Hi Majestic Tiger - goodness, what a dilemma for you to get your head around. Afraid I have no wise advice, just thought, as you'd asked for experiences, I'd let you know how mine panned out. I had a right side mastectomy 5 years ago. I was advised not to have reconstruction at that time as there were concerns about the effect of radiation on the surgery site. However, I was assured that I'd be entitled to a reconstruction once other therapies were completed. Following surgery I was given a prothesis to wear - it can be worn directly on the chest or tucked into a pocket in a bra. At every subsequent check up appointment I was asked whether or not I was considering reconstruction. At the first of these appointments I was sure I was not up for more surgery and declined the offer. At the next, I asked about reconstruction options as I was curious but, was still not convinced it was for me. By the next appointment I knew I was completely happy with my lot and opted to stay as I am. I'm perfectly content, with my prothesis - when dressed, nobody would notice it. It doesn't impede my lifestyle at all - I go to yoga and pilates classes, play netball and swim (it tucks into my cossie) fairly regulary. I'm very lucky to have a partner who accepts me 'warts and all', so have had no pressure from other 'interested parties' to make any decision. Obviously, the choice to reconstruct or not is so very personal, so I'm not advocating non-reconstruction, just that it's the option that suited me. Hope this has been helpful. Good luck and very best wishes for whichever route you choose.
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