Breast Cancer Now Forum

Prem, I hear you. You are hurting and that's normal. I have found that blogging has helped me to process everything I was and still am feeling through my investigations, diagnosis and treatment. Once the treatment is over you can feel very abandoned but also guilty for not feeling on top of the world. Add to that the Covid-19 restrictions and loneliness and isolation and bam, it really knocks you for six. You don't feel like a warrior or a survivor. You're just on the floor feeling battered and deflated. But you are still here, sister, and you will feel better with time. Cry as much as you need to. Then dry your eyes and notice how green the grass is and absorb the autumn colours. Just be for a bit. I find posting on forums like this helps too. Do you have children? I don't and some time ago I joined a support group for childless women which has helped me more than I could ever have imagined. Let me know if you want the details. Sending much love to you, Marisa x ... View more

Hi HEW how are you doing? I’m really struggling at the moment, especially as all the cancer help lines and the breast nurse phones are closed over the weekend.  sending hugs, Marisa ... View more

Oh Daffodil63, to be left in limbo like that must be heartbreaking. Have you got some support? I'm not surprised your confidence and self esteem are rock bottom. Sending you love and hugs, Marisa ... View more

I'm so sorry that you are going through this, HEW. My situation is a little similar. I was diagnosed with widespread, albeit low grade,  DCIS in L breast, a week ago and the wait for mastectomy is indefinite. It totally sucks! I'm older than you (47) and have no kids (horrible experience with infertility, failed IVF and failed adoption, to which I now have to add the grief of losing my breast!) but the uncertainty is killing me. I feel selfish wishing I could get my surgery planned when there are people dying of Covid-19 but no one seems to understand the impact of just stopping "routine" operations. The effect on me psychologically is devastating. If you want a chat, I'm here! Sending hugs, Marisa ... View more