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Jack36
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06-09-2017
11:02
Hi Rachy65, I had a skin sparing mastectomy with immediate implant, that was 9wks ago and I'm really pleased with the result , haven't had any problems apart from my armpit as it was really sore after op , but it's fine now !! X
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25-08-2017
04:14
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And you. Xx
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25-08-2017
01:34
Hi Rachy65 ,my tumour was 3.5cm and a micromet in 1 lymph node ,oncologist had to ignore the micromet for me to have the test ,it came back 17 so no chemo 😊 ,had to wait 3wks for results so life was on hold but not now !!! I feel abit stuck financially as well but I will be prepared to move into a flat ,was hoping to cut down my days at work but if I go it alone I won't be able to so I have a lot to think about but I know things have to change as I'm not happy ,I'm giving him a chance but have made it clear I'm not giving him to long as life is to short to waste time !!! I need to start living and be happy and think we deserve it after what we have been through ! X
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25-08-2017
10:54
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Hi Rachy65 , I've just had my results from oncotype test and have waited to see what they were before tackling my OH , my outlook on life has changed since being diagnosed and no longer prepared to put up with him sitting at home watching TV & drinking ! I've told him I want to live life & go out more and if he isn't prepared to make an effort then we will have to go our separate ways, I've apologised as it's me that has changed and now I want him to but I have made it clear he doesn't have to but I will leave if he doesn't !! I'm feeling strong and nothing scares me after what I have gone through, I do not want to waste any time enjoying my life , time to be selfish !!!! Hope it works out for you what ever you decide x
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25-08-2017
10:19
Thanks newey47 , good result ,score was 17 so no chemo !!!! Had a word with hubby and he put a few barriers up but I stuck to my guns and said if doesn't like it we will have to separate ! We are going to sell the house ( when he has finished a few jobs ) and I will see how I feel and how he is ,then decide whether to stay or go on my own , not feeling scared about that and feeling strong in myself 😊 After what I've gone through has changed me for the better!! X
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21-08-2017
04:53
Thanks Newey47, it sounds like you are happy with your decision even tho it must have been hard .I know I have to do something as I really do not want to carry on like this and I'm always up for a challenge ! I think I will wait till after my results this Thursday and hopefully that will help me tackle him and make some decisions !! Stay happy and strong 😊 X
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21-08-2017
03:25
Thanks for your reply ,my husband won't leave so we would have to put the house up for sale ,financially I should be ok as I pay most of the bills now ,he is self employed so doesn't always have work .I find him very hard to talk to as he goes quiet and won't really give me any feedback ,I think should I just stay where I am and carry on with my life ,he never moans if I go out without him or go it alone ,abit scary as I would have to buy myself a flat and I work 12hr shifts and I have an elderly dog who I love more than him ,we don't argue and it feels more like we are housemates not husband & wife ! I was happy to put up with it before but now feel I'm wasting time, and to complicate things more my 26 yr old daughter has moved back in ( not his daughter) after her 10yr relationship ended ,she has said it's not right how he is with me and thinks he has depression,he will never do anything about it if he did , one minute I'm merrily getting on with life then BC comes along and bang my whole outlook changes ,I'm wondering if I'm just causing myself more trouble !!!!
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21-08-2017
02:19
Hi everyone, my 1st post !! I had a mx and reconstruction 3rd July and waiting for results of oncotype test ,I'm very frustrated with my husband as he seems to have no get up and go and since I've been diagnosed I want to do more with my life and not continue how it was before, he has been fairly good at looking after me not that I needed much help really , he has never really been one for getting out and about much , he prefers to stay at home and drink cider & watch TV !! I'm finding this extremely boring and go out with friends & my daughter a lot but since this has happened I'm now questioning whether I should leave him , he won't change as I have had this out with him before and he is still the same , I do love him but dread the future with him ,my daughter said I should leave him as he has no respect for me and she just wants me to be happy but when I think about leaving him I feel quilty ,I've been with him for 18years and not once in that time has he ever suggested doing anything, it's always been me arranging things !! I really feel I owe to myself to enjoy my life more but can't see me doing that with him , I'm not sure whether I should wait to see if my feelings change ,has anyone else wanted to change their life like this or is it just me ? I really could do with some advice ladies,thanks.
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01-08-2017
08:49
Hi ,I am 4 weeks post op as well ,mastectomy with immediate reconstruction with implant ,I have started to drive ( only short journeys) but I feel I have my freedom back !! I have a dog and love taking her different places so being able to drive again was a big thing for me ,I felt my energy dipped in the afternoons ,my bcn told me before op to make sure I had an afternoon nap which really helped ,I think now I'm back out walking I don't seem to get so tired ,hopefully you will find it will improve but I think we just have to be kind to ourselves,we have been through a lot ,physically and emotionally !
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16-07-2017
05:02
Hi to all you lovely ladies,I had a mx & recon with implant on the 03/07/17 ,2nodes removed ,1node with micro ,grade 2 invasive 3.5cm I've been told I am borderline for chemo but I fit criteria for a trial ,I will know more about this on the 2nd Aug when I see oncologist,surgeon said on the trial they will test to see whether I would benefit from chemo so this would take the decision away from me ,has anyone heard about this trial? I really do not want chemo but if advised I would but would hate to have to make a decision on it so the trial sounds good .
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11-06-2017
11:19
I had 7 days waiting for results and made myself so ill with worry ,i thought I had it everywhere !! I couldn't eat ,sleep and felt sick ,I really regret not going to the doctor,once I got my results I was ok ,even thou it is cancer I now feel more positive about the outcome ,I really think they should warn women about the emotional rollercoaster they will probably go through,it was a week from hell !!!
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11-06-2017
11:12
I have had results back after my 1st mammogram and I have stage 2 invasive ,tumour size is 6cm so have to have a mastectomy as I have small breasts ! I have to make a decision whether I want an implant or a breast from my own fat ,1st option is a quicker recovery time so I'm thinking that would be better for me but how do people get on with implants ?
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