Breast Cancer Now Forum

Hi,  yes I understand having that doubt but they are made using really soft wool. My friend questioned the wool in a swimming pool but you know what? It was fine as it’s lightweight wool that doesn’t absorb too much. As they are free you have nothing to lose if you don’t get on with it as opposed to buying anything else so it is worth a try xx let me know how you get on xxx  ... View more

Hi, like the others have mentioned the knitted knocker is a great middle ground. I had my mastectomy a year ago  and struggled to wear anything. Now I have a new job in a school and need to have something got as want to avoid the BC and no boob question. The prosthesis comes out rarely but the knitted one is great. As they are a charity they are free so great to try if don’t want to/ can’t afford others.  In fact I have just had an aqua one delivered this week so I can swim again. My amoena  swimwear has a formed cup which looks silly left empty 😂   hope you find something that works for you xxx  ... View more

Good morning, I am so pleased that you had a positive outcome. Have a lovely day  💖 ... View more

Hi, of course i do not mind. 😊  Mine was across the top of the breast, just above the nipple areola. It was the smallest of lumps that i had missed it. The nurse practitioner at my GP surgery found it. Even the consultant on my first consultation couldn't locate it. Suffice to say i gave the nurse practitioner a massive hug when i saw her a few months later.    ... View more

Hi, As the others say, i am sorry that this has happened, and yes it is unfortunately one of the fallouts of diagnosis. Those you hope will stand up, fall by the wayside, others step up and become friends for life. You may find that it is because of the age, i was 37 when diagnosed and i think it shocks those around you and makes them think holy **** that could be me, but that doesn't take away from the fact you need your  friends at this time.  Speaking to others in my support group, this will happen no matter the age, type of cancer, or the type of friends you have. In a way it helps you realise how you want your relationships to go in the future, and as my dad told me, means that you are no longer wasting your precious moments with those who don't deserve you.  My amazing person is a friend who has literally lost her mum to BC the week i was diagnosed. I didn't want to burden her in her time of grief, yet she was there every step of the way, and is now one of my closest friends. Others in our group, i have drifted away from, and i honestly don't miss them.... make of that what you will.  Good luck with everything  ❤️   ... View more

Hi, I was in the same place this time last year, same age too.  A complete fluke find and I unluckily ended up in that small % where is was nasty. Firstly, try to be positive. It is hard, and i completely get it. I suffer from anxiety anyway so this just turned it up to deathcon1! A way to get through is just take it one step at a time. I find that my thoughts run away with themselves so i literally just worked as far up to what came next. This stopped those pesky thoughts from taking me away. Also.... keep busy. Again this works as you have to carry on. Being a human you want to curl up in a ball and make it all go away... being a mum, you have to still make the dinner, engage in conversations your children think are really important. We went out on lots of days out, these gave me some positive memories from that horrible time, and also kept me from breaking down.  The good news is that there is always a treatment and although your mind will go to worst case, remember it can have good outcomes too. I am one boob lighter but now healthy and clear.  😚 The clinic team will be supportive and amazing with you no matter what the outcome, try to be kind to yourself. Good luck with your appointment  ❤️ ... View more

Hi, I completely get what you are saying and like @robingoch said, it was sooo fast that I too almost didn't have time to stop and think.  I felt that i was the pebble that was dropped in the water, then had to manage the ripple effect on those around me. Often i ended up comforting those who were told my news as opposed to the other way around.  9 months on and i am starting to hit the anniversary dates. I still don't think i have fully processed it and am almost waiting for the kablam! moment when i expect i will be a puddling mess of tears....... those closest to me can see when i start to retreat into my own head and are concerned when this happens, and i think you end up shielding your emotions to protect those around you.  Recently I had a wobble and it took me two weeks to admit to those around me that I was having a pain in my affected side. I honestly think i didn't tell them sooner as i didn't want to worry them more than I had to. Ended up back at the clinic and was checked out and all good, but having to again comfort my partner and parents afterwards made me realise that none of this is about just me, so you do put on the "i'm fine" face more than you would like to.  The words of wisdom i keep hearing are be kind to yourself and give yourself time. We all will handle it in our own way and when the time is right. Don't try to compare yourself to others as our situations are all so individual and unique, as were our diagnosis and treatments, just be with how you feel at the moment and don't try to over analyse what you should be feeling, but go with how you feel now.    Much love Vix  ❤️ ... View more

Hi,  I had my left sided mastectomy in October last year. As with the others, i still get the nerve pain and the tingling sensations. I recently went back the the BCN team for a check as had arm pain and was told that it was still early days. My nurse said it can take 18-24 months for the internal repair to your muscles and nerves to take place. Be kind to yourself and take things slow. I am learning to not do those things that will aggravate it (carrying the laundry 😂  ). Keep up the exercises that you are given on the leaflet that Breast Cancer now suggest. Alternatively there is an app called BWell that offers exercises, videos and also reminders to do them (i am notorious for forgetting so this has helped me loads!). Also rest. lots of rest. If you do something that is strenuous rest after. Use a pillow or a cushion to support the area. I was bought the heart cushion from Cancer research shop which is pretty and fits into the armpit really nicely. Its my new best friend. Good luck with everything  ❤️ ... View more