Breast Cancer Care Forum

Hi Sue Just wondered if you're  feeling any better. All the best. Xx ... View more

Hi Lucy51 I am exactly the same. I do everything 100 miles an hour and want everything done now. That's why I've struggled ( if that's the word ) with mindfulness.  I do need to be kinder to myself though. I was told that in the taster session yesterday. Julie xx ... View more

Thanks Philippa I really appreciate it. Julie xx ... View more

Hi Lucy51 I finished treatment a while ago and that's when I hit a brick wall. I felt as if I had no support but now everything is coming at once. I'm finding it difficult to fit it all in. I think I need to be kinder to myself and put myself first. It is difficult though when I have so much to contend with besides BC. xx ... View more

Hi Ladies, I hope you don't  mind me joining in but just wanted to say I feel exactly the same as you all. Not a day goes by when it's not on my mind. It's  ruling my life. I did go to a taster mindfulness session today and I have a taster Counselling session in September.  I've has both before but hoping this time it will work for me.  Like Lucy51 said I'm  so glad I'm  not on my own feeling like this. Take Care All. Xx ... View more

Thanks Tracie. You do the same. Sending Hugs. Xx ... View more

I agree with you Tracie.  I only  made the appointment yesterday at 6 and had a call at 9 this morning.  It's  only a simple procedure I require and can't  believe any nurse can't do it. Water infections can get you down so I hope you're sorted out soon and out of discomfort and worry .  Xx ... View more

Thanks ladies for your support. I had my nurse appointment cancelled this morning as nurse not qualified to do what I needed!! Have to ring Monday afternoon to rearrange as that's when new rota is out. Hugs to you all. Xx   ... View more

Hi Tracie  I meant to say I'm seeing the GP again in three weeks. So at least she's  keeping an eye on me. I made the appointment over a month ago. I was lucky to get in today.  I probably got a cancellation. I have to see the nurse tomorrow regarding more gynae problems. So for the next few weeks if the phone goes I'll  be stressing again  just for a change. I agree this is a marvellous site for all of us. I don't  know what I'd do without it. I don't always comment but I am on here most days reading reviews. Xx ... View more

Thanks Tracie and Evie for your replies and thinking of me. Tracie I think we could be twins!! Everything you say resonates with me. I went to see the GP and as usual she was very good and understanding. I went in list in hand and we covered everything. She advised me to make sure I carry on with all the help I can get. I'm  not sure I can fit it all in. I'm  afraid to postpone anything as I've  slipped through so many nets. I've waited month's  now everything seems to come at once. Take care both Xx ... View more

Tracie, I'm exactly the same. I try to go to the same lady GP all the time. She is lovely and keeps saying love you I wish I could do more. I too had lady problems about eighteen months ago and she sent me to see a Gynaecologist. I was beside myself with worry. Every ache and pain I worry about but that said I've always been a worrier but not like this. Like you I will feel fine coming out of the surgery tomorrow but it will soon pass when I come home and face reality again. Will let you know how things go. Everyone I know who's had reflexology has nothing but praise for it. Julie x ... View more

HI Ladies  I hope you don't mind me joining in but I too suffer with anxiety( all the time). Tracie I'm glad you feel better today after seeing your GP. I too have another appointment with my GP tomorrow evening regarding my issues. I've my list ready!! I am starting a Mindfulness course next week, reflexology this week and hopefully more Counselling in the near future. My biggest problem is that I always put people before me-which I know I shouldn't after "our" diagnosis. Jaybro I also suffer with the phobia of being sick. It's surprising how many people it affects. Evie hope you are well and the move went smoothly? Take Care All. Julie x ... View more

Hi Oldspice I'm so pleased for you. I can imagine the last two weeks or so you have been on edge all the time. I know I am when waiting for results. Let's hope you get the news you want in September regarding Tamoxifen too. Thanks for recommending the book too. I am getting through it slowly as trying to take it all in. It all makes common sense but hard to put to practice every day. Sending you hugs. Julie x ... View more

Hi Evie Unfortunately the plaster is not drying as quickly as we had hoped ( weather doesn't help) so the builders are not back  here until next Monday. It means longer without comfy chairs!! We're hoping it will be finished by Wednesday (ish) next week so can put everything back together ( nightmare!) and concentrate on the holiday. I went to Counselling today and am now being referred to Mindfulness ( via GP) as well as Counselling via my Cancer hospital. I feel as if I have to give Mindfulness another go. This runs for nine weeks not four like before, although before it was not just Mindfulness - it was  just touched upon among other things. Hope you are well and finding the books really helpful. Julie x ... View more

Hi Evie I have to say the builder's are doing really well. The ceiling was down and a new one up the same day. They are very kind and tidy which has surprised at. One thing I miss is after they've gone I have nothing comfortable to sit on as our lounge is out of bounds until early next week. Deck chairs are not as comfortable!!! I have counselling Thursday coming but it is coming to an end shortly I fear. I go every two weeks on the whole and when I'm " due" I know/ feel I'm ready for another session. I shall have to see how my referral goes. Thanks for asking about things. Julie x ... View more

I hope you find the books helpful Evie. I was recommended the mindfulness book by my Cancer hospital and by a friend who's also had BC and her daughter runs courses on it. I do feel you have to be in the right frame of mind though. My niece and her husband swear by it. Can I ask how many Counselling sessions you had and was it via GP? The other book I found really helpful and honest obviously written by professionals and people who'd gone through the experience. I hope to still have internet access when builder's are here so if you reply I will try to answer. Julie x ... View more

Hi Evie I've a number of books but the one everyone seems to recommend is A Practical guide to finding peace in a frantic world. The other one is The Complete Guide to BC by Dr Liz O'Riordan and Professor Trisha Greenhalgh. They are both books that can be dipped in and out of. Your Counsellor sounded very helpful. It's hard to say if mine's helping as I've so many other things going on that I feel I can't move on. That's why she's referring me to my Cancer hospital. Speak Soon. Julie x ... View more

Thanks for your message Evie. We may try and get out as otherwise clicking our heels. Some have mentioned about why didn't we have it done whilst away but we'd be on edge all the time and not relaxed. Moving is stressful too. We've done it a number of times and always say never again but who knows!! Hope your move goes with no hiccups. I agree about the book. In fact I'm just about to have a read. I have a few already especially about mindfulness but I'm still " trying" that as I don't find it that easy. Did I read before you've has counselling or have I got that wrong? I'm having some via my gp but it's due to end soon so my Cancer hospital is arranging some- I hope as I seem to fall through all the nets. Thanks for the hugs and speak soon. Julie x ... View more

Good news about the Tamoxifen so let's hope things will improve you. I also hope you get good news next week when you speak to your BCN. Hope you're ok Evie? The builder's are starting the work Monday. It could take 5 - 10 days and I'm dreading it!! Just before we go away. I've also started reading the book. Julie x ... View more

Thanks for your best wishes Oldspice. If you contact the BCN I would still ask her about your results. All BCN' s have access to your details. I found this out as I spoke to two of them and was told this. Good Luck. Julie x ... View more