I agree, the period after diagnosis is terrible.......................i have never felt so scared and so alone in my life (and I'm married and have a large family, and yet I really did feel very alone with this).I've really bounced from.'well, they've obviously made a mistake'...........to 'oh dear lord, this is it, i'm going to die'......and off the walls again with ' he'll never look at me and want to love me again'..............and then there were the nightmares, involving my operation (still yet to come, but i have the date).........now, the only way I have been able to cope is to talk and talk and then talk again about it.I hit the internet searching for answers and I have spoken at length with 'my' surgeon (probably had at least 2 hours so far) and 'my' nurse is there, whenever i need her, and no matter how silly my questions seem. I couldn't sleep for fear and i ended up asking my gp (lovely, lovely chap who again allows me to talk this through for as long as i need) for a very mild sleeping pill, which has really made a difference.Good sleep makes the world a different place for me. And all the doctors and nurses have been completely honest, open and upfront with me.If I ask something, I get an immediate answer and reasons why something can, or cannot be done...............all these things have helped to make me feel much more in control of what is happening.I told them I don't want to end up feeling like i am ''the right breast carcinoma in bed 6', i want always to be treated as a person, to whom this really matters.And I feel truly lucky to have found a surgeon and nurse to whom it seems to matter too.people who seem to see me as a woman and are keen that i still feel like a WHOLE woman when this is over, whatever happens.I'd hope it's like this for everyone, but i know it isn't, which makes it even more of a blessing that I am being treated so well.I even threw a wobbler over having my boobs photographed by the hospital's medical photographer (I know,maybe silly, but it matters to me...), so my surgeon has said he will do them himself, which i'm much more comfortable with.So, my advice, for what it's worth, is to ask those questions, challenge anything you don't understand/like the sound of/or are worried about.As to the smoking and drinking, i am in no position to judge you on that, I'm lucky that I don't smoke, and I'm not a fan of alcohol particularly, (though the odd glass of red once in a while is ok!)........but maybe if you could cut back on them, it would help?? So many of the ladies on here seem so brave and so practical that I am certain you will find lots of support and comfort, as well as good advice whenever you ask for it.It still comes down to this: if I want to live (and I DO, no question!), then this is something to get through as quickly as I can, so i can get on with living!! Good luck x
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Great thread! I am also overwieght since treatment, gained another stone! Was overweight before and am interested in observations that this can cause recurrence.
I have a theory about my BC. Could be away with the fairies, but will run it past you anyway.
I was given the Mirena coil 8 years ago because I couldn't have hysterectomy due to PE and DVT. Within a very short time started getting cysts on a regular basis. Didn't have periods from begining of coil being fitted, they also produce hormones?
I asked if there was a link between the cysts and the coil but it was brushed away!!
If anyone has any information would love to here from you.
Meanwhile, I think it takes a really strong person to be able to change their lifestyle/diet as well as coping with everything else. I finished treatments/hysterectomy in July this year and started Arimidex side effects are so awful I am rarely going out ,as for exercise, walking is a problem, ther is'nt much of me that doesn't hurt. I hope this will improve but to be fair it has got worse each day.
I have ordered a swimming costume to start getting myself motivated ans someone suggested yoga on one of the forums but I feel like my bones will break if I try and get in the LOTUS POSITION!!!!!
Sorry for going on
Have you got a BC group near you that you could join. I have been to our local one quite recently and believe me the support is excellent, because everyone is in the same boat I feel it will boost your self esteem just feeling like you are part of a 'family'.
Love to all
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When I told my daughter(24) and son (14) they both reacted differently. My son was angry and punched the tv!!! After the initial shock, I answered any questions he had as truthfully as I could but told him I wanted him to carry on his life as normal, which he has, although he is still angry.
My daughter felt that she couldn't break down because I didn't. This led to problems later on for her. She also works at the hospital where I was diagnosed in the histology dept. which made it worse.
No one knows how they will react to news like this and I dont believe there is a 'normal'. Try to cope one day at a time and if you need to talk to someone you could always try your moms Breast Cancer Nurse, they will know all about your mom, websites are great but can be misleading.
Love Elaine xxx
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