Morning Mermaid79 - I’m sure all the hugs from your lovely boys helped loads yesterday, and sometimes it’s good to let it out rather than bottle it all up. I think the feelings after diagnosis are a real rollercoaster, very up and down, and you may well be experiencing the after effects of 2 general anaesthetic. Plus it takes time to get your mind around everything that has just happened. It’s great that you have a good family/friends support team, but like you I found it enormously helpful to chat on here to others going through treatment or who had already finished, as they knew exactly what I meant without me having to explain. Some friends/family assumed that once I had finished treatment that I was “mended” and over it, a bit like having a broken leg that mends. I know they mean well, and just want to help us move on, but it’s useful to have this forum too. The test you refer to is called the Oncotype test, where a sample is sent to America and they can see whether chemotherapy will be of any benefit to you. Fingers crossed you won’t need it, but if you do then as you say what will be will be and there are monthly chemo groups on here who will help you get through it. I had chemo so will also be happy to help you. But let’s not even go there for now, best to continue to take one day at a time. Much more fun is to start planning fun things for the summer with your boys, and don’t worry about not doing much with them this half term. Just being there for them, chatting, hugging is most important. Sometimes as mums we put additional pressure on ourselves. I hope each day you feel better and that the swelling goes down quickly, I can’t remember how long mine took. Please keep chatting on here when you want/need - we all just “get it”, it’s also anonymous so you can offload without any fear of judgment. Thank you for your kind weekend wishes too. Evie xx
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