm sooooooo chuffed for you,that's amazing, really well done! Thanks for letting me know, it's made my Friday 😍 Hope the weekend goes well with the inlaws xxx ... View more

Eek that's amazing! well done you! Good luck, not that you'll need it 😀 Not so much fun re tamoxifen but hope you're OK xxxx ... View more

I'm so glad, fingers crossed they can refer you for accupunture, big hugs, sounds like you're taking steps forward which is brilliant xxxx ... View more

How was work and your onc apt? Well done for applying for the job, taking positive steps always helps. All is ok re the dog, he's been fine and we have had some serious chats I just need to get a list of options together and work through them x ... View more

Sounds busy! How are you feeling now? You've struggled a lot with work, maybe a change would be good? All OK here, I flew for work which is the first time since before I was ill - feels like a big step although I can't believe it took me so long to do it. Came back today, it's been manic but good, tons of work on though and feel a bit shattered so will see how next week goes. Need to get on and sort the dog situation out next. Xxxx ... View more

I don't think it's self pity. I think it's more complicated than that. It's a reminder of everything you've had to give up as a result of the cancer, and you wouldn't be human if it didn't rock you every now and then,especially when you're least expecting it. You're already reminding yourself that you've made a lifestyle decision re work at the moment, that's not to say it won't change in the future but for now it's the right thing for you, so the angst will settle down I think, it's just the initial shock of it all. And the changes in your body hit you at different times. He's never going to understand, because he hasn't lost a big part of his body. I think people mean well when they say 'it doesn't matter, you can't notice' but it really doesn't help as it doesn't matter what they think and feel, it's about how you feel and your reaction to everything. I was reading something that said you should take time and acknowledge how you're feeling, recognise it and let it sit with you for a bit. Feelings come and go and it's fine to feel them and acknowledge them. If you consciously do that you can then see what your triggers are and also consider how you want to deal with them, if you need to deal with them. But the first step is letting yourself feel them without beating yourself up. It sounds like the holiday was good despite the lack of sleep. I've just had a city break with friends and my arm ballooned and I spent a lot of time being questioned about it, my friend commented that I'm spending a lot of time avoiding talking about things and it can't go on forever and I'm sure she's right. Hope the rest of your week gets better and you get your IT sorted out Sending you lots of love x ... View more

Do you feel like everything is just changing constantly? How you feel and then how he feels and how you react? I hate the roller coaster analogy but it's kind of apt. At the moment we are just not really getting on I don't think, and it makes me feel a bit panicky as process the implications of that but mostly I am trying to be grateful and positive about all thr good things in my life. I hope you have an amazing trip, I do think it will be fine when you're there Being at home for a week has been good for me definitely! Xxx ... View more

Blooming heck, you do have a lot going on babe. Thanks for letting me know how you are, I knew you had a lot going on and have been thinking about you. Great news that your left breast is ok. Lots to consider re second mastectomy. Maybe see how you feel after your holiday? I'm so sorry to hear about your mum. That's tough. Sounds like you're really juggling a lot of different people and expectations at the moment. I think it's really normal to worry about holiday when you have so much going on and are outside of your comfort zone. I feel like that about most things to be honest. Lol. Re your husband and attention, maybe the holiday will do you both good? Sounds like you need a break although as ever, it sounds a bit like you're doing the worrying about everyone else whilst they expect/need you to be 'back to normal'. It's such a hard balance as you need to take care of yourself as well. Of course you naturally worry about everyone else first, but then it's too hard for them to accept you are not fully yourself after everything. I think the holiday will be fine when you get there. Maybe just write down all the things you are worried about and see what contingencies you need to have in place? Often things you dread are great when you get there. You can't do anything about your mum being ill other than make sure there are people around to help her when you're away. I'm sure she wouldn't want you to miss out on anything because of her and it feels like a change might do you good and being completely away will let you just be together as a family. Sending you a big hug! All is ok here, had a very flat couple of days at the beginning of the week as we are off and haven't gone anywhere, but in the end it's been nice being at home sorting through stuff and not being in the office. Your work sounds as stressy as ever. Can't believe you have a student too! Lots of additional pressure. Nightmare. Take care xxxx ... View more

Yes, but you're allowed a wobble - "getting on with it" doens't mean you don't worry!!  A road trip does sound like fun but I can understand why you're nervous - I'm rubbish and haven't travelled abroad at all since my diagnoses - although for me this is more to do with my lovely lymphoedema and worrying about bites and flying and all that jazz!!  I don't have a holiday planned as we still haven't sorted the dog out yet - no further incidents there but still not sorted either, not sure what to do as I don't want to make him put the dog down but we can't do this forever. Hey ho.  Hope you're ok anyway, do you go soon? x ... View more

Oh yeah, lots of scares to be honest Still a bit prone to them, I think I'm officially today or next week five years since treatment finished too!! Of course you're going to be worried with your personal experience too - the problem is there is no rhyme or reason to it and when you know you have to be vigilant it's hard to get the balance right between being careful and driving yourself crazy.  Sounds tough with the family lovely - but I remember when my mum was ill, looking back I just didn't understand what she was going through. When you're young you just think it's easy to move on....  And then if your onco is no support - v difficult - this weather has been hard I've been hot and cold too! Think about alternative therapies - I always feel better when I'm taking action myself. It might be worth thinking about counselling too - sounds like you need an outlet in a safe place?  Anyway, sending lots of love xxxxxxx   ... View more