hi sianie im so sorry about your mum. Its very hard for our loved ones to know what to say or do. I know that I was a serious mess when I found out I had cancer. My husband had to take all the crying and worry. I now have counselling which lightens the burden on him. I go to my counsellor and just let it all out. Also, has your mum thought of taking anti-depressants? i know a lot of people who dont want to take them but they can really help. also, sleeping tablets. I know it sound like a lot but if you sleep and have a level head it helps. I go to the marsden. I live in essex and travel into london. it is a bit of a trek but worth it i think. My local hospital is just really bad and i couldnt stand it anymore so i transferred I also go privately which helps. My children both know. My son (16) knows more than my daughter but he realises this is serious stuff she doesnt really and shes a very optimistic 11 year old. She actually came with me to the marsden yesterday and sat all day . Nothing fazes her. im 46 so its tough. I just try to think that there is worse stuff going out there to much younger people than me. I would love to see my chikdren grow up. Thats what i hanging onto! well thats enough ranting from me! if you want to PM me i dont mind. hugs jo xxx
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