Breast Cancer Now Forum

Dearest Beth and Clair, Forgive me for replying to you both at the same time. Beth I so agree with you that it's simply not worth it - going to work and working hard with what you have been through, to be treated like that. How would you ever be able to trust these people again after the way they have behaved. I would say "get out and fast",  although I realise it's not as simple as that. You deserve better and anything would be better than what they are putting you through. Sending you a massive hug and I hope the doctor can help with your painful infection. xxx Clair - I'm glad you have managed to get reduced hours. I hope this takes the strain off a bit! XX Best wishes to all your family for the baby's arrival - something joyous to look forward to. xxx Lily ... View more

Lady Helena, you're so lovely! Thank you xxx I'm off back to bed now - so bored of it to be honest but have to wait it out. XXXX Lily ... View more

Hello all you Lovelies, So sorry I've been absent for a few days but I've been in bed with flu and haven't done anything except drink hot lemon and honey and take painkillers. Still feel as weak as a kitten but ventured out of bed to check in. I haven't read through all the posts but a few - I hope you are all o.k. although I know that some of you are having struggles with work related things (Beth and Clair) and family related (Janey and Rubycat) I hope things are improving - I've been thinking of you all in my lucid moments. I saw Delly's post as well and I'm glad you seem to be enjoying life Delly. Long may it continue, and I hope the appointments go well. Lesley - good luck with the knitting and the shoulders! Have to send a big hug to everyone at once now as I will be about ready to go back to bed pretty soon.  Love to all xxx Lily ... View more

Ooh Forgot to say - Fantastic news for you Dizzybee from your onc. appontment - so pleased for you xxxx Beth - well done you for getting that complaint in - don't let the b******s grind you down! XXX ... View more

Hello Darling Delly, Thank you for the compliments! Glad you are back safe and sound - we all miss you so much when you are off on your jaunts. It's great that you are getting on so well at the moment and long may it continue my lovely, kind Delly xxx Hello to all the lovely fluffy tit willows - my suggestion about all getting a fluffies mug seems to have gone down a storm - so I'd better hurry up and order mine before stocks run out!! I hope you are all o.k. today and enjoying the sunshine - it feels quite spring- like here in Cornwall, so I expect the weeds are all waking up and bolting into life!.  Lesley I hope you manage to chase off that headache XXX Janey - hope your daughter's move went o.k. So stressful at any time xxx Clair and Beth I hope you are relaxing a bit and making the most of the weekend - I often think of you xxx Dizzybee - you're being very industrious today - out walking Daisy and allotment tidying! Steady xxx Rubycat - I meant to get into the garden as well but didn't quite manage it. I was spring cleaning (a little bit) and directing 'im indoors on picture hanging duties! Helena - like it! Hints and suggestions are a good thing. Hope you enjoyed the garden. xx Who have I forgotten??? I am not as good with the memory as I used to be so forgive me if I have left anyone out! Love to everyone - you continue to raise my spirits when things start to get on top of me and no one else understands. So Thank you xxxxxxxxxxx Lily ... View more

That's so lovely Beth! - just watched it. xxx ... View more

Hello Lovelies, There's so much going on here my head is spinning a bit, but I hope you are all o.k. and not completely exhausted! Beth, I cannot believe that man! Does he get worse every day, or what?!!! Expecting you to drive!!! He's a complete a***e! I'm glad you have taken some steps to get some advice and hope there is some recourse for you. Also glad your mum has had some relief, but a very difficult time for you and your family. Love and hugs to you. xxxxxx Rubycat, love the pic - as usual you have captured the mood. And what a lovely suggestion for Helena's mug - good things out of not so good!! XX You are a star xx Helena - sorry about your mug but I think Rubycat's idea is brilliant. Perhaps we should all get a new 'Fluffies' mug as a symbol of our friendship - what do you think? Have a lovely day tomorrow xx Dizzybee - good luck for tomorrow - I've got my onc appt at the beginning of March and am starting to dread it already so I feel for you. I would much rather go to Ikea any day xx hugs and will be thinking of you. Crafty - my old crafty friend! Hope you are o.k. and not doing too much on your course. You were missed on here xxx Janey - I can't wait to get into the garden either and the days are beginning to get longer now so hopefully soon! I expect the magnolia will be in bud before you know it and beautiful flowers will be emerging xx Lesley - I don't blame you for being easy on the housework! It's a bit like painting the Forth bridge - start one end and by the time you get to the other end you have to start all over again! I'm glad you're finding the counselling helpful as well, and what she said makes perfect sense.xx Wish they could sort out your pain though. xx Lee - Glad you got through your onc appointment o.k. Well done for being an 'non complicated patient'! Hope you get some help with your pain hereafter. xx Clair - glad you're enjoying your week off and having fun with your daughter. I hope you can be strong and leave work on time each day when you go back. xx   I hope I haven't forgotten any of my friends but love to everyone XXX   I went to collect my new specs today - v. expensive but I can at least see a bit better now. Have to remember to keep putting in the artificial tears - don't always manage it! I've been looking up train tickets all afternoon - they are so expensive!!! They want you to use public transport but you need a second mortgage to go anywhere! Have to go to the rescue of my daughter who is having a difficult time at the moment. Also my other daughter is having to move at short notice and struggling a bit so all hands to the pump! Well my hands anyway. There's always something to worry about. (Think I'll go back to Italy!) Not really 😉 Doesn't matter how old your children are, you never stop worrying about them.  Hope you all have peaceful evenings xxx Lily       ... View more

Darling Beth, WE ARE by your side!! xx ... View more

Dear Lady Helena who deserves to reside in a castle, 25 hours is 25 hours more than I could do! XXX ... View more

Actually, come to think of it, we could all sit in the back seat and glare at him in the rear view mirror. ... View more

Dear Rubycat - ABSOLUTELY! Woe betide them - that's what I say (or shout). I could think of many things that require a sound venting 😉 xxx  ... View more

Dear Beth, Also remember that we are ALL with you in that car tomorrow!! XXXX Lily ... View more

Dear Rubycat, as usual you've found the perfect pic!!! I hate that man (and the others who treated Beth so abominably) and I don't even know them. If they don't get their just desserts, I would like to give them a piece of my mind. They should be thoroughly ashamed! xx ... View more

Hello Lovely Fluffy Tit Willows, Beth, WELL DONE for being dignified and cool in the face of utter betrayal. I really admire you and hope that he gets his come-uppance!!!!! Horrible man! He definitely shouldn't be allowed to get away with it if there is any justice in the world (not to mention the others who treated you so appallingly). Great big hugs to you for tomorrow. Keep up with the cool aloofness and I'm sure he will soon be quaking in his boots! XXXXX Lily   Hope everyone is o.k. Clair I hope you feel a bit better and are not doing too much this half term. xx Helena - well done for going full time - you're a trooper xxx Lesley - hope you're not suffering too much with the head ( and shoulders) xx I agree about the work thing - I do miss having an income of my own but I know I can't work full time at the moment. xx I've been catching up with chores and shopping today. It seems I never have enough time (or energy) to do everything that needs to be done. I really don't know how I had time to work before - but having a whole house to renovate is a full time job in itself. It's nice that the evenings are getting a bit lighter and it will soon be time for the clocks to go forward so let's all look forward to that! XXX    Love to everyone xxx Lily ... View more

Dear Beth, I just popped on and saw your post. I'm so sorry you had to go through such an awful experience when you should have been supported by your colleagues. It is absolutely unforgivable that any employer or work colleague should treat anyone like that, and doubly hard for you with everything else. I feel so angry and sad for you, and I hope you can find the strength to make your feelings known to those concerned. I don't blame your husband for being furious - I've read through the posts and all of us feel the same I think. I think the idea of seeking advice is an excellent one and I hope you can do this. Sending you a huge hug lovely Beth xxxxxxx Lily ... View more

Hi Rubycat, thanks for the 'hooray' 🙂 I see you're still keeping everyone smiling with the pics! Do you think those suits come in adult sizes? I could do with one at the moment as I could have a lie down and still do some dusting. XXX Lily ... View more

Hello Lovely Fluffies, Here I am back from my hols. We had a lovely time and saw so many amazing things and walked so many miles. 'Im indoors had the step counter on his phone and we clocked up 59 km. I wondered why my hip was hurting and I felt about ninety years old! I wouldn't have missed a step though as I wanted to see everything I could and even though I was tired I really enjoyed it. The weather was good as well - only a couple of bouts of drizzly rain, but sunny most of the time. I really felt the cold when we got back and saw snow. I haven't had time to read back through all the posts yet (I expect there are hundreds) so I hope you are all o.k. and not working too hard (Janey, Beth, Clair and Helena). I missed you all and wondered how you all were. I'll catch up soon xxx Lily  ... View more