Breast Cancer Now Forum

Hi Sophie , i have just this moment placed an order on Amazon for a book this amazing lady has written . She has just been on B.B.C. Breakfast news and is inspiring with her courage . Its a difficult road to travel but have faith and courage in yourself , know that the support of us all here going through it is with you and get the book ! hugs from us all X ... View more

Hi Rita , im just recently diagnosed too although i have been in remission for 20 years from another cancer.  Although my cancers are genetic and i'm at high risk of several , this is one i didnt expect and has been found qite by chance by my G.P.. I would never have guessed it was a breast lump as it is so high up almost on my breast bone , so dont beat yoursrelf up about not finding it earlier . The main thing is ..its found now and will be treated .Yes its a time when emotions are all over the place , you feel as though your'e wading through treacle blindfolded . Having cancer again is bringing back all the feelings i had years ago .. the difference is at least i KNOW now.. all this will pass .. i promise you ...hard to believe at this point but you will find a day ahead when you suddenly realise having cancer hasnt entered your thoughts that day. For the moment it is what it is ..and fighting the continual thoughts of it is a struggle.. but you WILL win . I made a decision early on that THIS was NOT going to control or define me !..and it was vital to have at least 1 pleasurable thing a day no matter what . However your life was before ,  in a job you hate ,caring for others at the expense of your own wellbeing , whatever ...NOW is the time for YOU ...avoid the things that stress you or make you unhappy , alter whats not right for you in your liife , avoid people who make you feel worse and get help in any form when you feel you need it . This is not being selfish , this is a time for pampering yourself and keeping positive . I am on antidepressants at the moment and finding they are really helping me cope . Its a wonderful thing to have this site and if you have a Maggies Centre look in, its bright and calm with a lot of caring people to help . Keep looking forward , everybody here is with you X ... View more

Keep strong everybody X...i also find swearing, ( in your head preferably ), eating lots of chocolate and emailing complaining about something kind of helps ... ... View more

Hello Rach , know exactly where you're coming from as I'm sure everybody else here does . Its true that its hard not being in control and having no say really in things . Its the roller coaster moment where one day life was " normal " and now suddenly you're plunged into an alien , frightening world . One of my big C friends says she thinks of it as a road , and each down moment is a speed bump ..." a pest to contend with, to get over with quickly, and not keep you back from reaching where you want to be ! " Yes life has changed and its a high price to pay , but we all come out of this with a new take on life that others don't find . The world is brighter sweeter and you will live it to the full . " The only thing we have to fear is fear itself . You , we , will get through this ! X ps ...speaking personally i think you can't beat doggie cuddles and hell with it , buy a thong ! ... View more

Thank you SO much Bonita ! we are having an L.S. patient day in Edinburgh and hope to help others . I am the only one i know of thats gone on to develop breast cancer as well and it would be such a help to talk to anybody going through the same .This is a wonderfully supportive site and a sincere thank you to you all . ... View more

Thank you Steph ..yes i got through today ..lovely friends have been phoning and im finding im having to comfort them which is not only very touching its actually helping me too to give myself a shake ! Its this in limbo out of control feeling isnt it ? ..i hate the not really knowing whats all ahead and just want and need to get on with it . Tuesday will be the day for all that so" a treat " has to be on the agenda !..NOW is the time ladies to deny yoursevles nothing !! sending a hug X ... View more

Thinking of you Maria , i know, thats the hardest part telling the people you love, especially children . He will take his lead from you so you will stay strong for his sake . I found the first time my family worried more by me not being calmly honest with them and trying to spare them the worry . This time i have told them everything from the start and how i intend to get through it . Keep positive , its a long journey we are on and we will all help to get through it . Sending you a hug X ... View more

Today is my first " wobbly ", one i suspect of many that will come when i least expect it in the months ahead. I was diagnosed 3 days ago and although the results were expected ( having had endometrial cancer before some years ago ), i had forgotton how bad the" wobbly " days can be .. so im sitting here reading the threads of all you wonderful brave ladies and i can feel your strengh reaching me . I will let myself indulge in 10 minutes of a damn good cry , then shower , put a face on and get out and walk my lovely rescue dog in the sunshine . " This too will pass " dear friends and we will turn the corner to once again see the sun . Keep strong and seize the day X ... View more

Hello marydan , thank you so much for your warm welcme . I feel ive joined another special club !. I have Lynch Syndrome which was diagnosed when i had endometrial cancer at 49 . When you carry the gene for this condition as i do, it predisposes you to various cancers . Ive had a good run at being in remission so it didnt come as a surprise to be diagnosed again , and i will try and get through this with optimism and humour too !...and on a " bad " day i know there will be lots of lovely " special " ladies there to keep me going , keep smiling everyone and all my best wishes X  ... View more

Hi and thank you !.its a club i hadn't planned on joining but its where i will be in touch with the nicest people and my best wishes to everybody x ... View more

Hi , im new to this "blog" thing so i hope im doing it right !. II have Lynch Syndrome and diagnosed today with breast cancer . I had endometrial cancer 20 years ago and im trying to set up a support group in Scotland if anybody wants to get intouch . Good wishes to everyone , keep strong !  ... View more