Hi there, I'm sorry you feel so compromised . . . . I think moderation in all things. Blimey, you're healthy and fit enough, and you're not saying that you want to get rip-roaring drunk regularly!! And yes, there has to be some pleasure/s in,life, otherwise what is it really all about. I'm much older, at 64 now, had lumpectomy last year in May, Grade 3, hormone positive, lumpectomy but not the best of margins but no more tissue to take, 4 weeks radiotherapy last summer. . . . should be on letrozole, but decide after a few months of it that my bones couldn't afford the risk ( I walk everywhere every day and my life would not be worth living if I could not get out of the house every day) - I refused bisphosphonates because I don't have great teeth and was not prepared to risk jaw problems - and I refused neoadjuvant chemo, because . . . . that's me, I guess. I'm older, I can 'afford' to see life this way maybe - but I have always been of this sort of mindset, all my life. I guess I've been lucky not to have had those opinions tested until now? My quality of life has always, always been the priority over my length of life. My kids are grown ups and they understand me. I don't know if this is of any help . . . . but I mean well. (My mum lived to be very old, into her 90's, and her last 8 years were spent in a care home - no mobility, dementia, no quality of life - and I know 'my mum' would never have wanted that in a million years.) Life's for a-living, as well as for looking after our bodies the best we can . . . . truly wish you well. Hugs aplenty.
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