Breast Cancer Now Forum

I think @delly's suggestion about printing copies off and distributing them to your family is a great idea! You might also want to include some information about TNBC. Only about 15% of breast cancers are triple negative, and its treatment at present differs from other breast cancer types because there aren't (as yet) any long term targeted treatments for this type of BC. That in itself is a bit of a worry for those of us who were given the TNBC diagnosis. Especially when we might have met others along our treatment path who are still having some sort of treatment (tamoxifen for instance) after the Chemo and radiotherapy has ended. Its a very distressing and worrying time during treatment and also after when our minds are still trying to come to terms with it all. Personally I focused on getting through the physical side of the treatment and when that ended and I didn't have the endless appointments with the medical professionals, it seemed odd and I felt a bit adrift. Precisely the time you need extra support from family and friends. The Breast Care Nurses were brilliant and this forum is great as people are so supportive of each other. Please just chat and offload when you need to. But it is definitely worth trying to educate your family like @delly suggested and let them know just how difficult it is for you to cope with what you're going through/have been through. Stay strong lovely. Everyone on here is there for you. xxHugs ... View more

Lipsimium, I'm not surprised that you feel like you do! The behaviour exhibited by your family throughout your treatment of this horrible disease seems cruel. And, whilst I understand that family members can find the cancer diagnosis of a loved one difficult and don't always know how best to support or respond they should also be able to have enough empathy with you to imagine how you feel(in my humble opinion) I found that people can be very selfish. People I thought would check in(some family members and friends) didn't and when they did still wanted me to sympathise with them about their 'woes' I had a really supportive husband and support and messages from people I ever expected which was lovely. You seem to have a very supportive partner so that's  fantastic and no wonder he is cross about the  way you are being treated - he wants to protect you! I think sometimes we just have to accept  family and friends don't act as we'd  like and if their actions hurts us then maybe for our own sanity we have to distance ourselves either  mentally or physically until we have the strength to deal with it or not as the case may be. You deserve more! I hope you can find some peace, the extra stress is not conducive t your overall healing  process. My thoughts are with you. Hugs xx ... View more

I hope you are ok and that everything was fine. I can imagine your anxiety just going for your 1st mammogram after a year but to then to be recalled again for further tests must just have been awful for you. I have my 1st yearly mammogram coming up on the 1st September and to say I'm a little anxious would be an understatement. I had triple negative breast cancer so know there is a higher chance of it recurring  in the first 3 years which is playing on my mind.  ... View more