Apologies for the essay in advance I was diagnosed with 34mm, grade 2 Invasive Ductal BC at the end of May. My family took it really hard, I think more so because I'm under 40 so spent a month holding everyone together and being really positive about the prognosis and treatment planned with my WLE and SNB on the 30th June, a week and a half ago. I went back to the hospital today to get the results of what was removed and it was all good news, clear margins and clear nodes. Yippee! Sigh of relief. My surgeon, who is lovely and an up beat type of guy, asked if I was healing OK. Told him the two wounds were healing well, had no problems but had a pain at the top of my chest, under my collarbone which can get quite bad. My surgeons response to that, word for word, was. "Man up!" I appreciate my surgeon hasn't been at home with me over the last week and a half when I've had to just get on with life instead of resting because my husband can't cope with having to do everything I do around the house and for the kids. He's also not seen me in various degrees of pain and tiredness because I find it difficult to get comfortable and sleep. He's also not aware of having to take a trip to A&E with my 14 year old last Friday by ambulance which ended up with both of us staying in overnight (in the stress of it all I forgot to grab my pain meds so had to be booked in myself so they could give me some paracetamol in the hospital while treating her) but the one thing I mentioned, the one thing that wasn't on the list of pain to expect.....and he tells me to man up like I'm a hypochondriac. I wont lie, it made me feel stupid and like the inners of a babies nappie. I appreciate most people will presume I'm being over sensitive and that he meant it in a jokey manner, like my husband, but since this whole journey started two and a half months ago, I have never felt this low. I don't want to sound ungrateful for what he has done but I figured some of you lovely ladies may understand the blow that it was. OK, rant over. Sorry about that.
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