Breast Cancer Now Forum

I know exactly how you feel and I also know the "guilt" because you can't do the special things you want to be able to do. You have to force yourself to think positively. I follow an instagram account "powerofpositivity" and "spiritual.news" both of them have daily messages that I check in the morning to help me stay or try to stay in a positive head space. For the kids, my sisters kids are older than mine and she reminded me that kids have a very short memory/attention span. Like when they play with a toy they HAD to HAVE for five minutes and then they run off and ask for a snack or another old toy. The best gift you can give them is focusing on your health and take "self care" seriously. Tell the little ones, mommy is in a time out for quiet time. I know how hard it is with teenagers and they don't help me as much as they should but the kids do drive you crazy and then they will do something so cute or funny you will forget even for a minute how crummy you feel. One day at a time. Rest when you want to, sleep on the couch all day for three days straight (I've done it). Vent anytime, I am here or email: hgmarsh@gmail.com Sending love and strength your way. You are an amazing MOM, I know it. Now its time to just rest and take care of you. I have Herceptin every three weeks, the third week I plan something fun because that is when I always feel my best. So, mark your calendar with a highlighter and make plans to look forward to: take your kids to a museum or a fun park, the beach a movie, a new ice cream shop. HUGS -Heidi ... View more

This is so helpful and supportive. I really needed the feedback today. My teenagers are so moody and I can't predict when I feel well and when I don't.   Do you have more energy now that the Herceptin is done? I am curious. Also, does the weight come off? I feel like I am holding water weight.  Thank you @Chaffinch17   ... View more

Thank you @Floss62. I really appreciate this. Stay strong together! Have a great day. -Heidi ... View more

@Julie072 Usually my treatment takes a couple of days to kick in, I have had it alone (without chemo) since January and this time the following day I was at a meeting for my youngest daughter  (14) for school feeling fine. But, on the way home my entire body started to ache..every muscle. I barely got up the steps to lie on the couch and stayed there until the kids came home. I feel you. I have waves where I feel pretty good and then all of the sudden it will hit me again. So, I share this because please know you are not alone. (Which is why we are on this blog). Hydration is really important and I haven't been very good with that lately. Some patients on have said if they take Claritin Hay Fever it helps. Didn't work for me. Recently a close friend of mine said she takes B12 shots and it helps her. Ask your oncologist. Hot baths and rest give me temporary relief. Sending strength.  -Heidi ... View more

I experienced and am still experiencing what they call “seroma” which is a build up of fluid that has to be drained. If it is clear fluid there is no infection. I have had this drained three times and it is going down and eventually will go away. Painful, I know but not to worry.  ... View more