Breast Cancer Care Forum

Hi Jem I was diagnosed nearly 3 weeks ago and I totally understand how it rocks your world, I was totally petrified for the first few days and Shi & Mai7 were amazing on the forum....I also found it really helpful to spk to breast nurses on here, It also reallt helped to use the "someone like me" service, it gives great comfort to hear other people's stories and to know that it will be ok, whatever your journey looks like ... View more

Hey Jia I was also diagnosed this week and am struggling more with anxiety than my actual diagnosis. I keep telling people that I am not worried about what they have found but what they haven't found. So unhelpful to spend all your time worrying about something that is so unlikely to happen but you just can't help it!! I have found it so helpful to spk to the nurses on here...on Tuesday I just couldn't get out of bed and a lady called Eve talked to me for nearly 2hrs and helped me get through my most difficult day. I also had a call with a wonderful lady from the "someone like me" programme on Friday and it really helped me to stay positive to. It has also helped  to keep a list of all the facts I have been given and remember that in every conversation they say "it is treatable' so sorry to hear about your twin😔, I can understand that would make you more anxious. Sending you lots of love. ❤ ... View more

Oh and btw...massive respect to your gran, what a fabulous lady😍💃❤xx ... View more

😁❤..I remember Mr Ben, my fave tv show as a kid! Thanks Shi...you're fabulous 😘 ... View more

🤣❤...just replied to Shi saying how fabulous your username story is! Very true about being afraid of your body, it feels like a complete loss of control and I just want to get some control back. I was talking to my brother today, he was diagnosed with Myeloma cancer 10 yrs ago and the prognosis wasn't great, yet here he is 10yrs later, he's well and is living life to the full. He totally understands when I tell him how I feel. The one thing he told me.that has stuck with me is how his how he enjoys everything in his life so much more than he did before the diagnosis...I will keep that in mind on my dark days😘❤xxx ... View more

😂😂...love the story of how you and Mai7 came up with your usernames! Thanks Shi, another day nearly done...it sounds like such a cliche when people say "one day at a time" but it is SO true. I had my MRI yesterday to see if there is anything in my right boob, I think after the news I had on Monday nothing could be worse but I want to prepare myself....so hard not to keep thinking about worse case scenario and yet so bloody unhelpful!! I'm also finding it really hard to deal with other people's responses when I tell them, I know they come with the best intentions but they get it so wrong sometimes! X❤ ... View more

Thanks Saskia, I'm guessing if I can't see a red envelope I don't have any private messages?   Thanks ... View more

Thanks Shi I already feel overwhelmed by the amount of support and care I have been shown! I have a call with a lady from the "someone like me" programme this morning....looking forward to meeting a new friend The nurses from the helpline have been totally amazing. A lady called Eve talked me out of bed on Tuesday morning I just didn't feel there was anything worth getting up for. She helped me make a plan for the day just to get me through it and by Wed morning I felt able to go back to work. I just have to keep reminding myself to take one step at a time. x ... View more

Thanks Mai, I know this sounds weird but I am actually rather looking forward to getting treatment plan ...I think it will make me feel more in control! I am learning (rather slowly) to try and take one day at a time and to deal with each thing as it comes rather than jumping ahead and wanting answers for everything. MRI tonight so fingers crossed they won't find anything in my right breast but if they do I now know I have the strength to deal with it. X   Name is Sara btw. x ... View more

Hi Mai7   Yes that explains exactly how I feel! I've been a total mess over the last couple of days but thanks to the patience and advice from the breast care nurses I have been able to get a bit more perspective, they are truly wonderful❤. I am so pleased to hear you are doing well, I think the one big positive thing that will come out of this is meeting so many positive, fabulous women😘.  ... View more

Thank you Shi:heart and yes I am old enough to remember the Genaration Game....I always wanted that cuddly toy:smileyvery-happy. I will try out the "someone like me" option. I took your advice and called the helpline, the nurse I spoke to was really amazing and helped to give me some perspective on things. I think I will feel better when I know what my treatmnet plan is, I can deal with whatever comes....it's just the not knowing that is so hard, i know there are so many women out there that have been where I am now....sending out so much love to them.   Sara xx ... View more