Breast Cancer Now Forum

Evening everyone   apologies for my absence. The proverbial has been hitting the fan here a bit......new job going really well but within days of starting we had more bad news about my mum and yet again they’ve told us it won’t be long now. Just how many times they’ll tell us this remains to be seen. Anyway, I’ve been trying to keep everyone all together as Mum is understandably upset, and my sister is dealing with it all with humour. Not an ideal combo but we must each find our own way.   To top it all off, a friend of mine from Slimming was murdered on Tuesday, allegedly by her 16 yr old step son. What a waste of a life. She was such a kind lady and I am totally in shock. It’s too gruesome to go into detail but I hope he rots.  We have decided to still go on our cottage holiday trip next week. Hubby hasn’t had any real time off for months and months and I think I need the break with what’s ahead.  At least work is good! ive not read all your posts yet....may save them for my cottage next week. sending lots of hugs to you all xx ... View more

Evening all fluffies everywhere   phew I’m knackered! Thought I’d feel it but boy I’m tired. I’ll get used to the routine again over the next few weeks I’m sure but getting up at 6.30am is HARD after 8 months of getting up two hours later lol.  Had an induction day in HO yesterday and started in my office today. Lovely bunch of people who all seem friendly and helpful  and it appears so far to be a much better environment with no t**ts unlike my my last place. 😀 😀 Physically I think my body will take a while to get used to sitting at a desk again and the angle that makes your arm and BC side but overall it’s good.  The change to my routine has impacted on my diet and I’ve fallen off the wagon the last few days. Even eaten a yum yum from M&S 🙊 🙊 I need to get a grip again (god those yum yums are soooooo good) and I didn’t even make it to Zumba last night as I was just too tired.  Hope everyone is ok.....I’ve got pages to catch up on I think.  Sending you all a huge hug xxx ... View more

Ruby ruby ruby!!!!   happy birthday lovely lady. Hope you've had a good day xxx ... View more

I am no longer a kept woman!    I got the job! I am to be a paralegal in wills and probate for a solicitors practice. Happy happy happy!    I have one one more week with my feet up lol   😂 😂 😁 😁 😁 ... View more

Cheers Charys! And good job on removing the thongs 🤣 🤣 🤣 (easy there tiger Delly)    anyway, thongs were clearly invented by a bloke, I mean how could they ever be comfortable lol. I prefer good old M&S ones providing ‘full coverage’ if you get my drift lol 😂   ... View more

I’m more than happy for it to be copy and pasted - I’m no wiz at that! Up to you if you want to delete my thongs comment lol 🤣 🤣 🤣 ... View more

Janey  good luck with fat club tomorrow!!! Joining SW was the best decision I have made in a long time and I don’t think I could have done it without the lovely bunch of ladies there. There are some inspirational people there that’s for sure.  It is weird how we start to feel ‘like me’ again, and how long it takes. I still get tired and still get hot flushes during the night but as you say, I think I have accepted this is the version of me just now. No point worrying about the stuff I can’t change!   good luck tomorrow xxx ... View more

Helloooo there   apologies for my Scarlet Pimpernell impersonation the last few weeks. I’ve been keeping as busy as possible, trying to build my stamina back up.....thought I better had as I’m looking for work again. ThInk it would be a shock to the system otherwise.  Looks like there’s a huge amount to catch up on here........the word ‘thongs’ sprang out from the top post. I dread to think lol.    For the the first time since my surgery September 2016 I am pain free. I can finally sleep on my BC side and I have so much energy. I really feel that I have turned a corner and that I’m ready to fight the world again......albeit on a slightly smaller scale than before lol. I have now lost 3st 7.5lbs and am loving being able to by smaller clothes, although hubby would argue against the effect on our bank balance 😁 😁 , and I attended my first Zumba class on Monday night. It was an absolute scream and I was useless with no sense of coordination, and developed a pattern of going against the flow of direction 🤣 but I LOVED it and can’t wait to go back next week. I genuinely feel like me again.  Interview tomorrow 😱 😱 😱 . Weirdly looking forward to it. Not holding my breath about gettzing it but if nothing else it’ll be good practice for the next one whenever that may be.    So, for all those fluffies out there struggling, feeling like things will never be the same again - and I was the biggest one of these.... IT WILL. There is a new normal and it is what you make it. Yes we have limitations but we can adapt around them and live a full life. Keep going, you’ll get there I promise.   big welsh cwtches to you all xxx ... View more

Afternoon all fluffies   had some more good news this afternoon and I’ve made it to interview stage for the job I’ve applied for. I’m so glad I had the results about that lump before the invitation to interview came. So will give it my best shot but I do feel it’s time, and I’m ready to rejoin the rat race.  On an even more cheery note, spoke to one of my previous employees yesterday and it looks like my old business partner is even worse now than when I was there. To the extent that one woman has left and two others are looking for another job. That man will never learn.    Karma is a bi**h though and one day it will bite him on the backside.    Hope everyone is ok   xxx ... View more

Clair   hope you feel better soon. Remember not to do your massages if you have a cold, they don’t want you spreading infection around your system. I double checked that last week while I was in clinic.    Look after yourself lovely xxx ... View more

Thank you everyone. I think I may sleep more soundly tonight. Xxx ... View more

Evening all   the phone rang this afternoon and it was my BCN. My heart sank when I heard her voice. She said that my consultant had asked her to phone me so i wasn’t waiting for a letter with my results. EVERYTHING IS FINE!!! She said the pathology showed that the lump was due to changes in the skin structure following radiotherapy and that it was just unfortunate that it had formed a perfect large pea shaped lump.  I am so very relieved and burst in to tears when I came off the phone to her. onwards and upwards again now! xxx ... View more

Lesley   i feel your pain in your feet! I had that plantur thing about two years ago and boy it can be painful. Hubby has had it too. I saw a podiatrist once a week in the end and he (lovely man lol) massaged my foot and did some ultrasound on it. He also gave me some exercises to do which in the main were to stretch out the calf which he said was the starting point of the heel pain. Standing on the bottom stair with your heels over the edge and then slowly lowering yourself down so your heels were lower than the top of the stair (does that make sense?) and doing it for or five times twice a day. Also going up on to tip toe slowly - I did it while brushing my teeth so I could balance on the sink lol. Have you got any of those tumble drier balls? The spikey ones that help dry clothes quicker? They’re great for rolling around under your feet too. Also, if you can stretch your calf before you get out of bed, it really does help. Just pull your toes back gently before you get up.  It took about 7months for it to go completely so it was a while........and all happened because I slipped in flip flops on holiday 😎 hope you find some relief from it! Xxx ... View more

Dellywelly   i missed your birthday!! I’m very sorry lovely..  HAPPY BIRTHDAY for yesterday my friend. Hope you had a good day and are feeeling well rested today big hugs to you lovely xxx ... View more

Evening fluffies   how is everyone? all been happening at this end. I’ve had the stitches out and the nurse said it looked like it had healed well. Still have a dressing on until tomorrow so I’ll be able to have a look at it after a shower in the morning. Not bothered at all at yet another scar but I want to see what it looks like!   had lymphedema clinic today and everything was good. All the measurements taken to day show my arm has now stayed within normal ranges for 6 months so the daily massages are working. They’ve discharged me from their care now and don’t need to see me again, but I must continue with the daily routine that I have developed. It feels like another milestone has been achieved and I was so happy driving home. Such a relief. All I need now is the results to be good from this lump and I will be well and truly on my way.    Weight loss going well and lost 6lb this week. I’ve walked and walked and walked and I think that has given me the boost I needed to get rid of the Christmas gain. 3st, 4.5 now. Happy days.    Ive also applied for a job! No pressure to get it so we shall see what happens! Admin work in a local solicitors office. Lovely environment so fingers crossed.    Hoep everyone is ok, sending hugs to yOu all xxx ... View more

Helena   you are one hell of an inspiration doing all that cooking! Do you take orders? I can collect! think we may need to invest in a chest freezer so that I can batch cook, especially when I join the rat race again.  Also I need to dig out the old slow cooker again. All these gadgets and they’re all just tucked away.  Big hugs lovely xxx   ... View more

Dizzy   you are very kind! I was determined after the BC that I would sort my health out, get my weight to a more acceptable level and do what ever I could do reduce the possibility of reoccurrence. After weighing this morning I think I have lost the 3 lb I put on over Christmas but Wednesday weigh in at fat club will prove it one way or the other lol.  I don’t think I have ever been so motivated to lose weight and it is lovely when people comment on it. I think it’s the same as anything, when your mindset is right, you can do anything. Tamoxifen doesn’t make it easy but I will not be defeated!!! more importantly, I can now try on clothes in ANY shop and not just Evans or Yours! 😁 👚 👗 👢 hope you’re ok lovely lady xxx ... View more

Evening all   lesley, that’s tough to have to keep a secret like that from your OH. Lovely that your friend confided in you, but she can’t expect you to not tell him. If it were me, I’d tell him anyway and just ask him not to say anything to her.    Clair, I hope your tummy has settled down now. It is amazing how our diagnosis affects the entire family, my hubby really felt it taking me to the hospital last week. He was very stressed out as it brought it all back for him.    Helena, how’s the new bed going? Hope you’re both really comfy.    Well I took the Christmas decorations down today. I left the bare tree for hubby to dismantle and I’m glad I did as I’m really sore this evening. Guess I’d forgotten to keep an eye on my limitations just now, whilst the stitches are in. Quiet day tomorrow I guess is needed.  Weather is evil here tonight and every now and then the wind lifts the door knocker and letter box, which gives us all a jump. Think I may be taping them down before bed.    Hope all you fluffies are ok xxx       ... View more

I have progressed from Alan Carr (just wasn’t getting it tonight) and am now watching Take That in concert .......and hubby is awake lol  ... View more

Hubby isn’t. Neither is Mac! 🍹 😴 😴 ... View more