Breast Cancer Care Forum

No need to apologise at all, this is the place to talk and let go of how you are/aren't feeling! I was feeling like this too and it does ease up but you must be kind to yourself. Accept how you are feeling right now in the knowledge that it will pass but you must carry on as normal as much as you can (without doing any physical damage of course!). 'You' will come back, it's just that you are hiding in the background right now, waiting to emerge! You have been through so much, physically and emotionally and you are amazing. If you can face going to work for a day or so, start doing it, no matter how battered your confidence is - doing your normal everyday things are the way for you to 'come back', you will focus on other things and this alone will make you feel so much better. Explain to your family that you are struggling and that going through something like this changes someone even if they are healthy again. Look after yourself, know that you are amazing and most of all be patient with yourself xx ... View more

Thank you so much for posting this link - just what I, and probably many others, need at the moment xx ... View more

Hi Jan, Thanks so much for replying. Not that I want you to feel this but it makes me feel better knowing that others experience it and I'm not alone so I really appreciate you telling your story. I think, because I've only had a small scar from a lumpectomy with no nodes being removed, that I shouldn't be getting these symptoms but apparently its common with radiotherapy too which I've also had.  Thank you again, this forum is great and i really appreciate your advice xx ... View more

What a thoughtful thing for you to do, thanks so much, it is just what is needed at times xx ... View more

Hi KitKat, Thanks for replying. I spoke to a BCN this afternoon and she fully agreed that the support isn't anywhere near the same as the diagnosis clinic. It is a shortfall but I need to try and be less emotional about these things! Going to try and put it put of my mind and wait for the results!!  Thanks again, really appreciate you replying xx ... View more

Hi all, Thanks so much for taking the time to reply, it really helped me feel a lot less lonely and lost.  I had an appointment with the Specialist Breast Care Nurse last Thurs as a follow up to treatment but I won't be having my mammo until July (I thought I was having it now). I feel so much better after talking through things with her and it helped having my hubby present as he learned a lot too and when I am having a fear episode he can reiterate what she actually said! Thanks again, you really helped when I needed it xxx ... View more