Breast Cancer Care Forum

Thank you so much, I hope.you're well. Have surgery booked for 10th Jan. Really want to push for a double I'm hoping they'll allow it. I don't see the consultant until the 7th xx ... View more

Hi Evie thank you so much,  Im really struggling to be brave at the minute. Not showing anyone else its affected me as my husband is in bits. I'm trying to hide it from the kids for as long as humanly possible. So praying i don't need chemo.  How do you all cope and be so brave.  I got from forgetting to planning my funeral in my head  Xxx ... View more

Aww I'm thinking of you, sending you my love. I hope chemo goes well  Did you find out it was triple negative after the surgery or before?  I haven't been told any names or grades as of yet, she said we can discuss everything the beginning of January.  Xxx   ... View more

Hi Evie, I've just stumbled upon you're response from reading through i can't even count how many messages on the forum. I was only diagnosed yesterday So all very new. I'm having a masectomy done the second week in January. Unsure of what treatment afterwards as they need to wait for pathology. I've been offered the implant or where they take the muscle from my back to make a breast. Gutted i could not opt for the tummy tuck option 😂 im not big enough but i can soon sort that in four weeks. Im 35 but theyve explained it wont look very natural. To be honest i don't care as long as i live to watch my three children grow   Sorry I'm rambling, grow was your journey, recovery etc and is there a massive difference in the pair. I'm going to try not to tell the kids for long as i can do would it be extremely un hideable.  Thank you for listening  Chel xxx ... View more

Hi thank you so much for your reply, 5 weeks in, I'm sorry you're having to go tjrougthrough this also.  Im just feeling about numb and trying to stick my head in the sand. I don't know if that's the right way or not.  They've said i Need a Masectomy but because of the holidays it'll be in the middle of January. They don't know if I'll need chemo until all tissue has been removed and sent to pathology . I've asked for both removed but have to wait for my genetic testing to come back. We have bracca1 gene within my close family. How are you after your news do you have a plan in place?  Xxx @Dj43 wrote: Oh I'm sorry it wasn't the news you were hoping for.xx This is the worst time, you Will be completely overwhelmed by it all but just know that you will get through this difficult period, you will get a plan in place with your team and start to feel like things aren't so dark. I'm only 5 weeks from diagnosis myself and already feeling much more positive.   Feel free to message me at any time. You'll find lots of support on here, post on the newly diagnosed forum and you'll find lots of people at the same stage in the game as you are. Have they discussed the plan with you yet, surgery or treatment first??   ... View more

Hi just to update i got diagnosed todat with cancer xx ... View more

Thankyou so much,  I hope chemo goes the best it can be.  I really will 😘😘 Xxx @Dj43 wrote: Everyone's treatment will be different based on what type of breast cancer, they may opt for chemo first to reduce the tumour (s) then surgery either lumpectomy or mastectomy. In my case I had lumpectomy first and I start chemo this week. It's entirely up to you who you tell and how much you tell them.  For me, I have a 19yr old and a 13yr old and I was very anxious about telling them and having them upset and worried. I waited a week to tell them and couldn't eat for the worry. Once I told them I felt much better and they handled it much better than I expected. Wait to see what your biopsy results are first, as I say. One step at a time is all you can do or you'll drive yourself crazy with worry. Let me know how you get on.xx   ... View more

Thank you so much, sorry for the late reply. I somehow never recieved a notification.  Your advice is right anything better is a bonus. I just hoped maybe they had to tell everyone the worst case scenario. I suppose they see it daily and know what is normal and not.  I really hope toureyou're well after your diagnosis and treatment is going well. I only have a couple more days to wait. Trying to keep busy.  Im curious to know if it is BC what is the next step? Ie more tests or treatment. If it is BC how easily do you think i can hide it from others? Is it even possible. I'd rather not worry anyone. Especially with christmas approaching  Lots of love xxx ... View more