Hi MoDo, Sorry to hear about your dad. I lost mine many years ago and I have also lost a brother and sister at a young age. Life is sometimes like that, kicks you in the teeth when you least expect it. Talk about your father and remember the funny things he said and did. You will sometimes have tears, but you will also laugh as well. As for moving on after cancer, you and I are in a similar boat, except I am living my life. I can understand though that you worry. But do you worry about what happens if you get hit by a bus in the future, or if you are going to break your leg next week? Can you see where I'm coming from? We could spend our life worrying about what If, but it only wastes precious time on this planet. I had my mastectomy about 12 weeks ago and as soon as my breast was gone I moved on. I didn't worry about the results as I know there is nothing I could have done anyway. Luckily I was fine. I never got upset about my scars as I say it's our badge of courage and not a scar. I still feel tender if I lay on my left side, but that is a small price to pay for being cancer free. I have also had a very large lipoma removed on Wednesday, so I have more scarring. I laugh when I stand in front of the mirror and look at my scars as I resemble a jigsaw puzzle. I know we can't tell you not to worry, but getting interested in things around you will help focus on something else. Take care of yourself and best wishes for a long and happy life.
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