Thanks for the replies. My aunt is in Glasgow, if I go up there can they do the testing on both of us?
I am going to contact my aunt as I can't go on living in fear. I am running out of time as she is not getting any younger. She also has a couple of daughters, who would maybe like to know if they have the gene.
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My mom died 11 years ago from Cancer. She had it first of all in her left breast which she was treated for and given the all clear. Then a number of years later it had manifested in her liver. She was treated for that too and yet again given the all clear. Then a few weeks before she died it had reached her bones and her brain. In some ways there was a peace when she died as we knew she no longer suffered. She was only 53 years old. The baby of her family.
I am now left wondering if I have the gene. I don't want to have children if I can pass this on to them. My auntie is sure their mother had it too,but in Ireland in those days they wouldn't have known what it was. My auntie is also sure that my mother taking HRT didn't help. I have a relative in Scotland who also had BC,my moms sister, but I feel I can't ask her to give a sample to see if the cancer is genetic. Is there another way to find out?
It is like a ticking time bomb, I just don't know if and/or when it will go off. I am the only girl in my immediate family so have no one to talk to. My boyfriend lost a close friend of his to BC a few years ago, She was only 28. He looked after her after she had her treatment etc. Took her back to his place and nursed her. I don't think he would be able to do that again if I was to get sick. He won't talk about her to me.
I have just turned 30 and feel I have a lot of choices to make sooner rather then later, but I'm just so confused about it all.
Thanks for reading this.
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