Hello Whiskey, so sorry to hear that you have had to join us, but its good that you have found this site, welcome. There are lots of different topics so investigate them when you have time. Telling people is almost as bad as hearing the news from the medics, but its easier once you have told them. I told a gay male friend that I had found a lump, and then went to my first consultation alone. Then I told my two closest friends. That was it until after it was all over and that I'd had a couple of extra hospital stays. Then I told my family. I found it easier to tell those three close friends as they were less emotional than family were. I couldn't deal with emotion, I needed to get my own head round it first. After I had told my family I started telling others on an individual basis. I guess you will find a way, but you don't have to tell everyone at once. When you feel comfortable about talking about it, you will know when the time is right. Don't rush into anything, you have enough to cope with, but you may feel better sharing it with at least one or two friends. I still have friends who I havent told because I dont see them that often. Those I have told, even my close friends, don't want to talk about it, however, I have got used to it now. If I mention it th ey refer to it as the big C which I hate, it's cancer, but I dont correct them, I guess its their way if coping with it. Try not to feel alone in this, you will be assigned a breast cancer nurse and once your treatment starts you will meet up with others going through this. Sending you love and hugs. Hang in there, you are strong and you can fight this, think positive thoughts. ❤️
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