Hi jtb I had a mx without reconstruct in Dec 2017. Not having reconstruct was an easy decision for me due to the length of surgery, my age - I'm a young 52! and I'm not so bothered about body image though I do look after myself. However, the consultant has left the door open should i change my mind at a later stage. I know of a lady who had reconstruct 10 yrs post surgery! For now I'm happy as I am. I know we are all different, my scar healed relatively quickly but I did have problems with a large seroma and blood clots in the surgery area ( i didn't have drains inserted after surgery) and attended the bc clinic several times for the fluid to be drained but it filled up again. In the end, I had a separate appointment for a 'vacumn' which sucked out all the fluid and I'm fine now. I dont know whether women who had the drains inserted after surgery have had these issues. The surgery area is not completely flat as i have some scar tissue and i also put this down to being big busted pre surgery. Bear in mind every mx and scar will look different. I've adjusted to wearing the softie and have taken out some of the 'stuffing' to look more even. I will soon be fitted for the prosthesis. Most days I go out without the softie and have mastered the art of disguise with my clothing, no one would ever know I have one boob I've found several good quality post surgery bra's on Asda's website and M&S have a good selection. I had a bra fitting recently at M&S and the lady was lovely, understanding and had years of experience with fitting ladies who have had a mx. When I booked the appointment I mentioned that i had a mx as I wanted someone with this experience. I've also bought a few padded bras where I can take out the pads and insert the softie. That said, I feel liberated not having to wear a bra all the time and support vest tops are good too especially during radiotherapy. As the other ladies have said, it's important to keep on doing your breast and arm exercises, even if you dont feel like it. Im 4 months post surgery and down to twice a day because I know I have to do them If you feel up to it, you can ask your bcn to put you in touch with someone who has had a mx without reconstruct to talk and ask questions. The decision you make has to be the right one for you. Wishing you the best xx
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