Dearest Wtp - about my mastectomy. I can so understand you being worried about how you will look and feel afterwards...............our breasts are very much part of who we are, and you have every right to feel the way you do. I was very much in the opposite camp. I was just SO glad to get rid of that boob, that in truth had given me problems for years, that I wasn't in the least concerned about losing it. I know I keep saying this, but I really DO think my age has a lot to do with it. I'm 65. To those who asked if I was having reconstruction, I would answer, " What do I need a boob for? I'm not going out on the pull. I'm not planning on breast feeding anytime soon, and how incongruous would a lovely perky boob look next to my 65 year old gone south other boob?" I was also very much against having any further surgery...................again my age. I don't know how many years I have left, and I didn't want to spend them having more surgery. Life here in Spain is very much more relaxed than in the UK. When I worked I was booted and suited, and made up 24/7. Here I rarely wear make up...........it melts in the summer. I have felt confident enough to go out with my baldy teddy head - I wouldn't have been brave enough in the UK. My mastectomy wasn't really what I was expecting, as my surgeon didn't leave me flat. He left all the pectoral muscles so I actually have 1 1/2 boobs, and wearing a prosthesis is almost impossible. So I go as I am - almost Flat and Fabulous, and again, because of my age, I can say, "If anyone doesn't like it - they can look away". If I had been much younger, say 40s onwards, and living in the UK, I am certain I would have felt very differently. I am also blessed to have my wonderful hubby who has been so supportive, and doesn't care if I wear a black bin bag, as long as I am well, and I am sure your OH will be the same. Surviving is the name of the game, and once you have had time to process this huge blow, I know you will arrive at that place. I hold my head high, and say "This is ME". Deal with it. Whatever YOU are feeling is right for you - there is no right and wrong. I have a lot of experience in bra and prosthesis buying if it would help. Please know you are in my prayers.
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