Hi Ruthie2, you are the first person I have have heard of in the same situation as me. There were no bcns available when I was diagnosed, I saw a private surgeon at a hospital that was trying to recruit one, so no help there and they had just had a change of charity at the hospital where I had radiotherapy so they didn't have one either! I didn't even know what a bcn was for but after going through everything on my own for months I broke down and begged a for help from a bcn at the local NHS hospital. She refused as I 'had made my choice to go private'. In the end I asked my GP to refer me to the NHS, you could try this. It hasn't really worked for me, as I am not part of the NHS 'family' but it might work for you. It is so important to have a bcn as they can help with all sorts of info and support not available elsewhere. And you desperately need to speak to a human, face to face! I learned everything at a Moving on after Cancer course run by Breast Cancer Now. It was the first time I met anyone in the same boat as me and was a life saver, but it came too late really, there was so much I should have known already if only I had access to a bcn. It still didn't resolve the total isolation and desperation of coping without support. I know how you feel so try and get a GP referral and then you can possibly get some help from other charities too.
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