Breast Cancer Now Forum

Partner is all clear! I have to say I was so stressed over it , just the way our luck has been going recently it wouldn’t have surprised me if it had been bad news! On my way for second attempt at getting results and plan of action! X ... View more

Hi everyone. ive had a few really up and down days, Friday should have been results day but due to sickness I have to wait until Thursday, so more bloody waiting! I appeared to be healing well but I have had the most horrendous pain and was thinkinking I may have an infection, but seems to be easing a bit now. After not being able to rest post op I am now the opposite and struggling to do anything! I’m meant to be back at work on Friday and don’t want to go. My house is in need of cleaning but hoovering is really uncomfortable. On the plus side I seem to have been able to knock the cigarettes on the head!  I feel like everything is on hold until Thursday, oh and my partner is having a scan on his testicles as he’s found a lump!, It’s never ending! ... View more

Hi Michelle. i haven’t got grade 3 mine up until now is grade 1 so early days, I’m waiting for 5he results of the lumpectomy. But just wanted to share one of my friends stories. She was diagnosed 9 years ago with grade 3 it had spread to her lymph nodes and basically was not in a good place. She went through chemo ( embracing her bald head), rads and I’m not sure which medication she was taking . However she is clear of cancer and loving life. So there is light at the end of the tunnel. I’m on a Facebook group and there are other ladies on there who have been through it and come out smiling. Never give up!  Xxxx ... View more

Hi Sunflower  the mri was the worst thing and the thing I’m dreading I may have to have again, I was completely unprepared for feeling so claustrophobic. That and the first biopsy have been the most shocking, by op day I had just had enough of having needles in my tit and being poked and injected with stuff, certainly not good for a control freak like me.  Big hug to you. Xxxx ... View more

Hi Gill & Sunflower. reading your messages are exactly where I was , and I did get a cold! A real humdinger, I dosed myself up with vitamin c cold and flu and took a few days off work before hand. My mother used to say colds are like an internal weeping, in the case I think it was totally true. I was still a bit stuffed up on the day but no temperature and my blood pressure was fine. as for the getting grumpy! Oh my I was horrible, my poor other half saw me in a way he’s never seen me before I was completely losing it with him, and then I had a complete emotional break down and blubbed for hours. I felt I wasn’t coping but you know what I think I was doing ok , just the same as you both are now! We ladies have developed some sort of super strength,   i have to admit on the day of surgery I was fine until I had this wire put in my boob and I just lost it cried continually until I went home.  Im trying not to think about the results I think the worst is over now? I find it hard to rest, not that I want to do cleaning and crap like that, I want to to go out drive etc, I went to a wedding on Saturday, my best friends sons wedding, and I overdid it a bit, I know I need to to rest my body is saying stop it! I can’t control everything so have to give into it a little bit.  This is a horrible situation disease and basically the crappiest of crap time, but we can do this! We’re fabulous women after all! im sending you my love and hugs if I can do this so can you xxxx   ... View more

I stil feel that I can’t quite believe it! I’m not sure those feelings ever go away. best bit of advice is be kind to yourself, and lots of pillows I bought a v shape pillow which is great strongly recommend one of those.  Sunflower when is your surgery? I know you’ve been waiting a while.   xxx ... View more

No thought is a crazy thought, you need to process this ordeal in your mind. How your conscious and subconscious deal with it is down to the individual, I feel envious of those that are not openly screaming inside!  Well the ones who are admitting  it openly!  Im now 2 days post surgery well nearly 3 as it’s sillly o’clock, and I’m starting to worry about the follow up appointment, did they get it all? Is it in the lymph nodes? Will I need further surgery, chemo , radiotherapy, tamoxifen .........  my mind is working overtime a lot of the time but to be honest I’m too exhausted to be worrying about it at the moment!  I’m more concerned about being constipated from the codeine, I’ve never had this problem before, usually the opposite! Senekot it is!  ... View more

Hi all,  I had my surgery yesterday, the surgery is not as bad as I was anticipating, but I was so emotional cried continuously from when they put a wire in to mark the spot it wasn’t the pain I’d just had enough. The staff were lovely one nurse came and sat with me and talked to me for ages and gave me a big hug.  The drugs are great take them if they are offered to you it keeps the pain down and your sense of humour up as I got home totally spaced out to the amusement of my other half! I just wanted to eat!  Oh and blue wee! From the dye they inject, very disappointed I don’t look like a smurf though.  I went off sick from work a couple of days before the surgery, I had 5 days off prior. I developed a stinking cold. I’m glad I took the time, I was worrying about being too ill for surgery and having to go through it all over again.  I spent the time buying post surgery bras!! And a v shaped pillow, also some little heart pillows . I got lots of advice from ladies on a Facebook group. Cushions cushions cushions pillows plillows pillows.  look on Facebook for “Jens Friends” they offer free heart shaped pillows for post breast surgery and just ask for a donation towards postage. Waiting for mine to arrive. big hugs to you if I can do this so can you xxxx ... View more

How are you Adele?  Dont look if you don’t want to!  But just remember you’re still you, I’m pretty sure I will be feeling the same as you though xxx ... View more

Sunflower I have crashed down too! I’m terrified and can’t stop crying!  We can do this girl!  Big hugs when is your surgery? xxx ... View more

Update, I had another biopsy in the other boob and had the results Friday much relief that it’s only in the one! Found myself feeling elated , weirdly, that “yay” I have cancer just in one boob!!! Surgery is booked for 27th, they will be taking quite a big segment and told me I would have a much younger looking breast afterwards! I hope they’re not going to be too uneven as that will probably take time to get used to, but to be honest I just think get the bloody thing out of me! Today I’ve developed a cold and now obsessing about them not doing the surgery, I’m also getting really frustrated trying to find front fastening non wired non lacy bra in a size 34g!!!! ... View more

Hi    I can honestly say that these forums have helped already, I don’t feel quite as much of a basket case!  The mri scan however uncomfortable it is will pick up everything and you’ll have a clearer idea of what’s going to happen.  Im recently diagnosed and it’s still all surreal!  Spending you huge hugs   Emma xxx ... View more

Hi  I feel a little better, they said they don’t think that it’s anything, but the mri was showing an almost identical picture on the left breast, as the right one which is confirmed as having cancer. They took biopsies which I will get the results of on 16th along with my treatment plan. where they did the biopsy there’s less bruising than the last time but the site won’t stop bleeding now! I do feel I can sleep tonight for the first time in weeks!   hope you’re having a good day xxxx   ... View more

Hi Adele.   this is all so awful and unfairl!    I think yours is more advanced than mine I’m grade 1 invasive, I don’t understand what the receptors are or even what they are!  I like to think that I’m pretty knowledgeable but I now realise I know nothing.    The breast unit at my hospital has its own ultrasound so I won’t have to be waiting in the main X-ray department. My appointment is tomorrow morning and I’m feeling terrified.  Im guessing your appointment on the 8th will be when they will let you know what they have planned for you?  I will keep everything crossed for you that the journey is not too long or hard.  Massive hugs to you xxx   ... View more

Thank you for replying.  It does appear , from reading a lot of other posts, that things get easier once there is a care plan put in place. It seems that Every time I think things can’t get any worse, they do!  Im the controller and not good at letting things control me, it seems I have no choice! hugs to everyone xxx   ... View more